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Redsatin109 · 17/07/2025 19:35

Just heard from other parents that apparently they’ll be reducing the amount of water y2 and upwards can have next year. So limiting the amount of times they can access their water bottle. This is because they’re only allowed to go to the toilets at breaks/lunch and it’s to limit toileting accidents in the classroom.

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Crazyworldmum · 18/07/2025 18:46

I’m so lucky we don’t have this sort of stuff where we live . No way would I agree with that

Nt23 · 18/07/2025 18:44

Vynalbob · 18/07/2025 18:11

It is ridiculous!
Sorry to say but regarding drinks during the day a lot of schools have the most stupid rules. There are two facts

  1. People (Inc kids) in the UK tend to not drink enough from a health perspective.
  2. Most kids only go to school toilets when they have to....for many reasons.
They should be encouraging the drinking of anything....at a push still drinks but there should not be rationing as standard (ok it someone repeatedly knocks it over then adjustments can be made). We're getting hotter yet the school's waste time policing drinks.

As a parent, as a TA, as a reading helper I am not abiding by rules that promote dehydration.

Sorry...pet hate

Nobody in this country gets dehydrated in an hour and a half in November.
People saying they do is one of my pet hates - sorry.

littlejlr · 18/07/2025 18:43

I feel its a ridiculous rule. Everyone needs to have access to fluids and the toilet. My daughter has to drink a minimum of 1500mls of water or water based drinks a day and be allowed to use the toilet when she need's to go, for medical reasons. And her school are aware, but has taken a lot of pushing and letters from the hospital. If a child has a medical issue and cannot access their drink or the toilet then it is wrong. But also with this heatwave we care experiencing, you cannot deprive a child of fluids throughout the day. Many of you may not agree with me, but I have my own opinion. I struggle to work with restricted fluids, children should not have to, its dangerous.

Spinmerightroundbaby · 18/07/2025 18:12

Redsatin109 · 17/07/2025 19:35

Just heard from other parents that apparently they’ll be reducing the amount of water y2 and upwards can have next year. So limiting the amount of times they can access their water bottle. This is because they’re only allowed to go to the toilets at breaks/lunch and it’s to limit toileting accidents in the classroom.

Not great especially when as adults we keep ourselves hydrated. Children should have the same opportunities. I remember feeling ill from not having enough water. Just because few children are having toileting accidents doesn’t mean they should all be affected.

Vynalbob · 18/07/2025 18:11

It is ridiculous!
Sorry to say but regarding drinks during the day a lot of schools have the most stupid rules. There are two facts

  1. People (Inc kids) in the UK tend to not drink enough from a health perspective.
  2. Most kids only go to school toilets when they have to....for many reasons.
They should be encouraging the drinking of anything....at a push still drinks but there should not be rationing as standard (ok it someone repeatedly knocks it over then adjustments can be made). We're getting hotter yet the school's waste time policing drinks.

As a parent, as a TA, as a reading helper I am not abiding by rules that promote dehydration.

Sorry...pet hate

WhitePudding · 18/07/2025 18:10

I’m sick to death of water bottles and the latest crazes that go along with them such as Air Up. I have enough to do settling my SEN kids in the morning without dealing with upsets as Yolanda and Percy swapped Air Up Caps so they could make their bottles unique but mummy wants them to swap back and please could Mrs WP ensure that happens today despite the fact it happened off school premises and mummy agreed at the time. Then there’s the leaks, or the once’s where all with good intentions have had their water frozen in the bottle over night and it’s now dripping everywhere. Jezzabel is crying in the corner because daddy took her water bottle with him in the car, so off Mrs WP trots to make a phone call to ask him to bring it back. Then there’s Jimmy, his mum can’t afford Air Up so he has a big standard bottle only Jimmy wants to be the same as the others and takes Jeremiah’s bottle and tries to pass it off as his own. Insisting it’s his and no he didn’t just take Jeremiah’s, both children howling by now.

No word of a lie this is my ta life. Before we event set foot in the classroom and then the water gets spilt on workbooks, the floor, the child next to them as they have a bottle where the whole cap has to come off.

Try working in a classroom of up to 35 kids, just try…

Chinsupmeloves · 18/07/2025 18:06

fluffiphlox · 17/07/2025 22:12

Obviously I’m ancient but I managed to get through my entire education without carrying a water bottle around. I’m not sure that human physiology has changed that much in the intervening period.

Indeed! Now it's become such a thing kids (secondary) actually argue with teachers they have a human right to leave the classroom to fill the water bottle they've been chugging constantly within the first 10 mins of a lesson!

They are the ones who go awol and disturb other lessons 😌

Chinsupmeloves · 18/07/2025 18:04

Cynic17 · 17/07/2025 20:00

Exactly this. Children don't need to be constantly slurping water, and they should only be going to the loo at breaks, not during lessons. It worked perfectly well for decades.

Also agree, it just becomes an unnecessary habit and oh the going to the loo every 5 mins is crazy! X

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 18/07/2025 18:03

HerNeighbourTotoro · 18/07/2025 16:59

Years ago women could not vote and child mortality was much higher and there were no vaccines, but somehow many people survived. Should we revert back to Victorian era or earlier because of that?

Oh don't be ridiculous. There is absolutely no comparison between that and this ridiculous idea of constantly drinking water.

Chinsupmeloves · 18/07/2025 18:02

Plenty of opportunities to drink...before school, break, lunch, afternoon break, hometime.

