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To think a two hour sesh sounds hellish?

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MyWarmOchreHare · 18/07/2025 14:48

Just been away for a weekend with a male friend. During one conversation we got on about sex somehow, and he said he thought anything less than a two hour session is a waste of time.

Good for him I suppose, but AIBU to think the majority of people would find this far too long and start planning their dinner?

Before anyone says he’s trying to impress me or get me into bed, he’s not.

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Nikki75 · 19/07/2025 21:42

I couldn't be doing with that.. is this why he is single .
It's not normal or desirable .
It's because it takes him that long to get there honestly he might be lovely but that would be a problem for most I think .

Kjpt140v · 19/07/2025 21:38

MyWarmOchreHare · 19/07/2025 20:25

Yes, this time, but I’ve been away with him before and stayed in the same room. Why?

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I think he's hoping you'll want him to prove his BS.

rwalker · 19/07/2025 21:34

in the 2 hours he’s probably included the 116 minute post sex cuddle

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MyWarmOchreHare · 19/07/2025 21:29

PaulRevere · 19/07/2025 21:06

Love a long session. Not PIV for two hours obviously, but general appreciation as well as fucking, yes lovely. My bf once went down on me for an hour 😂 I usually tapped out before him, but that time he did actually give up, and we looked at the time because it had been ages!

I don't think anything less is a waste though. Anything from a quickie up is good in my book.

An hour!! Not sure to take from that that he was very good or very bad.

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Weepixie · 19/07/2025 21:18

@ThatCyanCat, thank you. I’d no idea.

TheLastOfTheMohicans · 19/07/2025 21:13

Does he always get hours and minutes mixed up?

PaulRevere · 19/07/2025 21:06

Love a long session. Not PIV for two hours obviously, but general appreciation as well as fucking, yes lovely. My bf once went down on me for an hour 😂 I usually tapped out before him, but that time he did actually give up, and we looked at the time because it had been ages!

I don't think anything less is a waste though. Anything from a quickie up is good in my book.

Whattimes · 19/07/2025 20:51

Just to give you a laugh 🤣 I was thinking you meant a drinking sesh by reading the title.

Notashamed13 · 19/07/2025 20:28

Ye Gods!!!! yanbu.... pull my nightie down when you're done!

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MyWarmOchreHare · 19/07/2025 20:27

SunnySideDeepDown · 19/07/2025 18:58

Don’t post on mumsnet then if you have no ability to hear different views!

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Comprehension remains as lacking as ever.

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ThatCyanCat · 19/07/2025 20:26

NoSoupForU · 19/07/2025 20:17

2hrs start to end including foreplay and teasing isn't that extreme, surely?! I can happily spend a day shagging on and off. No children, so perhaps that makes all the difference?

It does 😁

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MyWarmOchreHare · 19/07/2025 20:25

Kjpt140v · 19/07/2025 18:28

Separate rooms?

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Yes, this time, but I’ve been away with him before and stayed in the same room. Why?

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JMSA · 19/07/2025 20:22

Fuck that, no way.

SingleAHF · 19/07/2025 20:21

whispycloud · 19/07/2025 20:19

I would die.

Anything more than 10 mins is a waste of time. My husband and I can get the job done in about 5 mins usually start to end (we both finish quickly!)

Honestly I would not have it any other way.

Gosh. Why do people make such a fuss about sex, and why does it cause so many marital arguments and breakdowns when it's all over in 5 to 10 minutes?

whispycloud · 19/07/2025 20:19

I would die.

Anything more than 10 mins is a waste of time. My husband and I can get the job done in about 5 mins usually start to end (we both finish quickly!)

Honestly I would not have it any other way.

NoSoupForU · 19/07/2025 20:17

2hrs start to end including foreplay and teasing isn't that extreme, surely?! I can happily spend a day shagging on and off. No children, so perhaps that makes all the difference?

faceclothsapien · 19/07/2025 20:16

Some men think: women like foreplay. Hours of foreplay: stud.

HunnyPot · 19/07/2025 20:14

I simply don’t have 2 hour window in my week

SingleAHF · 19/07/2025 20:14

KellySeveride · 18/07/2025 21:07

Did you write it in your diary and block out the time on your online calendar too?

Scheduled sex sounds so unsexy

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We didn't need to write it in our diaries as it was every Thursday for YEARS.

It was great for me to know when IT was going to happen so I could be suitably prepared physically (for example armpits shaved and not eating a big meal, or garlic, just before).

It was always very sexy knowing we would have that wonderful, uninterrupted time naked together every week. I'd spend Wednesdays and Thursdays getting quite excited in anticipation and planning sexy things to do. I really miss that.

lowkey33 · 19/07/2025 20:09

can't help but point out , it wasn't that long ago that women were complaining about sex not lasting long enough lol

ThatCyanCat · 19/07/2025 20:01

Weepixie · 19/07/2025 19:55

What’s aftercare pls. It’s been mentioned a few times and I’ve no idea what it is.

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The time spent together after a BDSM session to bring the sub back down from the high properly and make sure they are all right and just enjoy the glow together. You shouldn't do that sort of thing and then immediately disappear. People can feel vulnerable and fragile as well as high.

Weepixie · 19/07/2025 19:55

VikingLady · 18/07/2025 22:10

It would be reasonable for kink, if each session was a scene. That takes time, especially with aftercare.

What’s aftercare pls. It’s been mentioned a few times and I’ve no idea what it is.

Missingpop · 19/07/2025 19:41

I’d get pissed off & ask to get on with it I’ve got other things to do 😂😂😂 I do think he’s tugging hour tit though

Tessabelle74 · 19/07/2025 19:24

Can't think of anything more tedious tbh

Susgor · 19/07/2025 19:17

He's your brother!!