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School reports results came as a surprise

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Mumisconfused · 18/07/2025 23:14

AIBU to be upset the teacher didn't provide enough feedback at parents meeting, around Easter time, and now the report for DC, who just finished YR1, mentions 'working towards expected' in all areas? We were not aware of this!

We did ask her specifically to let us know if there was areas dc needed more support back in April, and she said dc needs to work in the presentation of his work (which is true). But she only mentioned that! She said maths and reading was fine.... in the phonics test dc got 36/40 words, which I think it's very good. DC reads long sentences and has a good understanding of what dc has just read...

I understand dc's concentration is not great, and we also asked the teacher since the beggining of yr1 if she thinks dc's concentration is as expected for a 5/6 years old, and she didn't really noticed anything. DH thinks she doesn't pay much attention on him because he is very well behaved and she's too busy dealing with not so well behaved kids.... I am starting to think he is right.

How can she have not flagged this to us, when we asked in April? She removed the chance of us giving him extra support at home....

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JifNtGif · 18/07/2025 23:45

Does your daughter have learning disabilities?

Silvertulips · 18/07/2025 23:44

You can focus on lots of word play games, maths language, etc at home.

They teacher is marked against the highest achievers and lowest ability - middles get missed.

AND it depends on the co-hour some classes have more high achievers the lower some kids get .

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 18/07/2025 23:39

You are being unreasonable for saying the teacher has removed the chance for you to give him extra support at home. You’ve always had the chance to do that, she hasn’t stopped you. I wouldn’t stress over working towards at this age. They all develop in different areas at different rates. If his reading is good then that’s the most important thing taken care of. A sizeable minority of children make it to secondary school without being able to read properly and it is a massive barrier to all other learning.

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Mumisconfused · 18/07/2025 23:36

Bufftailed · 18/07/2025 23:17

Sorry editing as can see year 1. Not great communication but still plenty of time to sort. Has term ended? So frustrating if something you want go discuss. Are they still in on Monday, if so call to discuss? If not get a meeting early next term and keep things going over summer with some light touch activities

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Thanks. There's a drop in session next week, which I want to attend to ask about his report. I'm really shocked to see working towards in all areas :(

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Mumisconfused · 18/07/2025 23:33

Dweetfidilove · 18/07/2025 23:23

How is your son's effort in the homework and reading he does at home? Is it at a wildly different level to what the teacher has reported?

If he easily loses concentration, is he keeping up with what's required of him?

He reads really well and understands what he read. He loves books!

In the past we had to tell the teacher the books he was bringing home were too easy and not challenging him. She seemed surprised. We insisted to send a level up home, which she did.... since then he has gone up 2 more levels in reading. If we haven't pointed it to her, she would have not noticed his improvement.

His homework he does quite well as well.... most of the time he tries to do independently, but sometimes he needs some help.

His concentration is easily affected by things around him. His brain is always very active and busy and can take quite a while to settle. The teacher said she didn't notice this.... so it really looks like she didn't pay much attention to him.

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Dweetfidilove · 18/07/2025 23:23

How is your son's effort in the homework and reading he does at home? Is it at a wildly different level to what the teacher has reported?

If he easily loses concentration, is he keeping up with what's required of him?

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Mumisconfused · 18/07/2025 23:21

Bufftailed · 18/07/2025 23:17

Sorry editing as can see year 1. Not great communication but still plenty of time to sort. Has term ended? So frustrating if something you want go discuss. Are they still in on Monday, if so call to discuss? If not get a meeting early next term and keep things going over summer with some light touch activities

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Dc just finished yr1

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Bufftailed · 18/07/2025 23:17

Mumisconfused · 18/07/2025 23:14

AIBU to be upset the teacher didn't provide enough feedback at parents meeting, around Easter time, and now the report for DC, who just finished YR1, mentions 'working towards expected' in all areas? We were not aware of this!

We did ask her specifically to let us know if there was areas dc needed more support back in April, and she said dc needs to work in the presentation of his work (which is true). But she only mentioned that! She said maths and reading was fine.... in the phonics test dc got 36/40 words, which I think it's very good. DC reads long sentences and has a good understanding of what dc has just read...

I understand dc's concentration is not great, and we also asked the teacher since the beggining of yr1 if she thinks dc's concentration is as expected for a 5/6 years old, and she didn't really noticed anything. DH thinks she doesn't pay much attention on him because he is very well behaved and she's too busy dealing with not so well behaved kids.... I am starting to think he is right.

How can she have not flagged this to us, when we asked in April? She removed the chance of us giving him extra support at home....

Sorry editing as can see year 1. Not great communication but still plenty of time to sort. Has term ended? So frustrating if something you want go discuss. Are they still in on Monday, if so call to discuss? If not get a meeting early next term and keep things going over summer with some light touch activities