DH being cruel to small fish

Men not wanting to "make a fuss" ie grow a fucking backbone and stand up to their friends' shit behaviour is a huge issue, that is largely ignored.

curious about the current 2% who say OP is being unreasonable. Post from @TashaG is tactical and it’ll save the fish’s life.this is a shining example of tribal peer pressure toxic masculinity.

I honestly couldn't be with someone who treats a living creature this way for the sake of fitting in! If I were you I'd go full vigilante and take the fish away to a rehomer or a rescue immediately, if its tropical there'll be loads of enthusiasts who would rescue it. And let him know if his team keep doing it then you're reporting them for cruelty. If it makes him or you unpopular, meh who gives a shit about being popular to those kinds of idiots.

Edited to add I'm a vegetarian but even if I ate fish, this isn't for sustenance it's for entertainment, a "laugh"

Here's our tropical fish , this post has made my blood boil. If you ignore this cruelty you are part of it !

WTF even thinks up stuff like this?

Rehome the fish and the DH

It would 'die' on my wat h, and either go I to the most luxurious tank I could afford, or be rehomed somewhere suitable.

And I'm sure some would say it's not a big deal, but I would be looking at my DH very differently if he hadn't immediately suggested this.

Just bloody horrible. Step in and make sure this fish is comfortable
I am not a animal lover but I abhor this kind of cruelty.
Your husband and his mates are half witted, cruel tossers.

The man's a fool

Op, you know this isn't right, I'd like to think your DH doesn't think it's right, but he's afraid to stand up to his friends and say so because they'll tell him he's being a killjoy. I couldn't have any respect for a man who wouldn't stand up for what he believes in

Men.
Enough said.
Glad not to have many around me.

Aw that’s so sweet!

My dad was the man who taught me all about wildlife and animals, he taught me all about how to care for pets.

My partner adores our pets and despises animal cruelty.

My son loves animals. All the males I know would look down on a man who did this to a fish.

Evil is built on the backs of people who know it’s cruel but don’t want to make a fuss.

The despicable weakness of him.

I’m thinking of the men I know best, my DH , brothers, brother in law, and my late father. Every single one of them would be horrified, say something, and do something about it.

I couldn’t be with someone that was ok with allowing cruelty to happen to a defenceless creature, it’s abhorrent. Your husband needs to grow a pair and stand up for the poor thing. Then he needs to find a way to improve its quality of life.

I would divorce a man who had this nature and whilst I was at it ring the RSPCA . There must be something deeply wrong with their group of disturbed people to enjoy or participate in this sort of behaviour.

Well,your OH needs to grow some balls and speak out about the lack of basic adequate care for that fish!
Get yourselves off to the pet store and buy the equipment necessary for keeping that species and keep it……don’t even consider passing it on to the next silly little man in the chain of torture! Disgraceful behaviour……they should all be ashamed!

To be fair I was specifically relying to a comment made about fishing. At no point did I comment on the individual circumstance or say it was ok

Yes, op, thank goodness you care.It’s just sad and cruel, that this a game to them.There’s been some really good suggestions, personally l would intervene, not let the fish go back to this group.
Did think, that was a good solution to say they’d died, pay the fine and that be the end of it.But will they just go out and get more.Would be really good if your partner, let the know, this game can’t continue, just because they’re fish doesn’t mean they have no worth, it’s just wrong.

Totally agree with this. My DH has just spent the best part of the last week helping ladybirds out of the house and releasing them into the wild with a, 'There you go darling'.

OP. If your husband isn't prepared to stand up to these men over a fish what else does he go along with against his wishes whilst they're all out on the lash?

I would be so disappointed in my husband and I would make sure he knew why I was upset and furious with him.

I would not be giving the fish back. I'd either try to rehome it with a responsible owner or accept that I now have fish and learn how to care for it properly.

Poor fish.

Fuck off, my MAN partner, brother, uncles, dad wouldn’t do this, NO MAN in my family or life would do this.

My thoughts exactly. I would LTB if he didn’t put a stop to it immediately.

My DP actually wouldn’t do this and would know my reaction, he’d stop his mates from doing it too.

I couldn’t imagine being part of a friendship group where I didn’t feel comfortable enough to speak up about something I didn’t like.

My first thought was to pay the fine and rehome the fish but they might just get another one! I think he needs to make the fuss and point out that being cruel to a fish is hardly manly behaviour.