Are you allowed carers leave for this??

As almost everyone else has said, get signed off. Fingers crossed your lovely dd is back on her feet soon, look after yourself too.
My boss wouldn’t hesitate to authorise carers leave for a scenario such as this, we get 2 full weeks then there is additional discretionary paid carers leave depending on the circumstances.

I think I would ask to speak to HR, explain the situation and ask their advice.
There is a new national Carers leave which allows you up to 5 days a year unpaid to deal with just this sort of thing, supporting a dependent with appointments etc. I would expect a staff member to use this or emergency annual leave but I would make sure they were there with their child when they needed to be

its pretty crap not to get any leave approved in these circumstances. I would asked to be signed off with stress (and that's something I don't suggest usually).

Carer’s leave isn’t just for children, I would have got it if my husband had been rushed to hospital with a stroke, just not for a pre-planned procedure. Again, read your policies, they may be different for every organisation (I have read mine).

And so unfair x

That’s actually infuriating.

Oh gosh, they sound very unfeeling.
I hope everything is ok.

Ex-NHS Manager hereand it would not be eligible for Carers leave as others have said. NHS managers don’t always have the freedom to be flexible alas. I would have agreed annual leave though even if it’s a struggle for the team as if you go off sick they may have a lack of staff for longer ! Really hope all will be ok x

does your boss have kids?

In our company carers leave is managers discretion. Your manager is disgustingly quite frankly. Go off sick with stress. Get a doctors note.

Err this. I really don't say it lightly but it must be distressing and hard. Your boss sounds like a dick. In this situation l would be way more understanding.

It's my understanding that carer's leave is for something sudden and unforeseen and allows a few days for alternative arrangements to be made, at least that's the policy for my employer. You should absolutely be granted unpaid leave if you have no annual leave left in your circumstances no matter what the situation is with your team re cover etc.

I think people don't realise how shitty an employer the NHS can be. Obviously you're going to have to take the time off, so you'd think they'd work with you to try and work out the best way to do it. If they won't, the stress probably will make you absolutely genuinely unfit to work.

I run my own business and so don’t say this lightly but that’s really shitty of your employer. If needs be the sick leave. I hope all goes well!

This is crazy, get signed off by your GP with stress please.

Good.grief i seen to have one of.the few.non compassionate nhs.managers. Dh is disabled. I have an agreed carers passport. Which gives.am.a weeks leave to.support him per year. I.dont abuse it but was recently told by my manager I.must use it when I needed time off to support his treatment. She didn't want me to use annual leave
If yr.manager is a band 7 sister I'd go to your matron / department head for support. If no support then GP with stress. A 5 yr old.with a tumor needs .her mum

How awful for you op and your dd, to be going through this and to have work to worry about it horrid.
I also work for the nhs and my bosses would give me the time one way or another.
Definitely see your gp and get signed off with stress - work will manage, they will have to. Your dd is more important.
Hoping everything goes ok for her x

All the best. Work stress is really not what you need right now. Hope you DD recovers quickly.

I know what I’m talking about here and it’s sick leave you need to take. If he’d been smart he could’ve granted you AL despite making his life difficult and needing to find cover. As it is, you need to see your GP and tell him/her you are too anxious and upset to go to work at that time and you would be unable to function. You are sick because of stress and worry about your child. I actually think this is the best option as you will need longer than a couple of weeks to support her recovery at home as well. Let your boss know that you are incredibly stressed for personal reasons and you will be seeing your GP soon to discuss how best to be supported by them. Ask to be referred to OH. They will all be supportive of your sick line of personal stress. Please don’t worry. Your manager will have to support you. I hope your daughter recovers well.

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Also NHS has a clear policy on this and circumstances re prebooked etc are at discretion of manager.
Given the circumstances, your manager would be pretty harsh not to support this.
I have had a management role in NHS

I’m a manager in the NHS and have worked at several trusts. Carers leave is for emergency, unplanned events generally so not for pre planned surgeries, even if they are urgent.
in this instance, I would say to take whatever time was needed and we would figure out the logistics of documenting it after the fact when the dust was settled.
im sorry your manager is such an arse.

I ended up losing my job when my son had cancer. It's outrageous that there's no paid leave for parents when their child is ill enough to be in hospital.

I hope it all goes well with your daughter, it's awful to have to be worrying about this too.

"Typical NHS"
Yet you want the op to take the piss out of her gp surgery to get a sick note?

Typical NHS indeed.