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DS worried about bully coming up to school in September

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ThisQuickPeachFinch · 18/07/2025 19:19

DS has just finished Year 7 and he will obviously be going into Year 8 in 6 weeks. There’s this Year 6 girl who lives on our road and regularly plays in our local park. She has always been mean to DS and his friend whenever they’ve played there. She pushed him over a few weeks ago to get on the zip wire before him.

Anyway, last Friday on Year 6 transition day at school she told him she’s going to make his life hell when she starts there in September. Only tonight did he tell me that she and her friend were kicking him in the chins at lunchtime. I looked and his legs and they are covered in bruises still after a week. I’m annoyed at him as he didn’t tell me or a teacher about it but he said he didn’t want anyone to know and it’s too late now because it’s the holidays.

He’s told me he’s too scared to go back in September because he knows she and maybe her other friend will kick him again or/and ram into him as well as take photos of him like she has done at the park before. Her friend isn’t always like that but she is when she’s around this girl.

I don’t really know what to do now because the academic year is over. Would I report it to the school in September? Would they not be interested due to lack of evidence and it was in a previous year? I don’t know??

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Pricelessadvice · 18/07/2025 19:28

Do you know the parents? I’d be making a visit to them over the holidays and nipping this in the bud!

ExtraOnions · 18/07/2025 19:27

…still email into school, staff will pick it up before the start of next term.

BulldogMumma · 18/07/2025 19:26

I disagree with pp I would 100% letting the school know. If that didn’t work I’d be speaking to her parents. Bullies need to be shown they can’t get away with it.
Do you know the girls parents?

Littletreefrog · 18/07/2025 19:24

Is this a very small school? In my experience the number of times a year 7 and a year 8 would cross paths is very limited but I only really have experience of large schools so maybe this is different. I would definitely give the school a heads up though especially as she has threatened him and hurt him just the other day so it's not all from the past. Always best to give the school as much information as possible, they can't do anything about things they don't know about.

Themomentsheknewshefkedup · 18/07/2025 19:23

I wouldn’t tell the school. I was really bullied and my mum told the school and it made it 10 times worse and I ended up being really violently assaulted because the bully got in trouble.

what I would do is sign your DS up for some self defence classes or jujitsu or something similar over the summer and work on building his confidence and teach him how to stand up for him self.

sorry to hear he’s worried OP it’s not nice!