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Redsatin109 · 17/07/2025 19:35

Just heard from other parents that apparently they’ll be reducing the amount of water y2 and upwards can have next year. So limiting the amount of times they can access their water bottle. This is because they’re only allowed to go to the toilets at breaks/lunch and it’s to limit toileting accidents in the classroom.

OP posts:
DrCoconut · 17/07/2025 22:22

Pricelessadvice · 17/07/2025 19:37

Years ago we were only allowed a drink at break and lunch. We all survived.
I’m not sure why kids have to permanently be attached to a water bottle nowadays.

At my first primary school there was no food or drink allowed at breaks let alone in class. It was for lunch time only. There were no water bottles. Toilets were used only at break/lunch time, I think they were locked the rest of the time and teachers didn't allow you out of the class. Not saying that was right but it is probably possible to swing too far the other way.

Lucyccfc68 · 17/07/2025 22:22

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 17/07/2025 19:47

I would be telling my kids to ignore that particular rule, and to drink, and go to the loo when they need to

Ah, one of those parents then. The parent that all teachers roll their eyes about in the staff room and the one with the kids in regular detention in senior school, as they haven’t been brought up with any manners or respect for others or rules.

SaintGermain · 17/07/2025 22:18

We never drank during class and neither did my children when they were at school so unless lessons are now three hours longer than before, I can’t see the problem.

TwoPointOh · 17/07/2025 22:18

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 17/07/2025 22:11

The school have no issue with me or my children, and employers cant specify when its OK to go to the toilet either.

Of course they can. Confused I can’t go to the toilet when I want in my job.

TheCurious0range · 17/07/2025 22:17

JimmyGrimble · 17/07/2025 22:16

I let mine all have a drink after their breaks and I allow water bottles in class when it’s very hot. My god though, the constant disruption is unbelievable. Even worse when the school bottle has a sports cap that they suck on constantly like it’s a dummy. We come in after lunch at 1.15 and by 1.30 the toilet run starts … and then we have the bottle flippers, the ones who tip them all over their books, the ones who put open bottles back in the crate upside down and create a hazard. I no longer allow filling up or going to the toilet whilst I am explaining anything or in the taught bit of the lesson. If that makes me a monster so be it.

Sounds sensible

TheCurious0range · 17/07/2025 22:17

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 17/07/2025 22:11

The school have no issue with me or my children, and employers cant specify when its OK to go to the toilet either.

What about if you're a police officer, a prison officer, work in court, maybe you're a surgeon or a train driver, do you think you can just nip to the toilet whenever you like?

JimmyGrimble · 17/07/2025 22:16

I let mine all have a drink after their breaks and I allow water bottles in class when it’s very hot. My god though, the constant disruption is unbelievable. Even worse when the school bottle has a sports cap that they suck on constantly like it’s a dummy. We come in after lunch at 1.15 and by 1.30 the toilet run starts … and then we have the bottle flippers, the ones who tip them all over their books, the ones who put open bottles back in the crate upside down and create a hazard. I no longer allow filling up or going to the toilet whilst I am explaining anything or in the taught bit of the lesson. If that makes me a monster so be it.

TheCurious0range · 17/07/2025 22:15

DS is in year one and they're only allowed their water bottles during early morning (soft open between 8:30 and 8:50 bell goes at 8:50 after that is late) , morning snack time ( with fruit) , lunchtime and during afternoon choosing time. DS manages 2-3 500ml bottles in that time, include his drink with breakfast and anything he drinks after 3:15 and he's very well hydrated.
I don't think children need constant water, even adults carrying around bottles of it is a relatively new thing. I can imagine it's also very disruptive if children are either getting to to get drinks during lessons, whether they need them or not, or if they have them on tables to fiddle with.

mugglewump · 17/07/2025 22:13

Certainly from year 2 onwards, children are encouraged to use the toilet at break and lunchtime, but should always be allowed to go during transitions or if they are feeling uncomfortable. Accidents in class should never happen. Children should not be denied access to water, but water bottles should be stored centrally and accessed during transitions or at other appropriate times during the school day. I would check what the school policy actually is and you'll probably find that the protocol is something more like the above.

fluffiphlox · 17/07/2025 22:12

Obviously I’m ancient but I managed to get through my entire education without carrying a water bottle around. I’m not sure that human physiology has changed that much in the intervening period.

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 17/07/2025 22:12

JudgeJ · 17/07/2025 21:42

The 'one' being the poor parent who encourages their sprog to be a brat then wonders why they fail in the long run, of course that's the school's fault.

Thats ok, because you don't know my kids. They know how to advocate for themselves, that is not the same as being a brat.

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 17/07/2025 22:11

cyvguhb · 17/07/2025 20:34

I pity the future employers of your children is that the kind of attitude you're bringing them up with, I bet the school staff love you

The school have no issue with me or my children, and employers cant specify when its OK to go to the toilet either.

