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I’m SOOOO emotional about dd starting school

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Njay3 · 18/07/2025 17:39

My little girl starts school in September and I am a wreck. I’m experiencing secondary infertility and always imagined I’d have another by now but its not just that and I am a MESS. Her nursery “graduated” this week (even though she’s going there all summer) and I’ve cried every day. Am I going nuts or is anyone else insanely emotional about the thought of school?

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Safxxx · 18/07/2025 23:44

Every milestone is emotional especially with your first born ❤️ I'm sorry you had a miscarriage and going through infertility 😔 ask your doctor to prescribe you progesterone next time your pregnant start taking it. Probably a combination of both feelings that's why your emotions are high, buts it's totally understandable and it's such a step up from nursery/reception, try not to let your daughter feel your emotions as I've noticed kids get more upset and don't want to go school. I work with early years school children and today I was hyping them all up on how exciting the step up.will be in September....try to be positive around her, first few days will be hard for you and her but I promise you kids adapt very quickly, it's us who worry for no reason. Wishing you and your girl all the best for SEP and hope you get your rainbow 🌈 baby soon 🙏❤️

healthyteeth · 18/07/2025 23:33

Totally normal.
And especially if you are experiencing secondary infertility ❤️
What’s not normal is being separated from our young children 5 full days a week. But I would say that as I home educate my DC.

TheChosenTwo · 18/07/2025 23:32

Trovindia · 18/07/2025 23:13

I've never got emotional over stuff like this with my kids but it seems most people do, so just let yourself feel what you feel.

Same, yet I was on Instagram earlier and must have seen about 10 posts from different people all sobbing about it - I think I must be a hard hearted bitch tbh, just think “well
what’s the alternative? They never grew old enough to not start school? Give your bloody head a wobble ffs 🥴”,
think I’ll be staying away from Instagram for the next week or so, the amount of people
who seem unable to cope with very routine normal things don’t half make life hard and dramatic for themselves (not just talking about school leavers here).

littleweedandherflowers · 18/07/2025 23:29

I really struggled too! Cried everyday for weeks before she started ! It does get easier xx

Squarestones · 18/07/2025 23:28

I'm sorry for your loss, absolutely this is an emotional moment for many people and of course you'll be feeling that emotion very strongly with such a recent miscarriage.

I have also felt emotional when mine started school but the hardest was when I was also longing for another baby, the sense of time slipping away from you is so acute when you are in that situation.

I hope the summer has plenty of joyful moments xx

Reno2023 · 18/07/2025 23:16

I am so emotional, this is my third and last and the end of an era for me. I have been a mess for the last couple of weeks.

Frazzled83 · 18/07/2025 23:15

I have a little sob and baby photo binge at the end of every school year 😂

Trovindia · 18/07/2025 23:13

I've never got emotional over stuff like this with my kids but it seems most people do, so just let yourself feel what you feel.

Swimforthewin08 · 18/07/2025 23:12

Just wait till they have the last day of primary school like I have today 😭😭😭but you’ve got so many happy memories to come don’t worry! And fingers crossed another little one comes along soon for your next round of baby and toddler fun 😀

pineforest · 18/07/2025 20:22

I was exactly the same. I cried the last time I picked my DS from preschool and cried the day he started school.
He’s now just finished yr2 about to go into yr3 - junior school! The last 3 years have flown by and I’m emotional all over again!
Once your DD starts the emotion will go and instead you’ll be excited to hear about her day and see how much she learns at school. The school days and terms just seem to fly by though!

Njay3 · 18/07/2025 19:49

Thanks for responses everyone. May be worth saying I had a miscarriage a couple of weeks ago. A bit of a relief to know I’m overreacting and I’m not going to feel like this right the way until September!

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bridgetreilly · 18/07/2025 17:47

Remember that the point of parenting is not ultimately to have children, but to bring up adults. So every milestone is positive progress towards that. Try to be excited about what’s to come, not sad about what’s past.

PragmaticIsh · 18/07/2025 17:44

I got a little teary on the last day of nursery with my second, as they'd been so fantastic over the years. Didn't find them starting school emotional at all, just annoying as they did half days for weeks.

RandomMess · 18/07/2025 17:40

I found it very emotional too, hugs.