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To think the CEO caught at Coldplay resigning is a bit of a performance

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CEOhno · 20/07/2025 08:41

I just... don't get it. I'm not condoning affairs but people do it all the time. I don't understand why they had to resign. Their personal lives deserve to blow up, of course, but it's a bit puritanical and false to pretend that, as a society, we care this much.

It doesn't affect their ability to do their jobs, if the cameras hadn't caught them there wouldn't have been nearly as much fuss. I hate the social media panic and showmanship.

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PuppyMonkey · 20/07/2025 09:19

I’m guessing one of them will do Strictly or I’m a Celebrity next. Hmm

VanCleefArpels · 20/07/2025 09:18

spoonbillstretford · 20/07/2025 08:47

I think there was misconduct involved also as he was negotiating her settlement agreement. But yes, on the face of it, two people having an affair would not be a sackable matter in the UK unless there was actual misconduct involved.

Not sure about that - many companies have policies re staff members in a relationship, non compliance with a policy can lead to disciplinary proceedings at the very least.

Clearinguptheclutter · 20/07/2025 09:17

ChandrilanDiscoDroid · 20/07/2025 09:11

To fuck a member of his own board, someone who reported to him, is a massive ethical violation and reputational risk and speaks very poorly of his judgement. That would be true even if they were both single. And if they were sleeping together when he recruited her, even worse.

If he'd been having an affair with Joanna Bloggs who worked for Screwfix, it's very unlikely it would have affected his job at all. It's not the infidelity. It's the ginormous conflict of interest and power issues.

Nailed it

as for her, she is head of hr so her job involves making sure staff uphold the company’s values. It is curious that he had had much more negative attention than her. Not sure what the situation is with her right now.

JudgeJ · 20/07/2025 09:17

Star81 · 20/07/2025 08:42

The amount of bad publicity for the company they work for makes their positions untenable.

I assume the woman hasn't resigned, odd that! She didn't look unhappy with his attentions.

cimena · 20/07/2025 09:16

Well someone had to go, you absolutely cannot have the head of HR shagging the CEO.

On top of that, the ‘international laughing stock’ bit wouldn’t have helped, tho I suspect his payout will have been higher in exchange for going quietly.

Had it only come out privately I imagine she’d have been the one to go so I’m fine with it. The world needs a laugh now and then and attention will move on

CEOhno · 20/07/2025 09:16

toomuchfaff · 20/07/2025 09:01

Morality clauses and disrepute...

thats why.

I think this is probably the sticking point for me. Affairs are devastating to the families involved, of course, but I think people are a bit holier than thou proclaiming 'morality' and disrepute, when in this day and age there are many worse things than total strangers committing adultery. It all feels a bit witchhunty.

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cocoonscriticupgrading · 20/07/2025 09:15

If you can’t do the time, don’t do the crime. We don’t need to work towards the lowest common denominator as the base level of social acceptability. It is all about personal integrity and both of them have none.

They were caught, bang to rights, in the most spectacular way bringing themselves and the company they work for, into disrepute. They are the only ones to blame for their downfall …not Coldplay, not the person behind the camera, just them and their duplicitous affair. Sadly, their ‘oops! moment’ will live forever.

The only people that have my sympathy are the innocent ones caught in the fall out.

JSMill · 20/07/2025 09:15

user482904 · 20/07/2025 09:10

Of course the memes and media frenzy has been out of control but I have no sympathy for him. I am a company director and I am fully aware of my responsibilities to not only conduct myself in an ethical manner but also not to bring disrepute to my company.

This is why I always watch what I drink on work nights out and am very careful about how I behave. The fact he was shagging the head of HR makes it even more laughable.

Sorry but with power comes responsibility and if you cant conduct yourself appropriately then why the heck should anyone trust you in the company?

100% agree with this.

ChandrilanDiscoDroid · 20/07/2025 09:15

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🤔 Yes, the most salient and critical element here is definitely how fuckable the woman concerned - the board's only female member - is.

Whatado · 20/07/2025 09:14

An affair between a CEO & a head of HR should also lead to the resignation of both.

There is 100% conflict of interests, never mind the fact that both are in literally the two key roles in the company that have the ability to bring harm to the company, their shareholders and staff.

Having an affair shows you lack ethics, you are capable of deciept, manipulation, good decision making.

Then take into account this company was getting ready to go public. The amount of reputational harm it has caused both of their positions are completely untenable.

If you are stupid enough to go to a public event with your side piece then neither of them are clever enough to hold that level of responsibility.

Dominoeffecter · 20/07/2025 09:13

My husband would NEVER go to a Coldplay concert.

657904I · 20/07/2025 09:13

He has a history of being a CEO at startups and draining them to nothing, so I doubt he would have stayed with this company long term regardless. He has enough personal wealth to move on from this.

DarkForces · 20/07/2025 09:12

CEOhno · 20/07/2025 09:07

Thanks for everyone's replies. I think I can see the situation about there being rules in place to avoid abuse of power and potential unfair preferential treatment, although that could happen anyway, sleeping together or not. But even then I think this is out of hand.

The negative press for the company is sort of the same thing I don't understand. It feels a bit like people are out with pitchforks and moral outrage when really, if a company delivers the product or service it's promised who actually gives a fuck about who the employees are sleeping with?

I think what sits most uncomfortably with me is the fact that their lives have been ripped apart over this - so much more than an affair 'usually' does. It's on an international, unlimited and unrestrained way - that seems wildly and atrociously unfair. But then, I have a problem with that in general - the internet's ability to destroy people's lives without blinking.

