To not be able to find fashionable clothes for sensory problems

@FountainsSummerit is very possible to.have Sensory Processing Disorder without asd or other ND. Unfortunately, the NHS will only provide support and diagnosis for one form of SPD - dyspraxia. However, it is worth discussing with your GP.

If they cant help, a good Occupational Therapist can assess and diagnose. As importantly, if you can afford to pay, they can work with her to manage some of the sensory overload. It won't cure it, but will help. As she gets older, she will also learn her own techniques.

SPD can involve multiple senses so it would be useful to work.out if she also struggles with any others. In retrospect, the first "symtpom" for DS was that even as a tiny ba y we couldn't take him into.coffee shops. The noise of the coffee machines would send him into a complete meltdown!!!

Hello. I had the same problem with my 10yr daughter so created www.kanna.co.uk Everything is sensory-friendly. Just launched last week after 2 years of development 😊. Take a look and see what you think – dresses arrive later this week. Everything is super soft, flat seams, no tags etc. Feel free to get in touch through the website for a discount code. Katie x

A sewing machine will be over £100 for anything reliable then you'll be hit and miss for a while and need to buy the right type of soft waistband elastic - might be cheaper and quicker to take garments to an alternations place and get them to do it for you.
Avoid elastic in metallics as metallic thread is often scratchy.

https://www.minerva.com/mp/GBP/1/957400-M/957208

I am not autistic, but I have some sensory issues due to another neurological condition. You can get soft denim, but it's hard to find. I remember an outfit I had with shorts and a jacket in soft denim. Could you have a shopping day together to try to choose some things?

Would denim short dungarees /bib shorts work? https://www.laredoute.co.uk/ppdp/prod-351086318.aspx?dim1=1&dim2=5&cod=BPS00201058UK&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22010341880&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIkee-o73LjgMVJ5NQBh3nFhD9EAQYAiABEgLcIfD_BwE

this sort of thing. Not the same tight waistband.

The halara ones linked to above seems like they could work.

My son also won't wear denim and just wants to be in tracksuit bottoms. A while back I did get him some jeans where the waistband was jersey. Not these but similar - you could look out for something of that kind and then cut them into shorts?

https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=381488002

These are sold out in the smallest size but you could request a notification when back in stock (there’s a button to do this on ASOS) to try them. Size 4 maternity denim shorts are a great idea from a PP.

https://www.asos.com/prd/205594524?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

If you google, there will be tutorials on converting jeans to maternity jeans - yes I know this isn't exactly what you need, but it will give you an idea of what to do.

If you wanted to make anything from scratch, elasticated waist shorts made from chambray / denim look fabric might be more comfortable but still look close enough to what her friends are wearing.

I was just going to suggest this.

Uniqlo do something they call EZ Jeans. Look like denim and cut like jeans but are really a nice soft cotton more like sweat pants. The even have a drawstring inside the waist band so you can adjust the fit.
Don't know if they do a shorts version but if she gets on with them you can always cut them off and hem them.

How exhausting.

I have loads of denim shorts from Pretty Little Thing and none of those dig into me the way other brands sometimes can.

You could also look for shorts made from chambray rather than proper denim as it’s thin and often has an elasticated waist.

The fashion in the U.K. at present is more for high waisted denim which aren’t as comfortable to sit in. She might be better with low waisted shorts? They’re a bit harder to find but you can find them online, particularly with European brands such as Bershka? They do a size 4 which might be small enough? Or baggier jorts may be more comfortable? Sometimes h&M have some.

I haven’t read the whole thread, but I have the same issue, and always have.
The problem is likely to be exacerbated by the fashion for high waist clothing at the moment, so it’s good news that low rise is coming back into fashion.

I haven’t been able to buy myself any new trousers for several years
My Dd is similar, but not as bad as I am.

I would try and find shorts as low rise as possible and see if she can manage with them hanging off her hips rather than anywhere near her tummy.

If you can find any with an elasticated waistband, you can try sizing up, then folding the waistband over - that will make it lower, but a bit tighter so less likely to fall down. Next have some denim look cotton shorts with elasticated waist in their children’s section at the moment that you could try.

Otherwise, it might be worth buying some denim fabric and a suitable pattern and trying to make some bespoke.

Have you thought about senior school uniform? Just wondering if it might be an issue. Honestly think a chat with the GP might be helpful here.

It’s possibly a sensory processing disorder, which can present without an ASD or other,
my son also has this, it’s improving with age, but that just may be because all boys of 12/13 wear is track pants and t shirts, even still certain t shirts are abandoned if they don’t feel right.

I luckily can empathise as I had this to an extent as a child, one example was socks were always an issue, and that’s where my DS started too. I can still remember the feeling that came with it, and it was awful.

can you look at more a cotton style rather than an actual denim, they are always super uncomfortable as shorts as the double fabric where the zip sits as well as the button is likely too much. Something with a stretch in the fabric could help too. Maybe order a bunch from somewhere like asos to try?

You can have sensory processing disorder (SPD) and not be autistic. My youngest seems to have SPD but her older sister is autistic but I’m wondering if she is.

Have you tried next? The denmin skirts and short there are generous in size and have the pullie things inside to make them smaller so she could just wear them loose. A lot of their dresses and play suits tend to be loose.

DD1 wears elasticated soft jersey denim shorts from the boys section of Next (after a mammoth search for any shorts that were soft but smarter than cycling shorts across various teen sections) but she isn’t particularly fashion conscious so might not work for you! They look like Jean shorts but feel more like jogger/cotton shorts. She wears them right down on her hips as she can’t bear anything on her waist/tummy - in fairness, I can only manage to feel comfortable on hips or empire line for waistbands myself

You’ve got some great advise about clothing from wise posters. Coming from a parent of neurodiverse child who has to cut out or cover labels, my advice is to reflect on some of the comments people have made about your prickly responses. If you child does end up getting a diagnosis, you may have to grow a thicker skin and be an assertive advocate and not be so reactive