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To think the CEO caught at Coldplay resigning is a bit of a performance

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CEOhno · 20/07/2025 08:41

I just... don't get it. I'm not condoning affairs but people do it all the time. I don't understand why they had to resign. Their personal lives deserve to blow up, of course, but it's a bit puritanical and false to pretend that, as a society, we care this much.

It doesn't affect their ability to do their jobs, if the cameras hadn't caught them there wouldn't have been nearly as much fuss. I hate the social media panic and showmanship.

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NewsdeskJC · 21/07/2025 17:10

Frankly, if i was doing business and I had evidence that the CEO was capable of
A) lying point blank to his nearest and dearest
B) was so arrogant or had such poor judgement to do it in public
C) had concerns as to the impact on the financials of the business.

MidnightMeltdown · 21/07/2025 16:21

ThrowAwayHooray · 21/07/2025 16:08

Apparently his wife has filed for divorce so the cynic in me wonders if he also resigned to minimise the divorce settlement / child support.

He would have been forced out. Not a chance he would be able to keep his job after that. I’m surprised that she hasn’t gone too tbh, she’s the head of HR!

They’re both old and well paid so probably have plenty to take early retirement anyway.

ThrowAwayHooray · 21/07/2025 16:08

Apparently his wife has filed for divorce so the cynic in me wonders if he also resigned to minimise the divorce settlement / child support.

MidnightMeltdown · 21/07/2025 15:05

I dunno, I think if they were both junior it would be different, but when somebody in a leadership position does something like this their reputation is shot. They are supposed to be representing the company and leading by example, and they will never be respected or taken seriously by their colleagues again. They would be the butt of every joke.

whitewineandsun · 21/07/2025 14:44

pourmeadrinkpls · 21/07/2025 08:24

This. Also who is so dumb they go to a concert with their affair partner, someone was bound to see them. He should be resigning for being so dumb

It is that simple Grin

maudelovesharold · 21/07/2025 13:31

Also who is so dumb they go to a concert with their affair partner, someone was bound to see them. He should be resigning for being so dumb

Grin
pourmeadrinkpls · 21/07/2025 08:24

Star81 · 20/07/2025 08:42

The amount of bad publicity for the company they work for makes their positions untenable.

This. Also who is so dumb they go to a concert with their affair partner, someone was bound to see them. He should be resigning for being so dumb

SweetcornFritter · 21/07/2025 08:22

EBearhug · 20/07/2025 20:16

But because you feel that way, it would probably stop you behaving in such a way in the first place, so you wouldn't risk it.

I have said and done things in the past that I am ashamed of (not cheating) that I have either gotten away with of made amends for, that had it become known worldwide and made a mockery of would have made the shame and embarrassment brought on me and my loved ones hard to bear. I don’t even understand why this is a contentious point really, it seems pretty obvious to me that these two people will be feeling beyond terrible right now and the story simply will not go away. The Times has carried a new version of it on the front page of their website for days now. Enough already - if this ends in a tragedy, then what?

EBearhug · 20/07/2025 20:16

SweetcornFritter · 20/07/2025 13:34

No none of those things apply to me but if they did my comment still stands. The worldwide shame and humiliation this has brought not just to me but to my loved ones would make me want to die. You may not feel the same as me but I’m expressing how I would feel about it.

But because you feel that way, it would probably stop you behaving in such a way in the first place, so you wouldn't risk it.

amigafan2003 · 20/07/2025 18:08

oudle · 20/07/2025 11:18

It does affect thier job though - it demonstrates a severe lack of judgement, untrustworthiness, and let alone the inappropriateness of relationships with subordinates and the problematic power dynamics their in.

I work in education with friends & family in the NHS & police. Affairs are rife & not just within but doctors and patients, police & victims/criminals etc. If they all lost their jobs I am not sure we would have enough staff!

Oh well, then that's ok then.

ThatCyanCat · 20/07/2025 17:33

Bigcat25 · 20/07/2025 17:14

A minor point but a ceo is meant to be working resonably hard. Everyone should have a personal life, but if you have a family life and are conducting an affair you may be seen as not being as dedicated as perhaps you should be to your job. That said I read that he and his wife were separated.

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There's really no reason an affair should take up any more of your time and energy than a golf habit. From what I know of golfers, that probably takes more time and money than an OW.

It's wrong to cheat and he can't stay in position with an undisclosed relationship with a subordinate but I think this is a reach.

Bigcat25 · 20/07/2025 17:14

A minor point but a ceo is meant to be working resonably hard. Everyone should have a personal life, but if you have a family life and are conducting an affair you may be seen as not being as dedicated as perhaps you should be to your job. That said I read that he and his wife were separated.

Snorlaxo · 20/07/2025 16:01

spoonbillstretford · 20/07/2025 08:50

I find the "kisscam" idea a bit creepy of Coldplay anyway. Lots of people wouldn't want this kind of attention at an event for good reasons.

I’ve only seen kiss cam at North American sports events. The chosen people often look happy to be chosen unless you’re sat with your sibling

susiedaisy1912 · 20/07/2025 15:37

Timetochillnow · 20/07/2025 08:57

Use of The kiss cam was announced by the lead singer before it started so they took the chance of being shown in it

This.