So in order to reduce publicity about it you started a thread on mumsnet that's one of the places that hasn't filled itself with the type of content you're criticising? Have you reflected on why you did that? I mean it won't actually make an iota of difference apart from add to the algorithm that's driving the creation of the content.

Middlechild3 · 20/07/2025 09:12

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C'mon nasty, connection is about more than looks!

ChandrilanDiscoDroid · 20/07/2025 09:11

To fuck a member of his own board, someone who reported to him, is a massive ethical violation and reputational risk and speaks very poorly of his judgement. That would be true even if they were both single. And if they were sleeping together when he recruited her, even worse.

If he'd been having an affair with Joanna Bloggs who worked for Screwfix, it's very unlikely it would have affected his job at all. It's not the infidelity. It's the ginormous conflict of interest and power issues.

HelpMeUnpickThis · 20/07/2025 09:11

theevidencesofar · 20/07/2025 09:01

Many companies will have a policy which warns against behaviour which might bring the ‘company into disrepute’. This would govern behaviour inside and outside of work. My company certainly does. If they’d had an affair and it was a private issue, chances are the company would have given a warning and possibly moved them sideways into roles where there was less direct contact. However their actions have caused the company to become a global laughing stock, headline news and memes on every social media platform. That’s definitely going to fall into ‘bringing the company into disrepute’.

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@theevidencesofar thank you. Succinctly put.

I am so surprised @CEOhno you cant see this. It’s a listed company.

She was head of HR!

Of course they both need to resign.

Middlechild3 · 20/07/2025 09:10

My friend was in Australia a while back and a pair having an affair had gone to the coastline and walked across one of those coastal arches to a coastal stack. Whilst they were there the archway path crumbled to the extent they had no way back and had to call emergency services be rescued lol. Caught out - all over the news!

user482904 · 20/07/2025 09:10

Of course the memes and media frenzy has been out of control but I have no sympathy for him. I am a company director and I am fully aware of my responsibilities to not only conduct myself in an ethical manner but also not to bring disrepute to my company.

This is why I always watch what I drink on work nights out and am very careful about how I behave. The fact he was shagging the head of HR makes it even more laughable.

Sorry but with power comes responsibility and if you cant conduct yourself appropriately then why the heck should anyone trust you in the company?

nomas · 20/07/2025 09:10

CEOhno · 20/07/2025 09:07

Thanks for everyone's replies. I think I can see the situation about there being rules in place to avoid abuse of power and potential unfair preferential treatment, although that could happen anyway, sleeping together or not. But even then I think this is out of hand.

The negative press for the company is sort of the same thing I don't understand. It feels a bit like people are out with pitchforks and moral outrage when really, if a company delivers the product or service it's promised who actually gives a fuck about who the employees are sleeping with?

I think what sits most uncomfortably with me is the fact that their lives have been ripped apart over this - so much more than an affair 'usually' does. It's on an international, unlimited and unrestrained way - that seems wildly and atrociously unfair. But then, I have a problem with that in general - the internet's ability to destroy people's lives without blinking.

I don’t think you’ve read what people have been explaining.

Muffinmam · 20/07/2025 09:10

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RevolutionHere · 20/07/2025 09:08

his poor wife

CEOhno · 20/07/2025 09:07

Thanks for everyone's replies. I think I can see the situation about there being rules in place to avoid abuse of power and potential unfair preferential treatment, although that could happen anyway, sleeping together or not. But even then I think this is out of hand.

The negative press for the company is sort of the same thing I don't understand. It feels a bit like people are out with pitchforks and moral outrage when really, if a company delivers the product or service it's promised who actually gives a fuck about who the employees are sleeping with?

I think what sits most uncomfortably with me is the fact that their lives have been ripped apart over this - so much more than an affair 'usually' does. It's on an international, unlimited and unrestrained way - that seems wildly and atrociously unfair. But then, I have a problem with that in general - the internet's ability to destroy people's lives without blinking.

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EBearhug · 20/07/2025 09:06

Every American company I've worked at has had something in the code of conduct about no relationships - the last one barred relationships between people at different levels of the same reporting line. So I couldn't date my director, but I could have dated the finance director or the marketing director. This would mean neither of us could be accused of favouritism or blackmail or other pressure.

As CEO, everyone ultimately is in your reporting line, so if you're going to have an affair, you need to do it outside if the company. In doing it with someone who is head of one of the company departments, it raises questions about how fair was her recruitment and then treatment once she was there, and would she allow him to do things that otherwise wouldn't be okay. Once you're at that level, you should be aware of how things would look if it came out, and you shoukd be aware that these things very often do come out, especially if you're cuddling up in public.

JMSA · 20/07/2025 09:06

deeahgwitch · 20/07/2025 09:04

The media should be focusing on more important matters.
Many parts of the world are in crisis and this is making news. 🙄

Agreed but people love something that makes them feel better about their own lives. And if it happens to be a rich guy who’s brought down, all the better!

PollyBell · 20/07/2025 09:05

Meadowfinch · 20/07/2025 08:59

He was CEO, the head of the company and he has been proved publicly and irrefutably to be dishonest.

Why would you choose to deal with a dishonest man ?

If his committing fraud or employye illegal immigrants or underpaying employees or fiddling taxes sure having an affair is no ones else's business, but she was also part of ot it no matter how much people women are excused from using their brain i presume she would also resign as is just as dishonest going by that thinking or is she less dishonest because women are not responsible for their actions?

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