DH being cruel to small fish

I appreciate tone is sometimes lost in text but I was genuinely offering my condolences, I would be horrified to find out my DH took part in animal cruelty for shits and giggles.

Have you decided what you are going to do OP ?

doesn't want to cause a fuss? The fish has more backbone

This is the best idea. Or get the stuff required and look after it yourself.

It’s only been a couple of hours.

People who intentionally cause suffering to a helpless animal deserve the same thing to happen to them

That’s awful. Tell them the fish died and rehome it or keep it in good conditions.

Prioritising "pet" animals from other animals is called speciesism. All animals deserve a life free from human cruelty. Sticking up for a "pet" fish while later chowing down on fish suppers is a double standard.

As to the poster who's the daughter of a farmer - what a revolutionary view that slaughtering animals for pleasure would be seen as normal. It's almost like growing up in an industry where animals are killed for their flesh might create a large blind spot to animal suffering.

Please don't put live fish in the freezer. RSPCA guidance says to use clove oil
https://kb.rspca.org.au/knowledge-base/what-is-the-most-humane-way-to-euthanase-aquarium-fish/

Another thread where there’s loads of posts and the OP hasn’t been back.

I don’t bother responding in good faith to these types any more.

Interesting 2nd post, OP.

On the off chance this is genuine… do you seriously have sex with this bloke? Doesn’t your vag just completely dry up at the mere thought?

@linaplatelover How a man treats animals is one of the best ways to judge his character. If he has no regard for animals, then he is very likely to be abusive towards other people.

'They were so grateful that I'd called & said usually people flush a dying fish down the loo which is cruel. I was advised to seal the dying fish into a plastic tub in some water from the tank & put it into the freezer when they would gradually get colder & colder'

Freezing alive is really painful for a fish or any living creature. I can't believe a vet is advocating this. The most humane way is to add a small amount of clove oil to its water which will allow it to fall asleep and stop breathing painlessly.

My god.
How weak do you have to be to go along with this?

I feel haunted by this story. Rip little fish

Well judging by all the responses, many would disagree.

Just about every animal product we eat or use (in the form of leather etc) is farmed.

I agree that how fish are farmed is relevant just as how chickens, beef, pork etc is farmed. But OP is talking about a pet fish that is being passed around a group of man-children which is totally unacceptable IMO not a farmed fish.

When my DS wanted a pet I got him some goldfish to look after. They were very friendly & used to come to the top of the tank when they saw me as I was the one who fed them. When one became ill with a swim bladder problem & started to sink to the bottom of the tank, the others took turns in pushing it to the top of the tank demonstrating that they are sentient beings with a sense of companionship & care for others. I rang my local vets to ask for advice. I was told that the fish was dying. They were so grateful that I'd called & said usually people flush a dying fish down the loo which is cruel. I was advised to seal the dying fish into a plastic tub in some water from the tank & put it into the freezer when they would gradually get colder & colder.

Absolutely disgusting behaviour.

i would simply take the fish to the nearest pet shop that has tropical fish and hand it over to them. They will have isolation tanks they can keep it in while they assess and treat it and can then sell if it’s healthy.

I’d offer zero explanation to your H and make it clear that if he or anyone else mistreats any living creature again you will report it.

If you want someone to update then stop with the snidey comments.

Yes say it died, and give it a new home . I would not give house room to any one who treated other species like that.

Hi @linaplatelover
*Buy a baby carrot.
*Put it in a poly bag with water
*Tell DH to make a "joke" when hands it on (that fish didnt make it)

If this pass the parcel is for "fun", how can these males not find the carrot hilarious, too?

Then contact pet shop or RSPCA to hand on appropriately.

What a bunch of "richard heads" your DH circulates with 😫

I could not be with a man that participated in such awful and prolonged and deliberate cruelty.

I would name and shame them all on social media and take the fish tomorrow if it’s still alive to a place that can help it, whether it be a rescue, aquarium centre or knowledgeable fish owner.

No advice needed. Remove the fish and get rid of the husband.

Take the fish to a place that sells similar fish and see if they will accept it.

Divorce your spinless husband. How can you ever respect him after this? Did you not know he was a moral coward when you married him? So unattractive.