AIBU to be mad at his speed?

Even 80 is below the French speed limit, there’s nothing inherently dangerous about it.

The issue with my ex wife was her behaviour in the car - back seat driving and shouting at me.

I suggest to the OP that you do what I should have done and refused to travel with her in the car

If someone is going the same speed as you you will neither overtake them or they overtake you. Give your head a wobble.

The cars might handle it, humans not so much. It isn’t the speed that kills, it is the sudden stop.

I notice them because I have to overtake them! I don't want to do 50 on the motorway either.

Again, most people seem to go too fast or too slow, at least stay in your lane 😂

I agree that the majority goes well over 70, and most of the rest well below. It's very very rarely a fluid flow of traffic going at similar speed.

I don't mind overtaking, as long as people don't hog the middle lane, and don't drive dangerously slowly, who cares.

78 on the motorway is not insanely dangerous if you have a decent car though.

I rarely do over 70 (only if I’m passing a lorry and don’t want to get stuck in their blind spot), only get passed really by the idiots doing 90 or by someone doing 1mph faster than me.

Everyone else does not do it. You just don’t notice those that don’t speed because they don’t go past you 🤦‍♀️

Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.

Have you ever experienced the devastation of loosing a loved one to a road accident?

I personally think speeding is selfish. It's not just you on the road and you are not as skilled as Lewis Hamilton at speed as you perhaps think you are. Just leave 5 mins early if you want to get somewhere on time. Not learning your lesson after 9 points is just daft and more than likely they will end up loosing their licence.

I agree that 78 on a motorway isn’t that bad, like the PP said there is a 10% variance. If he’s doing that speed on a country road (60 limit), I’d be very concerned though as that is where most accidents happen.

The lower speed limits (30 especially) are the really important ones to stick to in my opinion.

He’s crazy to risk his license though, you’d think that alone would make him slow down.

at 70 you are probably one of the slowest cars on a motorway ( not a bad thing)

I doubt that that is the case. I drive at maximum 70 because that is where I am comfortable, and generally that means I sit happily in the left hand lane with loads of other drivers. Sure, there are others passing me, but I don't think they're in the majority.

9 points is very close loosing license under totting up
at 70 you are probably one of the slowest cars on a motorway ( not a bad thing)

the answer is that you drive more and go at the speeds you want to

I wouldn't be so much annoyed at 78 (assuming he's bd going over 90 if he had his way) but at the points. When he loses his licence you'll have to do ALL the running around for your child.

They're is no way that a ban would not affect OP. Whether it's her needing to do all the ferrying of her DC, all the holiday driving, all the non walkable/public transport-able errand running, or their joint money paying vast amounts for taxis etc etc etc. Not to mention putting up with his whining.

So it's in her interest to spell out that he's risking his license.

I wouldn't
I would just let it happen
Zero lifts or fuss

His problem

I wouldn’t be driven by him and DD wouldn’t be getting in a car with him either.

You can’t control his behaviour, only your own. You need to advocate for DD.

He'll lose his licence soon so the matter will be sorted.

Speeding on minor roads is a huge problem and dangerous.

He's clearly not as good a driver as he thinks he is. Hopefully he's banned before he kills someone, it's often the arrogant, irresponsible ones that hurt the innocent unfortunately.

An indicated 78 is more likely to be 75/76 and completely reasonable. It’s extremely unlikely that he’s going to get done for speeding. I thought you were going to say he was doing 100+ everywhere.

As a child, the fastest I saw as a passenger was 155 on a quiet motorway. I also have a fond memory of doing 130 in an unmarked Sierra Sapphire Cosworth on the M6.

Well naturally 70 is the limit so he should do that however in reality is say

78 on a dry day on a motorway , assuming no aggressive or erratic dry is safe. 60 on a motorway in rain etc is more dangerous.
hence it’s about driving at a speed /syle suitable for the road conditions rather than a speed limit . 70 is no safer than 78 ( although is the speed limit (out of date) )

what does he drive like in town, is he aggressive driver

I drive at 80 on the motorway. Modern cars can more than handle it. The limit should be raised imo

Is he a dick about other things as well?

My XH was just like this, and it was just one more of his subtly controlling, passive-aggressive, stubborn behaviours.

The fact he has 9 points would suggest he speeds in urban areas too which is not good. If you left it at that I think we would all agree you should be annoyed at DH.

The fact you said he was doing onky 78 and you're cautious yourself of motorways kind of undermines your annoyance. No criticism of those that don't drive but a lot of criticism of those that drive but are scared of motorways.

Like other people I adhere in a 30 or 40 as it's there for a reason. Motorway limits are outdated and nobody has ever been done under 80mph true GPS which is about 90mph on a car dial

I do get the point that the rules/ laws were set a long time ago when car technology was different but there were also a lot less cars in the road too

Fact: all speeding is illegal, no amount of self justification will ever change that. It's up to individuals how much it bothers them that they drive illegally. 75 on the motorway? Unless you are doing something else to get the attention of the police I'd say you'd never get "done" for that. Unfortunately that's the exact mentality that has the majority still driving at 35 in 30 limits and 45+ in 40 limits, and thats where speeding needs to be policed yet never is. OP if that is what you mean by "always speeding" then stop yourself or anyone else getting in this selfish fuckers car, please.