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To think “Side Hustle” can get in the bin?

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courageiscontagious · 19/07/2025 05:17

I am so sick of my feed being full of people “girl bossing” their “side hustle” like it’s a good thing.

it feels like propaganda to make us think there is anything empowering about having to work a SECOND JOB in this dumpster fire of an economy.

One generation ago a man could buy a house and support his family on his one income with only a high school education.

Now, my husband and I have five degrees between us and we both have to bust our arses to support fewer children than my parents had.

FUCK SIDE HUSTLE CULTURE. It’s just another way to make us blame ourselves for being poor when there are systemic and structural factors fucking us over.

end rant.

OP posts:
temperedolive · 20/07/2025 09:24

One generation ago was the year 2000. People weren't buying houses on one high school grad's salary then.

Crushed23 · 20/07/2025 09:19

Tutorpuzzle · 19/07/2025 07:47

But what is wrong with doing this? If you want to make some extra money, and are internet savvy, then why not? Why the judgement? (Not just you, obviously, but definitely on Mumsnet.)

Is there actually judgment though? Mumsnet is obsessed with Vinted. If people disapprove of selling on Vinted, then how would they find their Reiss dress for £15?!

Crushed23 · 20/07/2025 09:14

Lincslady53 · 19/07/2025 12:00

I agree with this, but can we get away from the 'My parents brought us up on one wage and lived in a mini mansion' trope. It is bollocks. Yes, house prices were lower 50 years, but so were salaries. Mortgage rates were astronomical compared to today, I laughed the other day at a report on the news that mentioned the high mortgage rates. My daughter has just remortgaged at 3.8%. When we bought our first small flat rates were at 17%, 10 years later we thought we had done well to arrange a 10 years fix at 8.99%, it was an hours commute from where we worked, couldn't afford to buy any closer, it took both our salaries to afford the mortgage, we both had to get bar work at first as the bills were higher than we anticipated. It was a struggle. I know it's difficult for this generation to get on the housing ladder, but for most it has always been a struggle. This generation also have the benefit of massive inheritances coming their way in the next 10 to 15 years too.

I agree that the notion of buying a big house and living a comfortable middle class lifestyle by today’s standards being possible on a single average wage 50 years ago is fanciful. But you have generalised hugely by assuming all young people will receive a ‘massive inheritance’ - most won’t. The issue is stagnant wages in the UK. A one-time cash injection one might receive in their 50s or 60s won’t solve that.

YourOnMute · 19/07/2025 12:28

Agree

Neetra30 · 19/07/2025 12:21

I agree @courageiscontagious
Side hustles sound dodgy anyway and I think most employers should be wary of hiring people with side hustles. Mainly because those people would be more tired as they are working extra and would not be able to give 100% effort and focus as others who have the 1 sole job

Lincslady53 · 19/07/2025 12:00

I agree with this, but can we get away from the 'My parents brought us up on one wage and lived in a mini mansion' trope. It is bollocks. Yes, house prices were lower 50 years, but so were salaries. Mortgage rates were astronomical compared to today, I laughed the other day at a report on the news that mentioned the high mortgage rates. My daughter has just remortgaged at 3.8%. When we bought our first small flat rates were at 17%, 10 years later we thought we had done well to arrange a 10 years fix at 8.99%, it was an hours commute from where we worked, couldn't afford to buy any closer, it took both our salaries to afford the mortgage, we both had to get bar work at first as the bills were higher than we anticipated. It was a struggle. I know it's difficult for this generation to get on the housing ladder, but for most it has always been a struggle. This generation also have the benefit of massive inheritances coming their way in the next 10 to 15 years too.

Tutorpuzzle · 19/07/2025 11:46

courageiscontagious · 19/07/2025 10:40

Just dislocated my eyeballs from rolling them too hard.

what “action” should this generation take, enlighten me.

Well, you could stop buying your double decaf capuccinos every day, for a start! (JOKING!!)

I was born in the seventies, very working class family. Both Dad and Mum worked two jobs for as long as I can remember. But, and it’s a very big but, we lived in a lovely council house and my higher education was free. Regardless of salaries keeping up with inflation, or the need for a ‘side hustle’, the money required for decent housing now (as a percentage of salary), is just ridiculous.

Interesting thread.

TheignT · 19/07/2025 11:02

Dozer · 19/07/2025 10:56

your post suggests you don’t understand economics @TheignT

I know the economics of buying a house at the peak of the market and seeing it worth much less a year later, of seeing my mortgage interest rate increasing 3 months in a row (fixed rates not really a thing back then) and I definitely know the economics of needing to find work as no maternity leave and needing to find a job with a toddler and baby, hardly any nurseries and record unemployment.

So maybe experience versus theory.

Dozer · 19/07/2025 10:56

your post suggests you don’t understand economics @TheignT

Dozer · 19/07/2025 10:55

some of the main changes have been much higher housing costs relative to wages and reduced employer contributions to pensions.

TheignT · 19/07/2025 10:52

AnotherGreyMorning · 19/07/2025 10:50

I love when boomers step in. Knowing exactly how very different life is to how they were young.

Well pretty obvious we'd know what life was like because we lived it. Still living now so we can also see that.

AnotherGreyMorning · 19/07/2025 10:50

TizerorFizz · 19/07/2025 10:24

@courageiscontagious In the good old days only 10% went to university. So of course a secondary school education supplied trades and lower managerial jobs. I’m 70 and in my generation teachers needed degrees for secondary teaching and nurse degrees came in. However it was easier to buy a home. Many people even then did have to save up for a deposit.

