Adult lazy day

Of course, its entirely normal to have a quiet day( it’s not lazy)
if you’re seeking permission You have it, and please don’t overthink and enjoy your quiet day

This. What a strange thread.

I've had a lazy day today. Everyone has been fed, kitchen tidied, some washing done. But none of the other stuff I could have been doing. A lot of TV watching. Sometimes that's what you need.

I love a lazy day - but the secret is to properly ‘allow’ it, plan it, look forward to it - then I can be guilt free!!

Imagine you are a phone, and sitting on the sofa is the equivalent of having a charging cable plugged in. perhaps a weird
metaphor but Ive seen it around and think its helpful - you have a battery that needs charging every now and again

That's my Monday! I have earmarked it as my nothing day. I will stay in bed then watch the DVDs I want and read the books I want. I will have a Margarita at lunchtime if I fancy one and we will have baked eggs for supper. Once a year is enough 😁

For fuck’s sake you are an adult. Do whatever the fuck you please.

Perfectly healthy to have a rest day now and again (if I don't I find I actually get less done). Case in point, my miserable (retired) neighbour who recently had the nerve to lecture me on how I'm younger than her, so should be doing more gardening with my days off. I already fill my garden bin by each collection date. My garden is by no means perfectly manicured (I wouldn't want it to be it's wildlife friendly so does have the odd weed) but it's not overgrown. This is after she told me, she has to pay her adult son (who lives with her) to do chores around the house and garden 😆

I'm 64. The only way I can get through the working week is to give myself occasional lazy days, just to get my strength back. But I raised five kids as a single parent, so I have NO guilt now about spending some time on myself; I spent twenty years of sleepless nights and working to try to keep us afloat and now it's MY TIME and if I choose to spend the whole day in bed eating Hobnobs then I bloody well will.

I had 2 days off on a row earlier in the week and I spent most of it sleeping or otherwise resting in bed - I work full time and with this hot weather I haven't really slept properly for weeks and was absolutely on my knees with exhaustion from it.

I felt so much better for all the rest I had and I was able to then get all the housework done the other day, because I actually had the energy to do it, and I didn't feel totally burned out afterwards either. It's not being lazy, it's looking after yourself.

OMG this is the ONE upside of being a single parent. I went through hell when my ExH left me (classic mid life crisis affair and I was blindsided, then he became a prize cunt); after initially breaking my heart and taking a pharmaceutical cocktail of drugs to numb the pain when my DC left me to stay with him for his ‘contact’ (court order) - and the OW who they didn’t know from Adam, that he’d shacked up with), I eventually had to trust the process and I did start to enjoy the weekend got ‘off’ once a month. I used to go out on a Friday night with friends, then after housework was done, stay in my PJ’s/bed/do as I pleased until Sunday. 20 years on I’m now semi retired and I now have a regular afternoon ‘hour’ in bed-it’s difficult mentally, as my parents were the type to never allow lie ins and attribute them to being ‘lazy’. DM is in her 80’s and still gets up at 7; stays up til 11; NEVER wears ‘comfy clothes’. I’d rather stick pins in my eyes than live like that. Think ‘Hyacinth Bouquet’ generation. I’m more Patsy and Ed. Enjoy OP.

Enjoy OP, it’s good for you.

My kids are grown up and left and I’ve had a chill day today. TV and mumsnet.

It’s even more important with small kids. Recharge.

I love a lazy day! I spend most of my time doing things for my children, my husband, my elderly mum...I don't begrudge any of this but after 35 years of being the one who looks after everyone else, I've recently decided to put my own needs first sometimes ☺️ and it's bloody brilliant!

Well done for recognising its not normal, and glad you’re letting yourself rest now! This is what I imagine the OP grew up with

OP, you're not weird.
I cannot rest. I grew up in a house where resting was for the weak and a lie in was the epitome of laziness.

My entire life I have to be doing something, cleaning something, sorting something, have something planned.

I'm (at 38) finally realising I need to be on the go less- mostly because my DD is picking up on my "unhealthy" habit and I don't want her growing up thinking it's normal, as you'll see by these replies here, it's not.

Enjoy your relaxing, and try and work on the guilt, I know it's hard.

Really you can’t sit and watch tv without feeling guilty

Socially acceptable by whose metric?

Why is this even a question in your head?

Single parent who works in a school here. My kids are at their dads this weekend. I’ve done some tidying, food shop and been for a coffee with a neighbour. I feel I’ve wasted my day but at the same time, I feel tired and am allowing myself the rest of the day in front of the TV and an early night! You are allowed to do nothing too

Rest is productive. Enjoy!

Are you joking? Do you genuinely think you're not allowed to relax in your own home?
I always do some exercise every day, but only because I love it. But once I've done that, I'm happy to slump infront of the TV for the rest of the day if that's what I want to do.
Who gives a shit what 'society' has to say about it?

I need a lazy day like this at least once a fortnight. Why do you feel bad about it? Are you all go all the time? I’d be shattered x

I recently got a Garmin fitness tracking watch and surprised to realise that the single biggest thing I could do to improve my health was to get more rest.

So I would say that having a lazy day isn't just not a bad thing to do, but can actually be pretty vital to your health, fitness and productivity.

I have a lazy day at least once a week.

What on earth do you feel guilty about?

I'm doing the same and my house is not clean and tidy! First day of the holidays today for ne (teacher) and I had less than 5 hours' sleep last night, so the housework can wait until tomorrow!