DH being cruel to small fish

You really should educate yourself on the conditions your fish was kept in before being battered and served with your chips. I think you’ll find it’s not too different to this little goldfish, bar the overcrowding and disease you find more prevailing factory farmed fish.

Let's hope she updates with news of this.

Yes, we know, it can’t continue, but it’s not her fault. I just don’t think having a go at op, is in anyway helpful She’s the only one, who’s prepared to do something about this.It’s not just a case of keeping/rehoming the fish, it’s putting a stop to this happening again.

Pretty sure you’ve misunderstood and the first the OP knew of it was when he came home with the unfortunate fish.

Perhaps I've misunderstood but this fish has been passed around idiot men and the OP is aware of this?

If the OP cared she would have taken action straight away not allow this cruel "game" to continue. It's a fish she can literally pick up and leave the house with not a grizzly bear.

Oh dear. Nul points for my MN technical skills.

I meant the OP, obvs, but stuffed it right up.

(Congrats on dodging the weak husband bullet, btw)

Perhaps I've misunderstood but this fish has been passed around idiot men and the OP is aware of this?

If the OP cared she would have taken action straight away not allow this cruel "game" to continue. It's a fish she can literally pick up and leave the house with not a grizzly bear.

I'd be naming and shaming online aswell!

What? Not my husband. I don't have one anyway.

That’s harsh, op does care, just asked for different opinions, on best how to deal with this, not to be flamed.Feel for op, she has to take this on, with no support.Don’t think for one minute she’s going to allow the fish to go back.

Irrelevant under the circumstances IMO.

Suspect vegan crap.

I'm talking as a farmer's daughter. I spent my childhood on a farm. We had sheep & bullocks which were kept to pay our bills. All animals kept in good conditions, but, at the end of the day, the bullocks & sheep not needed tor breeding were taken to market for meat.

We also had a small dairy herd of Guernsey cows for milk.

We kept chickens running around the farm scratching up grubs, worms etc for a living, giving us a good supply of eggs which we sold at the farm gate. My father killed the cockerels once fat enough to eat & laying birds who were aged 18 months as they were no longer economic to keep which we also ate.

The bullocks & male lambs only existed because they were going to be sold for meat. The chickens lived good 'chicken' lives scratching around, bringing up broods, but once they got too old to lay enough eggs to justify their keep they were killed & we ate them. The animal poo went onto the ground to fertilise it.

I don't get vegans - our countryside has been farmed for 1000's of years & many of our native flora & fauna depends on it, if there were no more farm animals the countryside would be over-run with brambles, scrub & butterflies etc that depend on a managed countryside would die out.

You're just as bad for not taking the fish to a pet shop/someone who can look after it properly. You should be ashamed of yourself. To stand by and let cruelty happen is just as bad. Also, I would leave this disgusting excuse of a man. This is the same mentality we see in gang rapes. A few men round the edges who don't want cause a fuss.

Well why not? Both the same animal except for a perception and I'm not vegan.

I’m simply pointing out that the question as to whether all these posters eat fish is highly relevant… if they have such strong reactions to the conditions this goldfish is being kept in, they presumably won’t be eating fish themselves unless they only eat line caught stock they caught from the sea or river as you do.

Sorry @2025ismybestyear your husband is weak or lacking in any morals if he can't stand up to that.

Oooo yes, telling the other partners, that’ll stop it. Excellent suggestion

I'm sorry, there's a tiny helpless animal suffering at the hands of people he knows, for no other reason than entertainment and he won't help it because he doesn't want to make a fuss? What kind of man is he, exactly?

Pathetic.

So, I get that you don't eat farmed fish - neither do I. However I eat fish caught at sea, or that DH catches out of a river.

I don't really get your point though.

Are you saying because other people abuse fish, this isn't really an issue? Or are you just making a point - in which case not helpful under the circumstances.

That’s shocking! Even if he does agree that it’s cruel he’s still not willing to do anything about it, and he still chooses to count these people as his friends. As the saying goes, judge a man by the company he keeps. Your DH chooses the company of people who find it funny to torture animals. I don’t know think I’d be able to get past this.

Farmed fish (for food) raised on industrial farms are kept in severely crowded conditions, whether they are raised in tanks on land or in ocean pens, and nearly 40 percent of farmed fish die before the aquafarm operator is ready to slaughter them- so I’d say this question is highly relevant

Farmed fish (for food) raised on industrial farms are kept in severely crowded conditions, whether they are raised in tanks on land or in ocean pens, and nearly 40 percent of farmed fish die before the aquafarm operator is ready to slaughter them- so I’d say this question is highly relevant