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Original poster

Really dislike talking to my neighbour

31 replies

joffjaffa · 19/07/2025 12:37

Another neighbour one sorry lol.

Basically I really dislike talking to my neighbour l, she is so nosy and when she seem’s me she will proceed to talk for at least 20 - 30 minutes and often whilst I’m gardening.

On first impressions I thought she was really nice but after she would start asking persons questions which made me and DP uncomfortable.

By pure coincidence my parents, DP’s mother and my aunt and uncle visited on the same day on Wednesday.

On Thursday when I was watering my plants she came out to ask if everything was OK and that she had noticed that a lot of people had visited the day before.

I replied “why wouldn’t it be OK?” and made a joke of it but it really annoyed me.

I never ask her questions, or question her about her visitors, I just hate talking to her now

I am not an unneighbourly person either, I take bins down when neighbours are at work, I take in parcels etc but I like my privacy and definitely don’t want to be saying more then hello to her.

DP never says anything about anyone and even he agrees she is very nosy.

My other neighbour and I just say hello and carry on about our business which I prefer.

AIBU to feel like this?

OP posts:
Inthecafe · 19/07/2025 13:00

joffjaffa · 19/07/2025 12:56

There is no fence it’s all open.

These are new builds and we moved in at the same time around a year ago.

I will try the headphone technique and see if she gets the hint.

Bloody hell
so sounds like sharing a garden!

id be installing a fence. Pronto

Original poster
joffjaffa · 19/07/2025 12:56

There is no fence it’s all open.

These are new builds and we moved in at the same time around a year ago.

I will try the headphone technique and see if she gets the hint.

OP posts:
Inthecafe · 19/07/2025 12:54

How long have you lived there?

Inthecafe · 19/07/2025 12:54

How low is fence between gardens?

I can’t see my neighbours garden let alone talk to them through the panelling

herbalteabag · 19/07/2025 12:49

Yes, wear some headphones and pretend you haven't noticed her. Or wave from a distance and don't go within earshot. She'll hopefully get the message eventually.

I work with the public and certain people like to stop and chat a lot. I'm not sure if they realise how busy I am, but usually I say a few words and then start edging away and getting on with thing.

Cliffedge25 · 19/07/2025 12:45

SO annoying OP!
I feel your annoyance at this as I had one but mine used to ask exactly what I was doing when she heard a small knock on the left side of the joint wall at 7pm 3 days ago… it’s where I plug my laptop in.
Stuff like that. Very very grating.

I began grey rock with her, didn’t give more than one word answers with a smile. “Don’t recall”, “ can’t remember “ that kind of thing. Then a “must get on!” And walked away.
Also… gardening with headphones pretend not to hear or see them, if I did a cheery wave then head down again.

Fuck that op, I’m not being scared out of my own garden by a busybody, no way.
Also wouldn’t hesitate to tell her that I’m a very very private person and not comfortable to disclose personal information, so thank you but no thank you.