My son is 6. Being assessed for ADHD and ASD. We have had the police called to our house by a passed by before because his meltdown was so extreme (police very kind and supportive thankfully). Meltdown tonight and my neighbour knocked on my door to see if she could help. I feel like I constantly have a spotlight on me. I hate not knowing who called the police and that there is someone out there who thinks I abuse my child (I'm not disputing them calling, and know that if I'm doubt, calling the police is the right thing to do - not here to discuss that). I just don't know how to get over this constant feeling of not being good enough. Like people just see me and think I'm a shit mum (and I'm sure they do). They don't see how patient I am, or understand that I know my child inside and out, and what they think is the right thing to do often really isn't. I keep telling myself to grow a thicker skin, and sometimes I think I'm getting there, and then something happens that makes people stare, or comment (for example a hitting out meltdown) and I'm back to square one. How on earth do you cope? I'm exhausted.