DH being cruel to small fish

I'm so glad you are giving this fish a better life. But I'm concerned that if your DH is paying the fine he has said it has died. If this is the case, what happens now? Do they just buy another and start again? That's not the answer. Please tell me he has stood up to them and they have agreed to stop? If he has taken the cowards way out then I think I'd start looking at him in a very different light. I honestly couldn't be with someone who allowed cruelty to any creature in order not to rock the boat with his mates.

Arseholes all of them too a man.

Has DH said anything to the team, tried to find another team to join?

Your DH should find new friends.

how Pathetic and weak - he should be telling his team that what they’re doing is animal cruelty and that he wants no part of this.

He shouldn’t pay a ‘fine’ for opting out of cruelty.

I cannot imagine being with a man like this. DH recently bought DD(2) some fish and a tank. He knows how to keep fish anyway as we had a very large tropical fish tank/oak unit about 7/8 years ago (had to sell as it was too big to take to our new home) but he still did some more research including how many were suitable for the size of the tank (not very big). We’ve got 4 neon tetras, 2 snails and some shrimp. He checks the temperature etc a couple of times a day to make sure it’s right. I’m not interested in fish so it’s his job to clean them out/feed them etc and DD is loving helping him “clean” the tank (wiping the outside glass with a micro fibre cloth) and every night she sits with him to look at them/say goodnight to them.

DH is a “man’s man”, plays football, works in a trade and all of his friends are the same and yet none of them would treat a fish like this. It’s vile.

Please keep the fish and sort out an appropriate tank, heating and filtering system etc or rehome responsibly.

so hes going to tell thejm it died? what happens next time they do this

they should grow the fuck up

Didn’t you read op’s update? You’re not that bothered, so why should anyone else be.Strange view, not very helpful.

what a weak little man, agreeing to be part of a prank to save face !! I would definitely tell the RSPCA of this disgraceful prank !! I couldn't look at my husband ever again to think he would even entertain this . Is the fish really being cared for or is it just words as everyone on here is so horrified ?

I would go absolutely berserk at this, what a bunch of dicks. Poor fish. I can’t abide any cruelty to animals at all. I would do what it takes to save it. WTH is wrong with grown adults playing shitty games at the expense of a living thing.

This would gross me out and creep me out completely. What a weird, sinister way for your dh to behave. I mean, I am sure you know this but cruelty to animals is one clear trait of psychopathy, and pretty much always leads to cruelty to humans. Has he done anything remotely like this before? Does he normally show empathy and compassion? Are there any other red flags?

Animal welfare professional here. Animal welfare act 2006 requires keepers of animals covered by the Act to meet their needs by law. Failure to do so can result in prosecution.

Absolutely report it to the RSPCA (England and Wales) or Scottish SPCA.

Either way, keep the fish and give the poor sentient animal the life it deserves.

Well clean the water and get a bigger tank for it then?

tip of the iceberg this though... (yes it is wrong and not something I would do personally) but much worse things happening in the world to get worked up over this.

Spot on. Everyone is against animal abuse... until dinner time.

This!

This is the sort of thing that makes my blood boil. Needless cruelty for giggles. Fucking bunch of bastards.

The perfect solution. This everytime. What a bunch of losers treating it in this way to start with!!

OP I agree this is so cruel 😞 poor fish. I agree with PP, tell them the fish died and pay the silly fine. In fact, tell them the fish died because someone dropped the tank so it's destroyed as otherwise I fear they would replace the fish if they are given the tiny tank back. I doubt they will be bothered to replace it if they think the fish tank is destroyed. Rehome the fish to a pet shop - you will likely have more success with this with small independent pet shops than you will from pets at home, or give to a friend with a tropical tank set up

Maybe this is a dumb question, but - if you have to pay money if the fish dies while you’re in charge of it, why was the fish so poorly cared for? I can understand being ignorant and getting the species wrong, but everyone knows fish need a clean environment.

Make sure you tell the partners of the scum who are doing this too. It needs to end.

Thanks for the update OP but why does your husband have to pay the fine if the fish hasn't died ?
What he's done is shown (guided by you presumably ) he's a better person than the rest of his team mates.
I sincerely hope they aren't going to repeat this ridiculous 'game'.

Thank you for the update op.Good news.

Of course op’s DH, should have said no, want no part of this, stopped it, that’s the problem.Saying to op, sorry you found out the type of man you’ve married, what’s she supposed to do with that, he’s wrong, most importantly this ‘game’ is stopped.I just don’t see the point in making op feel worse.