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DH ate all the school snacks and I am ranting *&!@!

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StrawberrySundaes · 20/07/2025 10:54

Not really an AIBU but I just needed to vent.

Went to make the school lunch and discovered (yet again) that DH has eaten all the snacks that I use for DS’s lunch. These were purchased on Thursday and have all gone by Sunday (not sure when but probably by Saturday lunchtime). He has form for this, usually every few months but it seriously annoys me when I don’t find out about it until Sunday evening after the shops have closed. Occasionally DH will admit he’s done it but I have enough time to replace the eaten items…. But not tonight.

It’ll be things like my son’s favourite biscuits, or those small snack size packets of crisps (like a box of 25) etc.

For reference my snack items I have to hide but my son’s things are usually safe. Feeling annoyed and want to buy a padlock and a f off sign.

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OneCalmFish · 20/07/2025 13:41

TwattyMcFuckFace · 20/07/2025 13:35

Clue or no clue as you put it, it's the silly fuss that's laughable.

OP posts on a UK website, doesn't mention she isn't in the UK and when some people assumed she was, apparently that's their fault for not noticing the time stamp 🤣

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It’s mumsnet.com not .uk some of us pointed out the post references it being Sunday night packing a kids school lunch and too late to shop. It’s the same as ppl pointing out to me that I’d said schools are over for hols (here in Scotland) they’re not everywhere else in Uk, ppl were right to correct me. I’m not offended they did

SaintGermain · 20/07/2025 13:35

He’s an adult. If he has an eating disorder that overrides his responsibility towards his child and respect for his wife, then he should seek help to address the problem.

Personally, I think he’s just a greedy, thoughtless git.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 20/07/2025 13:35

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 20/07/2025 13:05

She said it was Sunday evening, MN time stamped it as mid morning, that wasn't enough of a clue for you?

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Clue or no clue as you put it, it's the silly fuss that's laughable.

OP posts on a UK website, doesn't mention she isn't in the UK and when some people assumed she was, apparently that's their fault for not noticing the time stamp 🤣

DearDenimEagle · 20/07/2025 13:31

Glad I live with 24 hour shops…🤗

Postre · 20/07/2025 13:24

It isn't 'tonight' yet. He can go to the supermarket.

Cherrysoup · 20/07/2025 13:24

Drip feed re Dh having food issues and most pp then saying he’s an arsehole (including me!). It’s helpful to know this kind of info in the OP. Don’t know about OP’s area, but we have late opening corner shops, is this UK specific? Are there garages open?

zanahoria · 20/07/2025 13:23

Divorce him

Overwhelmedisanunderstatement · 20/07/2025 13:23

Ugh OP I feel your pain, this happens in my house a LOT. I've resorted to keeping a separate stash in an inconvenient location. So now we have a kids snack drawer, an adult snack drawer and the secret/hard to reach stash. You have to be committed to snack stealing to retrieve them. But seriously doesn't feel like it should need to be like that, it's obvious when things are lunchbox snacks and if you eat the last one you need to either replace it (if you're an adult) or tell the person who shops that you had the last one!

Tigergirl80 · 20/07/2025 13:22

He’s been a greedy fucker. So send him out to replace everything he’s binged on.

Alondra · 20/07/2025 13:19

That a hell of a selfish pig you have as a DH. I'd be fuming and telling him where to go.

AngryBird6122 · 20/07/2025 13:16

My DC are still at school until mid next week.... they are different all over the country let alone another. Why is some people presuming everyone is finished at the same time???? Odd

Dragonflea28 · 20/07/2025 13:07

TwattyMcFuckFace · 20/07/2025 12:45

That's an awful way to have to live.

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It is for all parties concerned but the poster here is dealing with it sensibly I think. Same with alcohol addiction, I guess.

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 20/07/2025 13:05

TwattyMcFuckFace · 20/07/2025 13:01

God, the moaning on here because people assumed someone using a UK chat forum was actually in the UK 🤣

Mountain/Molehill.

Much easier for an OP to pop that tiny bit of info into an opening post.

And if they choose not to, that's not the big deal some people are making it into here either 🤷‍♂️

She said it was Sunday evening, MN time stamped it as mid morning, that wasn't enough of a clue for you?

TheyFuckYouUpYourMamAndDad · 20/07/2025 13:04

OneCalmFish · 20/07/2025 11:09

Because it’s Sunday morning here and schools are closed for Summer holidays x

Not all schools are shut - I’ve still got a week to go! 😩

TwattyMcFuckFace · 20/07/2025 13:01

God, the moaning on here because people assumed someone using a UK chat forum was actually in the UK 🤣

Mountain/Molehill.

Much easier for an OP to pop that tiny bit of info into an opening post.

And if they choose not to, that's not the big deal some people are making it into here either 🤷‍♂️

CoffeeLatte25 · 20/07/2025 12:59

Sunshineismyfavourite · 20/07/2025 11:05

He is being a selfish dick. I would 100% buy a box with a lockable lid and put the snacks in there in future.

Absolutely no way I'd live with an adult where this would be necessary.

CoffeeLatte25 · 20/07/2025 12:58

latetothefisting · 20/07/2025 12:57

I was waiting to see who would be the first to say this (although the "supermarkets are open!" posters are almost as bad...

MN 'I am literally incapable of envisioning that anyone else's life is the slightest bit different to my own,' phenomenon strikes again.

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I wish I'd seen your post first!!

CoffeeLatte25 · 20/07/2025 12:58

Petitchat · 20/07/2025 11:05

I thought schools were closed for the holidays?

Well, you do realise other countries exist? Given it's Sunday night where she is then I assumed Aus/NZ (and another poster has said she's in Brisbane (Australia)) and school holidays are at different times.

that aside, some schools in England have finished, some are not finishing until this week.

latetothefisting · 20/07/2025 12:57

Petitchat · 20/07/2025 11:05

I thought schools were closed for the holidays?

I was waiting to see who would be the first to say this (although the "supermarkets are open!" posters are almost as bad...

MN 'I am literally incapable of envisioning that anyone else's life is the slightest bit different to my own,' phenomenon strikes again.

Waterweight · 20/07/2025 12:52

Tuck shop tomorrow or he can run to the servo

viques · 20/07/2025 12:51

Make sure you tell DS exactly why he hasn’t got any of his lunchtime goodies. I wouldn’t be replacing them, and would be reminding DS every day why they weren’t there.

Grammarnut · 20/07/2025 12:47

He needs to grow up. Get a padlock. Tell DH to buy own snacks.

Spaghettihair · 20/07/2025 12:46

Make it his problem every time. My DC get their own snack out the fridge (cheesestrings) and if there are none available they’re sent to their father to ask what they should bring in (with three minutes to departure, typically)

Happened twice in winter term and hasn’t happened again all year.

Helpwithdivorce · 20/07/2025 12:46

DancingDucks · 20/07/2025 12:17

Not all, we've got another two days to go.

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We have another full week. Northern England

Thedoorisalwaysopen · 20/07/2025 12:46

I would stop having things like this in the house. Let's be honest, children shouldn't be taking biscuits and crisps to school. They are far better having healthier options. If DH wants to stuff his face with crap, let him buy the crap.

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