The water bottle attached to hands has become a fad and a bit ridiculous. Yes we need to hydrate but not constantly.

How we survived I have no idea...

DolefullySingingMotherfucka · 18/07/2025 18:01

I don't have school age children, but I'm getting some insight into why so many adults seem unable to sit through a two hour film or meeting without shoving something into their mouth.

jscbni · 18/07/2025 18:00

Another one who approves, but reminded how we added square lemon and orange flavoured fizzy blocks to our water at school dinners. Obviously only we cool kids.

5foot5 · 18/07/2025 17:25

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 18/07/2025 10:17

So that my children can go to the toilet when they need, that's literally it.

Do you not think, though, that it would be useful for your children to learn a bit of forward planning and make a habit of going to the toilet at an appropriate and convenient time, rather than suddenly realise they are desperate and need to go at inappropriate and inconvenient times?

This doesn't just apply in school time, i.e. going at break time so they can last through the lessons. There must be lots of situations when this is a good idea:

  • at the cinema go before the film starts so you won't have to nip out during the film and miss some and disturb other people in the same row
  • before a long car journey
  • at these public toilets now before we start the walk or you will be going behind the bushes

Of course if a child is absolutely desperate then I suppose they must let them go during a lesson, but surely you can see how schools will very strongly discourage it. Maybe you are right about your DC and they wouldn't take advantage of this, but no doubt loads of kids would abuse the privilege if they were allowed to go whenever.

HerNeighbourTotoro · 18/07/2025 17:00

5foot5 · 18/07/2025 15:42

I agree with you.

I too am from the generation who were not brought up to think they would die of dehydration if they were not constantly drinking water.

We had a glass of water with our school dinner and that was pretty much it. How did we all survive!

Edited

At school 30 years ago I could drink whenever I wanted, I cant remember anyone restricting when I could access my water.
It's also much hotter these days during autumn and summer.

HerNeighbourTotoro · 18/07/2025 16:59

Pricelessadvice · 17/07/2025 19:37

Years ago we were only allowed a drink at break and lunch. We all survived.
I’m not sure why kids have to permanently be attached to a water bottle nowadays.

Years ago women could not vote and child mortality was much higher and there were no vaccines, but somehow many people survived. Should we revert back to Victorian era or earlier because of that?

iseethembloom · 18/07/2025 16:33

To all those talking about dehydration. Most children during a regular 8.30-3 school day are not dehydrated in the least. I don’t understand why so many posts are talking about dehydration. Signs are dark urine, bad vice-like headaches, a dry mouth.

But even if they were a bit dehydrated, the body can tolerate mild dehydration extremely well.

It’s all distraction and avoidance. Water bottles are modern day fidget spinners or fiddle toys.

5foot5 · 18/07/2025 15:42

cyvguhb · 17/07/2025 19:39

When I was at school drinking during lessons was unheard of, have bodies changed so much that they now can't survive ?

I agree with you.

I too am from the generation who were not brought up to think they would die of dehydration if they were not constantly drinking water.

We had a glass of water with our school dinner and that was pretty much it. How did we all survive!

grafittiartist · 18/07/2025 15:20

fluffiphlox · 18/07/2025 15:17

You’re a teacher and you can’t spell ‘queue’?! Blimey.

Oh yes!
oops :)

fluffiphlox · 18/07/2025 15:17

grafittiartist · 18/07/2025 15:16

Oh, water bottles take up soooo much of my time as a teacher!
The scrunching noise of plastic bottles, the thud when they fall, the mopping up of spills, the squirting at each other, wanting to fill them up in lessons, arguing when not allowed.
i used to have a room with a water fountain next to it, and until we made a rule to not fill up in lesson time, it had a permanent que at it, all distracting our lesson and meaning we couldn’t have the door open.
The lost lesson time is crazy!

You’re a teacher and you can’t spell ‘queue’?! Blimey.

grafittiartist · 18/07/2025 15:16

Oh, water bottles take up soooo much of my time as a teacher!
The scrunching noise of plastic bottles, the thud when they fall, the mopping up of spills, the squirting at each other, wanting to fill them up in lessons, arguing when not allowed.
i used to have a room with a water fountain next to it, and until we made a rule to not fill up in lesson time, it had a permanent que at it, all distracting our lesson and meaning we couldn’t have the door open.
The lost lesson time is crazy!

CurlewKate · 18/07/2025 15:15

FancyCatSlave · 18/07/2025 13:07

No we didn’t. But most people were very dehydrated too. It wasn’t a good thing. I remember having one small flask on squash all day at school.

We also had lunchboxes full of shite, no-one is advocating that now either.

Can you define dehydrated and explain how you know most people were?

luckylavender · 18/07/2025 14:00

Children don’t need to be constantly drinking & snacking

JudgeJ · 18/07/2025 13:57

Duechristmas · 18/07/2025 00:35

Science told us that hydrated brains worked better

'Science' could also tell you that's wrong, as ever the facts are selected to prove one's own version of events.

JudgeJ · 18/07/2025 13:50

JimmyGrimble · 18/07/2025 00:31

Most secondary schools already do this though …

Schools in the UK don't have 'bathrooms', they have cloakrooms or toilets, the bath is usually at home!

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 18/07/2025 13:49

FancyCatSlave · 18/07/2025 13:07

No we didn’t. But most people were very dehydrated too. It wasn’t a good thing. I remember having one small flask on squash all day at school.

We also had lunchboxes full of shite, no-one is advocating that now either.

That's complete nonsense.