Made to feel awkward for asking Nursery to use own nappies

The first nursery I looked at for DD1 (many many years ago) refused when I asked this question - we were using washables. Subsequent nurseries (second one closed) not a problem - the change room had a wall with large pigeonholes for each child's nappies. I just made sure they had a fresh bin and set of nappies each morning, used liners so all they had to do was throw the whole nappy into the bin and then I'd sort them out at home. Easy peasy.

Was going to say this at ours the kids have their own lidded and labelled storage nappy bags are the only thing nursery supply, I’d have thought it was easier due to different sizes/brands used. They just msg when nappies/wipes are running low

This is a totally normal request. We had to supply our own nappies and cream for exactly this reason. Our nursery was even happy to use cloth nappies I supplied. Babies have reactions to all sorts of things. One of mine got a reaction to the nursery suncream so we had to send in our own (stupidly expensive) stuff. Totally normal and not a criticism of them.

YANBU

We used cloth nappies and wipes and our nursery managed that!

I would just check which wipes they are using, as my brother reacted to the cheapo ones, my mum had to switch to water and cotton wool. So might be the wipes rather than the nappies.

Normal request I used to give own wipes and own creams too

Some of the staff at nursery were! They would obviously change a poo straight away but the wee nappies it seemed they would change only when it was wet. We found her skin was so sensitive and couldn’t breathe in nappies in hot weather at one point her first summer at nursery she needed changing no more than every two hours (even if the nappy was dry) to keep her from getting sore.

We found in hot weather our daughter needed to be changed even when her nappy wasn’t full.

Do you normally wait until her nappy is full before changing her?!?

Huge red flag.

Standard practice at my son’s nursery for all the children to have their own nappies, cream, wipes etc.

If they can manage children having different dietary requirements they can manage your child using her own nappies.

The nursery I work for will record any child's specific care needs in their care plan, and keep a list of each child and any variations in their nappy changing routine in the changing room. If a child requires a specific brand of nappy, wet wipe, or cream, then this is kept in a box (clearly labelled with the child's name) and stored in the changing unit cupboard. We do ask parents to provide alternative brands if they wish for us to use them, but other than that it's an easily-fulfilled request. I'd be concerned that they aren't taking a potential allergy seriously, tbh.

I am literally the most chilled out parent in the universe and never the one to go in or make requests, bt this just sounds bizarre! If your kid has a skin reaction to one type of nappy (very common in a lot of children) surely it makes sense to use what you know works. It can't be hard to store some of yours marked with your child's name...
FWIW in my son's nursery you had to bring your own! They had spares if you forgot or ran out but it was the norm to send him in on Monday with a new pack.

My DS reacted to his nursery nappies. They asked which ones l used at home.... and they supplied them instead!

Absolutely not unreasonable. All parents provide the nappies and wipes at DD’s nursery. They have a little box/caddy thing for every child labelled with their name that they keep them in and grab the caddy when they go to change the child.
Maybe they are worried you’ll ask for a discount by providing your own but ultimately it’s your child and if she’s getting nappy rash and you’ve said you want to use your own nappies that’s your choice. DD kept getting nappy rash when she first joined, one time it was really bad and I was very firm that they needed to change her every hour whilst it healed and use nappy cream at each change (I don’t think they were before that). They accepted that and listened to my instructions and we’ve never had any issues since bar a tiny bit of redness on the odd occasion.

At the end of the day YOU/ DD are the customer. I’d be looking for a new nursery if they won’t play ball on such a basic request. It’s hardly a diva request and I would lose trust in them if it were me if I’m honest.

They have a pile of size 1s, 2s, 3s etc and take one from whichever pile a baby needs. The staff will know which baby is in which size, or there will be a list by the changing station, or they will look at the baby.

Both mine had nappies supplied (they are 26 and 16), though part way through DS2's nursery years they did switch to us bringing them in.

Perfectly reasonable request. She’s having a reaction to the nappies. It effectively sounds like an allergy which I’m sure they’d accommodate if it was food, drink, suncream - why not nappies? Like others have said our nurseries has always had each child with their own cubby/ basket.

There's fair fewer sizes than there will be different children, they just have some of each size.

Have you asked your child’s key worker? It is a very reasonable and normal request-especially when your child is getting a rash. It may be that whoever was on reception doesn’t work in the room your daughter is in.

I would also check what nappy cream they use in case that is irritating her skin. And also how long she goes between changes. We found in hot weather our daughter needed to be changed even when her nappy wasn’t full.

OK it's quite normal to you. Just saying I've never heard of it in my 20 years as a nursery nurse.

We've been to 2 nurseries and both have supplied nappies from baby room through to older toddlers before potty training. One used Asda and the other Tesco nappies. It’s quite normal.

It’s a reasonable request for sure. If they won’t play ball and you want to continue using this nursery, I would send her in each morning with Sudocrem lathered over her nappy area. This should keep her rash-free.

Yeah I've worked in various childcare settings and I've never known a nursery to provide the nappies. How do they accommodate different sizes?

Yeah all three of my kids went to a different daycare and it was like that at each one of them. Each kid had a little plastic bin with their stuff in it so when it was time to change them they just got out the bin for that kid.

Very reasonable

Most nurseries ask you to supply and they have a box for each child.

Of course they should use your nappies if you’ve requested it.

If your child had a medical need they would need to do it, so this shouldn’t be any different. At special needs schools, parents send their children in with their own nappies. These are labelled and the correct ones used on each child.

Surely, they must realise children have different needs, such as food intolerances, eczema cream, etc. If they aren’t able to accommodate use of your own nappies, I would worry about what else they are missing.