I can’t abide cheaters, it’s so bloody disrespectful to the families involved. They got what they deserved afraid.

ginasevern · 20/07/2025 15:02

Eight8eight · 20/07/2025 14:06

It's a standard, well-known part of every Coldplay gig.

OK thanks. Obviously I've never been to a Coldplay gig!

ColdTiles · 20/07/2025 14:20

Maybe his wife issued an ultimatum, maybe it's to protect the company, or he wants to make it up with his wife and put distance between himself and this other woman, who knows.
I hope his wife takes him to the cleaners.

blubberyboo · 20/07/2025 14:18

A CEO of a company is meant to display honesty and integrity. Investors and customers want to deal with people amd companies who are trustworthy. Employees cannot be expected to work for someone who themselves is openly dishonest. Covering up a work affair creates a toxic work environment as it drags coworkers into being liars too. Someone who cannot be trustworthy to their own wife cannot display these characteristics.

It creates all sorts of conflicts of interests when CEO and head of HR are having an affair that impacts on other employees. People will not be easilt able to raise whilstleblowing or harassment cases. Companies have to abide by codes of conduct across all industries now.

Their positions at the company are untenable for this reason regardless of how uncomfortable it makes many feel given it is private life on the surface. Deeper it is to do with personal traits and work dynamics

RobertJohnsonsShoes · 20/07/2025 14:14

Delphiniumandlupins · 20/07/2025 10:58

So whose fault is it that they've had all this publicity and lost their careers?

  1. Their own fault for dishonesty and bad judgement.
  2. Coldplay's fault for having a kiss cam.
  3. Chris Martin's fault for drawing attention to them.
  4. The media's fault for picking up and spreading the story.
  5. All of us for reading, laughing and adding comments.

Only 1. has done anything wrong (illegal or immoral or unethical). Maybe they couldn't have foreseen the consequences but folk sure will remember in future.

Aye but what’s it got to do with you? It’s weird the level of opinion people have. Nail em to the cross 🙄

Bigcat25 · 20/07/2025 14:08

Is it true this was a company event? The company stated that no other employees were on camera.

Eight8eight · 20/07/2025 14:06

ginasevern · 20/07/2025 13:54

I agree. Another poster said its use was announced in advance, so I suppose at least there was warning. But I still think it's an invasion of privacy and could make someone (perhaps with body image issues, autistic or with a disability) very upset. It's a cheap laugh at someone's expense. Is this a thing at concerts these days or was it because it was a private event?

It's a standard, well-known part of every Coldplay gig.

To think the CEO caught at Coldplay resigning is a bit of a performance
ginasevern · 20/07/2025 13:54

spoonbillstretford · 20/07/2025 08:50

I find the "kisscam" idea a bit creepy of Coldplay anyway. Lots of people wouldn't want this kind of attention at an event for good reasons.

I agree. Another poster said its use was announced in advance, so I suppose at least there was warning. But I still think it's an invasion of privacy and could make someone (perhaps with body image issues, autistic or with a disability) very upset. It's a cheap laugh at someone's expense. Is this a thing at concerts these days or was it because it was a private event?

Bigcat25 · 20/07/2025 13:48

spoonbillstretford · 20/07/2025 08:47

I think there was misconduct involved also as he was negotiating her settlement agreement. But yes, on the face of it, two people having an affair would not be a sackable matter in the UK unless there was actual misconduct involved.

What settlement agreement are you talking about?

ClearlyAGiraffe · 20/07/2025 13:45

oudle · 20/07/2025 11:27

Plenty of pedophiles are not getting jail time now. Where is the social media shame campaign for them?

I think you will find that pedophiles in America are very much getting jail time. The justice system in the US is nothing like ours.

SweetcornFritter · 20/07/2025 13:34

ClearlyAGiraffe · 20/07/2025 11:01

But do you make similar decisions to them?

Have you had an affair with wither your boss or someone you manage and then not declared that to the business you work for? And then have you canoodled with them in public including when you had been told there was a camera beaming images to everyone in the concert? A camera that was specifically looking for couples.

I’m sure nobody thought this would blow up to the point where IKEA, Aldi and Ryan Air to name but a few were making adverts based on it, but they could have taken quite simple steps to not be exposed like this.

No none of those things apply to me but if they did my comment still stands. The worldwide shame and humiliation this has brought not just to me but to my loved ones would make me want to die. You may not feel the same as me but I’m expressing how I would feel about it.

ChandrilanDiscoDroid · 20/07/2025 13:30

ChandrilanDiscoDroid · 20/07/2025 13:22

The company don't give a shit if there's an affair or not. They give a shit because of an undeclared conflict of interest which can materially and hugely affect their business. Whether you were already married when you started screwing your direct report is between you, them, and your spouse, in their book.

To add: it's not about morality. It's about money.

Trump is of course an utter sleaze, but if it came out that, say, he was shagging his Secretary of Defense, people would quite rightly have very serious concerns. Even Republicans.

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