Colleague and I are both in our late twenties.
Back in April, a guy I like asked for my number. I’d liked him for a few months before that. When he first started talking to me, leading up to asking, I had seen him a few times while I was with a work colleague (a friend?).
Since April, things with him have been a bit up in the air. That same colleague has often quizzed me about where things are at with him, or what’s happened. In June, he and I stopped talking, and in July we reconnected.
She’s repeatedly said she finds him “weird” for one reason or another, and always questions what I see in him. He’s older, so I’ve just chalked it up to that and maybe older men aren’t her thing (though, she has a mortgage with her long-term partner, so she's not really in the dating scene). She's also joked that she thinks I'm “in love with him,” so she clearly knows how much I like him.
Anyway, I saw him today on my lunch break, and she was coming back from an outside event. When she got back to the office, I mentioned, “I saw him at lunch,” and she said she’d seen him too. I replied, “Oh? Whereabouts?” And then she turned and, with a bit more than just a jokey tone, said:
“With me… in my bed.”
I was a little taken aback. I seriously didn’t expect that kind of response, and I made that clear. She seemed to think I was being too harsh and that I “switch up” too quickly. She then tried to explain that it was “just a joke,” and I told her I wasn’t confused about what the joke meant, I just didn’t get why she’d say it. She kept repeating, “Oh my god, it was supposed to be funny.”
Was I being too harsh? Or was it just a joke in really bad taste? I did my best to smooth things over because, yes, it’s silly but I honestly don’t get why she’d say something like that.