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 17/07/2025 22:09

Blank1234 · 17/07/2025 20:33

I don’t know why, it’s not something to be proud of or encouraged 🤷‍♀️

To tell my children they can go to the toilet when they need? Or drink when theyre thirsty? I think it is.

ramonaquimby · 17/07/2025 22:09

I've stopped letting my students have their water bottles at their tables, half of them are sucking at the straws or biting and not drinking, some get knocked off tsbles, others have lids not quite tight and they spill. The bottles get bigger every year. Kids don't need 24/7 access to water. British kids aren't dehydrated. This is an ok thing to do

Pricelessadvice · 17/07/2025 22:08

tighterthanaducksarse · 17/07/2025 21:54

I'm nearly 60 and I remember we had numerous water fountain ms at our school which were accessible all the time

You could leave lessons to get a drink?
We had one water fountain in primary school. You could use it at break time and lunchtime. Or occasionally in lessons if someone felt unwell/sick, they were allowed to get a cup of water from the fountain.
But drinking all day whenever we wanted wasn’t allowed.

Cosyblankets · 17/07/2025 22:08

Ponderingwindow · 17/07/2025 20:20

Why are children getting up to get their water bottles? At my DD’s school, they are always on the desks.

I missed weeks of school as a young child from heat exhaustion and dehydration. We lived in a warm climate, had no air conditioning, and weren’t allowed water bottles. I would get so sick I would vomit. No, I wasn’t a particularly healthy child.

I am very pro water bottles. If children are thirsty, they should be allowed to drink.

I'm assuming OP lives in the UK where 25 degrees is considered a heatwave

Jonesboot · 17/07/2025 22:06

I lived in Singapore as a kid and we didn't have or need water bottles on our desks. We drank before school started, at playtime and lunch. Nobody got ill and I'm pretty sure I wasn't sitting in class gasping for a drink. We didn't carry water to constantly suck on when out and about either. It was hot and very humid.

LBFseBrom · 17/07/2025 22:05

Pricelessadvice · 17/07/2025 19:37

Years ago we were only allowed a drink at break and lunch. We all survived.
I’m not sure why kids have to permanently be attached to a water bottle nowadays.

I was thinking the same. The only exception was with a diabetic child and I only ever came across one.

Zonder · 17/07/2025 22:00

Redsatin109 · 17/07/2025 19:39

That’s what I thought. That’s why I said apparently. But a number of parents of DD class (going into y2 in September) have said it

Do you know where they got this from?

PersephonePomegranate · 17/07/2025 21:59

There has never been any official communication about this at my DC's school but it's definitely something I've noticed.

They did allow the kids to drink more when it was really hot though.

Hercisback1 · 17/07/2025 21:55

tighterthanaducksarse · 17/07/2025 21:54

I'm nearly 60 and I remember we had numerous water fountain ms at our school which were accessible all the time

You walked out of lessons all the time to access them? Unlikely.

tighterthanaducksarse · 17/07/2025 21:54

Pricelessadvice · 17/07/2025 19:37

Years ago we were only allowed a drink at break and lunch. We all survived.
I’m not sure why kids have to permanently be attached to a water bottle nowadays.

I'm nearly 60 and I remember we had numerous water fountain ms at our school which were accessible all the time

Teenybub · 17/07/2025 21:50

Based on the amount of disruptions in my lesson around drinks and toilet trips I would agree with it. Straight away there is the assumption that the restriction will be unreasonable without speaking to the school.

I’ve put restrictions in my lessons already because it was unmanageable. I let students fill their bottles at the start or end of a lesson only, that means they have 2 opportunities in an hour to fill their bottle. Now I’m stood at the front speaking to the class, I wouldn’t need more than two bottles of water in the space of an hour so neither will they. I also have a rule that the bottle needs to be off of their desk, it can be at the side of the room, they can access it at the start and end plus once more during the lesson but not when I am speaking at the front because it’s disruptive and not during specific tasks. On their desk and they fiddle with it constantly and sip every two minutes, I will have to shout to be heard over 25+ kids fiddling with bottles and I’m not willing to do that, it also distracts other students which isn’t fair. They then also need the toilet because they’ve finished a full bottle of water, once one goes they all decide they need it. It’s disruptive and I can’t safeguard the students if they aren’t in the classroom, it gets too difficult to keep track who is in and out after a point.

I imagine the school will have similar restrictions and they aren’t unreasonable, they are because the behaviour has lead to it.

Rosscameasdoody · 17/07/2025 21:48

CurlewKate · 17/07/2025 19:48

I would really like to see some actual scientific evidence-not sponsored by a bottled water company, which the initial 3 litre a day idea was-about the amount of water we need and what happens to us if we go a couple of hours without drinking.

I recently had a consultation with continence services for my elderly mum who is bladder incontinent. They’re of the opinion that between 1.5 and 2 litres of liquid per day is plenty under normal circumstances.

Runnersandtoms · 17/07/2025 21:47

Sirzy · 17/07/2025 19:44

Some children spend half the lesson getting up for a drink and then going to the toilet.

having to wait half an hour for a drink until the lesson finishes isn’t going to harm anyone.

Agreed. I teach 45 minute sessions and spend loads of my time being asked if they can have a drink or go to the toilet. A good 60-70 per cent of the requests are time wasting or an excuse to get up and wander around. I'd be in favour of them all being told to have a drink before a lesson/activity starts and reminded no more drinks until the end of the lesson. Same with toilet visits unless a kid is genuinely looking desperate.

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