DH being cruel to small fish

I have 2 aquarium and I really look after my fish. I really hate animal cruelty.
Those blokes are stupid bastards and need to grow up ffs. Take the fish to a pet shop and see if they will take it ASAP.
I would be so ashamed of my DH if he did this.

If your DH agrees it’s cruel then it’s on him to adopt it and get it into a clean and appropriate tank. If he doesn’t, you should. And tell him he’s on double secret probation for any other signs of cruelty to helpless creatures.

I'd be really disgusted if my dp was too cowardly to stand up against animal cruelty.

But if he really can't stand up for what's right, then I agree you could pretend it died and pay the fine.

I'd definitely lose respect for someone doing this!

We don’t eat goldfish and chips no. What’s your point here ? There’s a world of difference between eating properly caught and processed fish, and passing round a helpless little creature kept in shitty conditions for some childish lads’ game from grown men who should know better.

Yes it's cruel if it was me I would get a more appropriate tank and everything it needs and refuse to hand it back. Poor little fish.😥

He’s a twat of the highest order. I’d buy all the relevant stuff the fish needs to have a good life, make him pay for it and tell him the fish was staying. If he tried to argue? I’d tell him to fuck off permanently. I would rather keep the fish than such a spineless turd.

I wouldn’t even bother to tell them it died. Tell them it deserves better and either rehome it or give it the care it needs.
Call them out on it. Someone needs to.
Absolute idiots.

Yes, they are.

If all these self-professed animal lovers could take a moment to consider their cognitive dissonance, there'd be much fewer animals suffering in the world.

This is appalling.

I would be going straight to the nearest P@H (usually open until 8pm) to get whatever that poor fish needs. Yes it'll probably be expensive I'm sure but someone has to take responsibility for that poor fish. I literally couldn't have it in my house (or elsewhere) knowing it was suffering and do nothing about it. Once it's in proper conditions you can rehome if you choose not to look after it but someone needs to step up here and it's clearly not going to be your DH. Has the fish even been fed???

Please please do not let this fish go back to circulate around the group.

Cruel beyond belief. In the late 70s/early 80s our village had a fete with a game "guess which number house the hamster would go in to win a prize". I was between 10 and 12 and I made an awful fuss about the cruelty of it, a nocturnal creature put in the middle of a board on a warm summer's day and wait for it to confusedly trundle into a numbered cardboard box made to look like a house to win a prize. The person on the stall was a primary school teacher who I knew and he immediately closed the stall and looked ashamed and there wasn't a repeat in subsequent years.

So its ok to willingly allow one to suffer for a game? there’s no comparison.
this would make me see my dp in new light.
id leave my dp if he were ever cruel to a an animal. If he thought this was ok to take part in, id never think of him the same. Disgraceful, all of them. Awful role models.

Some of these men ‘didn’t want to make a fuss’ either. This sort of behaviour escalates when people begin to think they can get away with it. I’d have no respect for anyone who participated in this game.

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I would take this into my own hands without him and sort the fish out with a suitable home.

I'd let him sort his embarrassment out with his friends but not before I informed him it made me see him in a light I'd never seen him in before, and not one that is favourable or sexy. Then I would suggest neither of us ever mention it again.

Grim. Is this a publicly known local sports team? I'd have already put a public post on Facebook about the cruelty and tagged the team's page. Insta too. I wouldn't be handing the fish back and I wouldn't be covering it up either by saying it's dead. What a bunch of wankers.

They are a bunch of dicks.

I hate men's b.....stupid herd mentality when they don't have the guts to say No to something that is just plain wrong. It makes me wonder if that is how gang rapes happen - because no one is man enough to stand up to the crowd. I know its a long way from mistreating a small fish to gang rape, but to my mind its the same cowardly refusal to break ranks in the face of something wrong.

The poor fish. I am sure google can help you to help it. Please don't hand it on to anyone else. Its just disgusting that they do this. Tell your DH he has to tell his mates that he won't take part.

I agree, it seems quite creepy and messed up to watch an animal suffer and die as some kind of team activity. I’d be worried about the people involved, they are cruel and enjoying torturing something smaller and weaker than them

To be fair, salmon are

Evil triumphs when given men do nothing. Tell the other wifes or take the fish off him & look after it & pay the fine. Always do the right thing

I would report this to the RSPCA.

Given the connection between animal cruelty and domestic violence i would seriously be questioning being in a relationship with someone who who tolerates cruelty of this nature and who mixed with people who actively practice animal cruelty.

Disgusting

Take it to the RSPCA, and while you are there report the lot of them. Vile men

There’s something so twisted and dark about making something small suffer for the purpose of a game, like a dancing bear. I don’t think I could look the same way at my DH if he was part of that.

Leave him and report him to the appropriate authorities. Animal cruelty is the one thing that I will go postal over. What’s next a bigger pet? A child? Don’t let it go further he’s sadistic.

He shouldn't say it died! They'll just get a new fish and then 2 will be suffering. If you have it a better tank with a heater, would it still be portable? Because that would significantly improve its life.