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Redsatin109 · 17/07/2025 19:35

Just heard from other parents that apparently they’ll be reducing the amount of water y2 and upwards can have next year. So limiting the amount of times they can access their water bottle. This is because they’re only allowed to go to the toilets at breaks/lunch and it’s to limit toileting accidents in the classroom.

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Duechristmas · 18/07/2025 00:35

cyvguhb · 17/07/2025 19:39

When I was at school drinking during lessons was unheard of, have bodies changed so much that they now can't survive ?

Science told us that hydrated brains worked better

Duechristmas · 18/07/2025 00:34

Pricelessadvice · 17/07/2025 19:37

Years ago we were only allowed a drink at break and lunch. We all survived.
I’m not sure why kids have to permanently be attached to a water bottle nowadays.

I have vivid memories of being thirsty throughout primary school

JimmyGrimble · 18/07/2025 00:31

Velmy · 18/07/2025 00:23

I can see both sides. I'd certainly have abused the ability to go and fill a water bottle up at will 😅

As far as denying water to stop toilet trips though, that can get in the bin. I remember my school trying to bring a 'no bathroom breaks during lessons' policy in. My parents told me unequivocally that if I needed the loo, I was to go to the loo and they'd deal with anyone at school who had an issue with it.

I don't think the 'policy' lasted a week. Absolutely ludicrous to dictate when someone can use a bathroom, child or otherwise.

Most secondary schools already do this though …

JimmyGrimble · 18/07/2025 00:28

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 18/07/2025 00:14

Neither are they stuck to them all day in class or asking constantly to go to the toilet 🤷🏻‍♀️

How do you know? Let me guess … because they tell you so and they would never, ever lie … 🤣

OneBlossomBee · 18/07/2025 00:26

Check about the new rule, but we never had any drinks outside of break/lunch at primary school and survived. What I find the worst part is limiting children to toilet use at only breaktimes! It is illegal to limit staff to toilet breaks at work yet they can impose this on children. I recall very clearly a teacher telling me no in class, I was about 5/6, and I wet myself and the evil hag claimed "it was a joke"! I was a kid and wouldn't know that and she was a temp who wanted the job, but never got it thankfully. The whole thing left me very upset and I never wet myself again and it was such a clear early memory no kid should go through. It needs to be illegal to restrict toilet use. What if a girl had a period start, someone had a bad stomach suddenly or throw up. I'd be complaining and getting that changed asap.😡

Velmy · 18/07/2025 00:23

I can see both sides. I'd certainly have abused the ability to go and fill a water bottle up at will 😅

As far as denying water to stop toilet trips though, that can get in the bin. I remember my school trying to bring a 'no bathroom breaks during lessons' policy in. My parents told me unequivocally that if I needed the loo, I was to go to the loo and they'd deal with anyone at school who had an issue with it.

I don't think the 'policy' lasted a week. Absolutely ludicrous to dictate when someone can use a bathroom, child or otherwise.

Mumwithbaggage · 18/07/2025 00:19

Honestly, some children suck on them constantly. Some bring in Stanley cups bigger than a labrador (pretty sure it's water in there and I should know because it gets spilt left right and diddly).

Some children are asking to go to the loo 7/8 times a day (a TA keeping a log because there was scribble and poo on the walls is a waste of their time). It's madness. Not my class - I just cover PPA before anyone asks me why I don't sort the children out.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 18/07/2025 00:14

I agree with it, children survived for centuries drinking water on their 2 daily breaks in school.
Maybe include an afternoon 5 minutes drink break.

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 18/07/2025 00:14

Blank1234 · 18/07/2025 00:09

If they can’t go 2 hours without a drink then there’s something really wrong. How about you teach them, and yourself, that we actually need to live by rules in life - these ones, and later, and forever. I bet my life they’re not stuck to a water bottle all evenings and all weekends at home. Funny that 😉🤷‍♀️

Neither are they stuck to them all day in class or asking constantly to go to the toilet 🤷🏻‍♀️

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 18/07/2025 00:11

Isittimeformynapyet · 17/07/2025 23:46

You know very well nobody cares about your kids' toilet and drinking habits. You are being disingenuous.

But you're right that they haven't really warmed to you. I guess you'll never know why 🤷🏻.

I'm not being disingenuous at all.

Blank1234 · 18/07/2025 00:09

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 17/07/2025 22:09

To tell my children they can go to the toilet when they need? Or drink when theyre thirsty? I think it is.

If they can’t go 2 hours without a drink then there’s something really wrong. How about you teach them, and yourself, that we actually need to live by rules in life - these ones, and later, and forever. I bet my life they’re not stuck to a water bottle all evenings and all weekends at home. Funny that 😉🤷‍♀️

YerArseInParsley · 18/07/2025 00:08

Redsatin109 · 17/07/2025 19:35

Just heard from other parents that apparently they’ll be reducing the amount of water y2 and upwards can have next year. So limiting the amount of times they can access their water bottle. This is because they’re only allowed to go to the toilets at breaks/lunch and it’s to limit toileting accidents in the classroom.

When I was at school it was a small carton of milk we got in the class before Thatcher the milk snatcher took it away.

Do kids really need constant access to water? How often do kids ask for water if they are playing in their room? I understand it feels like a big deal when they've had something and it gets taken away, like the milk, but they will survive until lunch.