You also need to look at what degrees you have and where you live. Not all degrees are a great platform for high earnings. Career choice matters too. If you are a London lawyer with your degrees you would be ok. I’m assuming you haven’t aimed for this. If you live in a cheap area, two teachers certainly can buy a nice house! No problems. So look at job snd area you live in. The country doesn’t owe you anything. I’m guessing lowish pay means little repayment of loans. The government stumped up for them in the first place. Hopefully your parents didn’t pay up front and spend a house deposit equivalent. I’d stop moaning and take action.

I love when boomers step in. Knowing exactly how very different life is to how they were young.

soupyspoon · 19/07/2025 10:44

Gardendiary · 19/07/2025 09:32

I take your point and I think we are a similar age so I know what you’re talking about, but a lot of these things simply didn’t exist - there were no home computers, hardly any childcare providers, far fewer takeaways etc. So it’s not that people did without and denied themselves because these things weren’t a feature of life and everyone was in the same boat.

I think the pont is that almost every second thread is about how people cant have their kids sharing bedrooms, MUST have a holiday abroad each year, the countless en suites houses have now, must have a car and it must be on finance.

People choose to have lifestyles that necesitate a double income.

courageiscontagious · 19/07/2025 10:40

TizerorFizz · 19/07/2025 10:24

@courageiscontagious In the good old days only 10% went to university. So of course a secondary school education supplied trades and lower managerial jobs. I’m 70 and in my generation teachers needed degrees for secondary teaching and nurse degrees came in. However it was easier to buy a home. Many people even then did have to save up for a deposit.

You also need to look at what degrees you have and where you live. Not all degrees are a great platform for high earnings. Career choice matters too. If you are a London lawyer with your degrees you would be ok. I’m assuming you haven’t aimed for this. If you live in a cheap area, two teachers certainly can buy a nice house! No problems. So look at job snd area you live in. The country doesn’t owe you anything. I’m guessing lowish pay means little repayment of loans. The government stumped up for them in the first place. Hopefully your parents didn’t pay up front and spend a house deposit equivalent. I’d stop moaning and take action.

Just dislocated my eyeballs from rolling them too hard.

what “action” should this generation take, enlighten me.

OP posts:
Magnir · 19/07/2025 10:37

Youdontseehow · 19/07/2025 10:25

My DH makes the most amazing cheesecake- a friend suggested seriously that he should sell them. But they cost about a tenner to make just for the ingredients and there’s no way anyone would pay that lol.

Yes, because we know from threads on here that people expect to pay tuppence for home made cakes. Every other week there is one moaning about it

Youdontseehow · 19/07/2025 10:25

Annoyeddd · 19/07/2025 08:01

I wonder how much money is made from so called side hustles.
I made some items and showed them to colleagues who suggested I should give up the day job.
How much would they be prepared to pay - ooh about £20.
It has taken three hours plus to make

My DH makes the most amazing cheesecake- a friend suggested seriously that he should sell them. But they cost about a tenner to make just for the ingredients and there’s no way anyone would pay that lol.

TizerorFizz · 19/07/2025 10:24

@courageiscontagious In the good old days only 10% went to university. So of course a secondary school education supplied trades and lower managerial jobs. I’m 70 and in my generation teachers needed degrees for secondary teaching and nurse degrees came in. However it was easier to buy a home. Many people even then did have to save up for a deposit.

You also need to look at what degrees you have and where you live. Not all degrees are a great platform for high earnings. Career choice matters too. If you are a London lawyer with your degrees you would be ok. I’m assuming you haven’t aimed for this. If you live in a cheap area, two teachers certainly can buy a nice house! No problems. So look at job snd area you live in. The country doesn’t owe you anything. I’m guessing lowish pay means little repayment of loans. The government stumped up for them in the first place. Hopefully your parents didn’t pay up front and spend a house deposit equivalent. I’d stop moaning and take action.

Icanttakethisanymore · 19/07/2025 10:21

courageiscontagious · 19/07/2025 10:14

I promise it’s something sensible. I have gone into a “helping” sector though so not as lucrative as if I went to work for a tobacco company.

I wasn’t asking to try and catch you out! I was just interested I promise! 😊

Ladamesansmerci · 19/07/2025 10:18

Hard agree. I despise the monetisation of hobbies under capitalism, and the drive to have 'productive' hobbies.

TheignT · 19/07/2025 10:18

The women I know with a side hustle work part time as they want/need time at home with children and make up some of the loss in wages by making some money with a side hustle.

It seems a lot if working full-time.

I'm probably more than a generation older than you but always had to work as my husband's salary wouldn't cover the mortgage and basics like eating. Obviously some people lived that life but nowhere near all of us.

myplace · 19/07/2025 10:18

Side Gig is a better term, imo.

CherryRipe1 · 19/07/2025 10:17

Side line is better surely? I hate side hustle and boss whatever.

FeministThrowingAPrincessParty · 19/07/2025 10:17

And some side hustles produce the most niche products and services. “Oh I build unique play equipment for rabbits because when I had a rabbit I noticed it looked a bit bored.” Hilarious but also annoying!

JustBiscoff · 19/07/2025 10:16

words on fire OP - totally agree!

FeministThrowingAPrincessParty · 19/07/2025 10:15

I also don’t think hobbies and passions need to be monetised.

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