Beard

Well a beard make my vag like the sahara.

I have the right to refuse sex for ANY reason I want to

I hate beards, i hate the way they make men look 20 years older, i hate the feel of spongey hair on the face. Just eurgh

I dont like fresh shaved either though, I like a bit of stubble

Would you be ok with him not sleeping with her because she'd changed something about her appearance?

Refusing an act the beard directly affects, fine, but saying "I'm not having sex until you lose the beard" is controlling

How would you feel if he said he would no longer be having sex with you because you'd changed your appearance? Maybe dyed your hair or had it cut short...

You can say his beard his uncomfortable during certain sex acts by withholding sex until he changes something you don't like is just manipulative and if he did that he'd be absolutely slammed here

So the OP should continue to have sex with him no matter how unattractive she finds him with the beard, her consent doesn't count for anything?

YANBU, I find them deeply unappealing and wouldn't go near my DH if he had anything more than a v well-trimmed goatee at most and ideally clean shaven (which he is, thankfully). I like sideys but any hair around the mouth, no thanks. They weren't a thing so much when I was dating (90s to early 2000s) and the massive comeback they've had was unimaginable then, and I've felt sorry for all the girls who've had to put up with beardy guys as it's become the big thing. Obviously some women like them, but many are like us, OP, and find it rank. Course we're not allowed to impose our views cos body fascism, but you know your DP and how your relationship functions and if it's generally healthy then I think it's fine to express preferences/tastes - my DH is in no doubt I love him and that I'd still be attracted to him if any number of unfortunate things happened to his body, but to inflict a beard on me would effectively be to opt for zero snogs. It's a bit like if I wanted plastic boobs - he'd have to 'let me' because it's my body, but I couldn't expect him to find them attractive when I know he'd not into them.

Sure many women will post saying how lush beards are and that's grand. But for me, YANBU. Solidarity!

Team beard all the way. It’s very sexy.

Suggestions for what? If he chooses a beard he chooses a beard.

The suggestion by a pp to refuse sex in an attempt to control his choices is vile and would not stand in any form on here if the sexes were reversed.

Personally I'm team beard as well, but ultimately the only body hair you get to dictate on is your own. Just as he doesn't get to dictate anything to do with your body/ hair.

I think you might need to spell out the issue with some sexual activity though, prickly is not great for kissing or other activity. If its affecting your body then I think it's fair enough to explain that.

Does it really not suit him? I think if someone is handsome a beard usually works well. And sometimes if they're not that handsome or have a weak jaw it's an improvement.

I guess you can just keep saying you're not keen on it. Maybe reiterate it in bed and be prepared to refuse sexual activity. That might get him thinking about getting rid?

Ultimately though it's his choice. Would you change your hair or appearence that you really liked just because he said so?

I’d be upset. I detest facial hair and find it really really unattractive.

I hate beards but it's his face so you have no right to tell him what to do with it.

However, if you don't want sex with him you have the right to say no to that too.

You can't dictate what he does with his body, but you can with your own and if keeping the beard means you won't be inclined to have sex with him then hopefully he'll choose to get rid of it. You might have to quite bluntly spell out the connection between the two things though.

Can't help, I love a beard