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To think a lot of women are “dating down” just to avoid being alone?

272 replies

ThatPeachLemur · 17/07/2025 21:01

I’ve seen too many brilliant, beautiful women mothering dusty men and calling it love.

OP posts:
Butchyrestingface · 17/07/2025 22:10

PollyBell · 17/07/2025 22:07

Well i find it weird that someone male or female thinks they above or beneath anyone else

Are you joking? I definitely think I'm too good for many of the men I see regularly at work (criminal justice system).

I think the pity is that OTHERS don't see the writing on the wall.

PollyBell · 17/07/2025 22:07

Well i find it weird that someone male or female thinks they above or beneath anyone else

UpDo · 17/07/2025 22:04

Smithson85 · 17/07/2025 21:55

I mean, I would probably say that 99.5% of women in heterosexual relationships are dating down, but.....🤷‍♀️

'I married beneath me. All women do.'

Robin67 · 17/07/2025 22:04

Happily paired up now. But there was and still is a depressing lack of decent men in the dating pool. They often oversell themselves too. Far more than women

Catladywithoutacat · 17/07/2025 22:02

Absolutely yes. Men who just want to move in with your cause their mum had enough of them and they want you to cook and do all their washing.
I would never again it’s embarrassing

vodkaredbullgirl · 17/07/2025 22:01

ghostyslovesheets · 17/07/2025 21:58

I’m the opposite - single for 15 years - at 55 I have no idea what a man could bring to my table except added pressure - I’m happy, solvent and just can’t be arsed

Same here CBA to date, like my own space.

Bitchesbelike · 17/07/2025 22:01

What do you mean about “dating down”?

In my social circle the happiest couples seem to be both working, but with a higher earning woman, with a supportive husband who pulls his weight with house stuff and childcare.

ghostyslovesheets · 17/07/2025 21:58

I’m the opposite - single for 15 years - at 55 I have no idea what a man could bring to my table except added pressure - I’m happy, solvent and just can’t be arsed

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 17/07/2025 21:56

Also I know this is partly jealousy talking, but k see lots of wonderful men, who do do their fair share of family and home chores etc, married to quite boring and moany women

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 17/07/2025 21:55

ThatPeachLemur · 17/07/2025 21:01

I’ve seen too many brilliant, beautiful women mothering dusty men and calling it love.

I did exactly that and he left me just before our baby was born now I'm
Coparenting with the main character from TLCs no scrubs song!

Smithson85 · 17/07/2025 21:55

I mean, I would probably say that 99.5% of women in heterosexual relationships are dating down, but.....🤷‍♀️

hathawayyyyy · 17/07/2025 21:49

are u?

KickHimInTheCrotch · 17/07/2025 21:35

Butchyrestingface · 17/07/2025 21:31

Twas ever thus.

I'm not though, hence why everyone I know thinks I'm such a tragic case. 🎻

True. One of my closest, most sensible friends told me I was tragic because I had no interest in finding a random bloke to have sex with and as a single person I should be actively on the hunt. Like she is. We've both been single for about 7 years but she's had a long line of dodgy tinder hook ups and fumbles with work colleagues and I've been completely celibate. We're in our late 40s. I know which I'd rather.

TomatoSandwiches · 17/07/2025 21:33

Apocketfilledwithposies · 17/07/2025 21:03

I'm noticing the opposite. A lot of happily single women thriving and a lot of angry rejected men who are annoyed about it. Personally I think the tide is changing. More and more women not settling or accepting less than they deserve.

I see either this or what you said op, lots and lots of women settle or have settled for someone way below what they should accept, the thing is that the standard or quality of many many men is so piss poor, there's not enough decent ones for everyone looking.

Echobelly · 17/07/2025 21:32

I don't know, I get the impression that fewer women are doing this and more are embracing being single than dating men who aren't up to scratch these days.

KickHimInTheCrotch · 17/07/2025 21:31

The incel movement would suggest that women are no longer dating losers and they're pissed off with it.

Butchyrestingface · 17/07/2025 21:31

Twas ever thus.

I'm not though, hence why everyone I know thinks I'm such a tragic case. 🎻

Meadowfinch · 17/07/2025 21:28

FightingFish · 17/07/2025 21:03

A lot of women are choosing to stay single because the alternative is dating down.

I think you are right. Much better no marriage than a bad marriage.

FightingFish · 17/07/2025 21:03

A lot of women are choosing to stay single because the alternative is dating down.

NuffSaidSam · 17/07/2025 21:03

It certainly seems to be the case if you look at the Relationships board on here (or any board on here tbh).

Apocketfilledwithposies · 17/07/2025 21:03

I'm noticing the opposite. A lot of happily single women thriving and a lot of angry rejected men who are annoyed about it. Personally I think the tide is changing. More and more women not settling or accepting less than they deserve.

Ddakji · 17/07/2025 21:02

Always been the case.