Sirzy · 17/07/2025 23:58

Neverlookback32 · 17/07/2025 23:07

Obviously they can't leave children unsupervised. But they absolutely are allowed to use the toilet if they need to, as long as they arrange for another staff member to supervise while they go. There are often teaching assistants in most primary classes anyway.

I work in a one form entry school. In September 3 of the classes will have a TA for the morning. One for the afternoons. That’s not unusual across schools I know. The teacher can’t just magic up cover while they go to the toilet.

JudgeJ · 17/07/2025 23:57

Parents would expect someone stand at the water fountain to disinfect it between uses!

JudgeJ · 17/07/2025 23:55

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 17/07/2025 22:12

Thats ok, because you don't know my kids. They know how to advocate for themselves, that is not the same as being a brat.

Bless!

Lancasterel · 17/07/2025 23:52

Firstly, check how true and the exact rules.
Secondly, I would say - as a Y2 teacher! - that constant requests for water and the toilet ruins the flow of a lesson or activity and causes no manner of disruptions, so it may not be a bad thing! Obviously on hot days it would be different, but on a regular autumn day, say, children don’t need to drink or use the toilet that much, illness/conditions excepted.

Fancycheese · 17/07/2025 23:51

Another 90s kid who never had a water bottle in school lessons and managed to survive. From hearing first hand about the pressure over stretched school teachers are under, I’m not surprised this has been limited. Absent a medical need, I’m positive the children will be fine.

pitterypattery00 · 17/07/2025 23:51

At school in the 80s/90s I didn't ever have a water bottle. Can't remember anyone having one. We had a drink at lunchtime but otherwise I guess we just didn't drink much 🤷‍♀️.

Edited to add, I've just remembered we had drinking fountains at primary. At secondary, I really can't remember. Did we drink after PE? I have no memory of doing so but it would seem crazy not to.

JassyRadlett · 17/07/2025 23:47

TheWickerHare · 17/07/2025 22:36

OK, and if they asked this of office workers there'd be strikes.

First, there are plenty of jobs where you can't have a drink whenever you fancy and you have to manage both your fluid intake and your loo breaks.

Second, school children aren't adults in the workforce. There is a reason there are adults in charge of them, and there are good reasons for putting rules in place about when and in what circumstances children at school can eat, use the toilet, etc.

Isittimeformynapyet · 17/07/2025 23:46

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 17/07/2025 23:26

Wow this has really upset the mumsnet village. The petty insults are flowing. I have told my children if they need the toilet, they are to go and I have informed the school similarly. It has never been an issue for the kids or the school. Its a non topic as far as I'm concerned, I'm not really that sure why my children's toilet and drinking habits is such a problem for mumsnet.

You know very well nobody cares about your kids' toilet and drinking habits. You are being disingenuous.

But you're right that they haven't really warmed to you. I guess you'll never know why 🤷🏻.

Nannydoodles · 17/07/2025 23:34

The NHS website recommends that everyone (baring medical conditions and extremely hot weather obviously) should aim for 6-8 cups of liquid a day, water, tea, coffee etc all count.
Children could have two before school, one at break time, one at lunchtime and two - four after school before bed that’s plenty - there is no need to be slurping continuously throughout the day.

Goatinthegarden · 17/07/2025 23:34

As a teacher, I’d never dare limit water or toilet trips. Children would cope, but it’s not worth the grief I’d get from parents.

Most kids manage their intake just fine, but some kids just permanently sup on their straws all day long. They’re usually the kids whose parents sneak squash into the bottles and if you dare to remind them of the rules, you have a parent complaining that their child can’t possibly drink water, so it’s best just to ignore it.

Th culture has changed and many children have no idea how to manage being slightly uncomfortable due to having every slight urge of hunger or thirst met instantly. You should see the size of the ‘healthy’ snack boxes they all cart about at break.

I don’t think it’s great, but ultimately it doesn’t affect my teaching, if I’m interesting enough they tend to hold their bladders until I’m finished talking.

Edited to add - and it’s usually not possible for me to nip to the loo until break or lunch. I’ve come very close to wetting myself - usually the first day after a holiday when my bladder has forgotten the schedule.

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 17/07/2025 23:26

TwoPointOh · 17/07/2025 23:03

I feel like you may have been out of the classroom and in the toilets when debating was being taught at your school.

Wow this has really upset the mumsnet village. The petty insults are flowing. I have told my children if they need the toilet, they are to go and I have informed the school similarly. It has never been an issue for the kids or the school. Its a non topic as far as I'm concerned, I'm not really that sure why my children's toilet and drinking habits is such a problem for mumsnet.

Namechangerage · 17/07/2025 23:22

tightfit · 17/07/2025 23:19

I agree, worked in a school and most of them tipped it over their head! If they are genuinely thirsty of course they can help themselves to a drink!

Gosh just realised I went through the whole of my school career without carrying around a water bottle! How did I survive?

(Water fountains at break, drink at lunch)

tightfit · 17/07/2025 23:19

Pricelessadvice · 17/07/2025 19:37

Years ago we were only allowed a drink at break and lunch. We all survived.
I’m not sure why kids have to permanently be attached to a water bottle nowadays.

I agree, worked in a school and most of them tipped it over their head! If they are genuinely thirsty of course they can help themselves to a drink!