Friend should have told me her toilet seat was broken?

I don’t see the issue. No she shouldn’t have told you, how did she know you would want to use the loo? Would you really have said ok I won’t come then? That’s a bit pathetic

Just sit on the bowl

Well yes I'd mention it in advance too, because that's part of being a thoughtful friend/host.

But if this situation happened to me I genuinely wouldn't think anything of it - I'd just hover, or if I couldn't I'd sit on the rim and forget all about it. Really no big deal at all.

Perhaps it comes with living in many countries on three continents and seeing a wide range of cultural differences.

I'm now wondering if this OP is related to the OP who made her husband poop at work when their second, or was it third loo was out of action 🤔

Other arrangements? It must have been a poo?
Unless you're good it timing wees to a schedule?

I would expect to have a wee before leaving my house and there being a very high chance of me needing another at a friend's house.

Take a pool noodle with you next time to place around the bowl.

OP is clearly a bloke with a fetish centred around women going to the toilet 🙄

I remember when I was about 7, visiting a friend's house where their toilet was temporarily without a seat. I therefore assumed that it was broken and simply unusable, being so green as I was and limited in my knowledge of how the world worked.

I'm not 7 anymore, though.

Well at least now you know you’re in the minority 😂

YANBU I cannot understand why this women didn't do a FB status update to illustrate this, an Instagram reel and at least one TikTok dance. Ridiculous. What a CF your friend is. Can I suggest a well placed dump on her bathroom floor next time.

Oh fgs op, she’s hardly thinking about you needing the toilet until you actually need it. The problem is specific to you and she didn’t even think of it. People like you are always in some sort of situation because you think the world revolves around you. No it doesn’t.

What do you mean, that she should have told you before you came so you could choose not to go and see her? Or take your own toilet seat round?

It’s annoying but you’re being a bit precious.

Sit on the bowl?

I’ve heard it all now! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

why are mumnetters like this?

Suspect this is one of the 8 million things on MN that people "don't like the idea of" but there's no actual logic behind it. See also toilet brushes and not burning your towels after each use.

Maybe it didn’t cross her mind that you would be physically unable to hover.

You are ok now you posted it here on mn 😁

(Obviously me joking)

I don't understand this. If you needed a wee before you left the house, why didn't you? And if you needed to go at your friend's after drinking coffee, the prior wee wouldn't have had any impact on that. Unless you were storing up a poo to offload at her's for some reason...

Wow. Just wow. Wipe it? What’s the worst that could happen, a couple of germs in your thighs ? (Gasp!!!)

Not been on mumsnet in a while.

Love that this ridiculousness is the first thing I’ve seen on my return

This is hilarious!

No one is body shaming you. Poster is just pointing out that basic strength as we reach old age is advantageous and recommended by the NHS to be able to live an independent life and protect ourselves from injury. You say you’re already trying to do something about this, so good for you.

Forget France, I've used public loos in Wales which are just metal bowls with wooden bars screwed to the top!

Such a non-event

No, she's your friend, not providing you a service. You're overreacting.

Yes the plastic or wood seat will hold far more bacteria and the rim can always be quickly wiped down or washed to disinfect it.

I generally go before I leave the house. And then probably will need to go again when I get wherever I’m going! Especially if I’ve had coffee 🤣.
Just sit on the bowl for goodness sake.

Fewer, actually. The glazed ceramic of the bowl is going to be far less hospitable to germs and bacteria than the plastic or wooden seat. And is massively easier to wipe down effectively.

In some countries public toilets deliberately don't have seats, for this reason.