To ask how much you pay for beauty services like your nails, hair, etc?

"he sees it as me having to “pay him back” now" 😱

and what, exactly, in no uncertain terms, say you to that @ChattyChai?

His golf should not be coming out of the joint account, it should be his "fun money".

He is full of 🐂💩. It's him goofing off with his work buds on the links instead of actually working. He could be "networking " with them at work. If it was work related events, work would be paying for it.

This is me! 🤗

But he's going to golf with the other managers and networking with them. That's an important part of getting opportunities and promotions in some industries. I don't think this is unreasonable for it to be seen as a work expense.

But that's irrelevant to your question.

You should both have an equal amount of personal spends each month (for non work related expenses) and you should be able to spend that on whatever you like. You can easily afford to buy your beauty treatment out of your spends, so it's not really any of his business.

I don’t do nails, brows, lashes or anything like that.

my hair works out at £100 every 8 weeks because I have an expensive anti frizz/straighteng treatment done every 4 months.

Hair cut and colour £175 every 5/6 weeks
mails £40 every month,
I do think it’s a lot of money.I could go grey it would be less expensive.

Christ, I’ve just worked it out 🤦‍♀️ it averages out at around £500 per month. It’s my money though and I can afford it. DH doesn’t care what I do or don’t do as long as I’m happy.

37 years old, £0

No beauty treatments at all outside of the make up I put on my face.

One length hair that mum trims a few cms off for me every couple of months, it costs me making her a nice coffee after ☺️

*edited to add**
Actually just remembered I buy a box of facial wax strips (moustache) which cost about £6 and last 2-3 months. So about £24 a year/
or £2 per month

@ChattyChai AI says (so, obviously true then 😉)

Spending time at the salon as a client can be a form of networking, primarily through building relationships with the salon staff and potentially with other clients. While not a traditional networking event, the salon environment fosters social interaction and can lead to connections that benefit both the client and the business.

Here's why it can be considered networking:

Building relationships:
Regular salon visits allow for conversations with stylists and other staff, building rapport and trust. This can lead to referrals or recommendations to other clients or even business opportunities.
Social interaction:
Salons are social spaces where clients can chat with each other, creating opportunities to connect with people who share similar interests or needs.
Exposure to new ideas:
Discussions with stylists and other clients can introduce new ideas about beauty, style, or even business in general.
Potential for business referrals:
If a client has a positive experience and develops a strong relationship with the salon staff, they may be more likely to recommend the salon to others, including potential business contacts.
Loyalty and advocacy:
Strong client relationships can foster loyalty, leading clients to become advocates for the salon, which is a form of networking in itself.
While the primary purpose of visiting a salon is for beauty services, the social and communicative aspects can contribute to networking and relationship building.

Sounds fair enough to me. 😊

Why is your partner telling you how to spend your money?

DP wouldn’t dream of commenting on my spending (and I spend far more frivolously than £110/month on beauty treatments), and nor would I ever comment on the things he spunks money on, even though some are truly mind-boggling to me personally.

To answer your question, there’s no real pattern and I don’t track it. The last month or so:

Cut & colour - $350
Eyebrow threading - $32
Gel manicure - $52
Facial - $160

Live in an expensive city and have to tip 20% on top of list price.

Nails £22 every 4-6 weeks on average. I just do gel polish and rest them inbetween for a couple of weeks. I know super cheap and she’s great.

Hair cut/colour £100 every 8-12 weeks.

Emlift non surgical facelift every 3 months £150

Tint eyebrows at home. Kit is £12 and lasts at least 10 months.

£30 every 3 weeks for nails
£140-180 every 10 weeks for hair
£45 a month on prescription skincare
£100ish every 3-4 months on other skincare
Would get brows,lashes and Botox if I could but can't justify it in the budget.

About £400 a month, I'm retired so plenty of time

Networking at golf three times a week 🤣🤣🤣

Doesn't really matter how much anyone else splurges on it. Can you afford it is really all that matters.

(and since you asked, I cut my own hair and never have my nails done and plug my eye brows myself but I have other priorities. I know woman who spend a lot more than you on this sort of stuff).

Our of interest, what does your DH spend his money on? Any hobbies or so?

Hair cut £30 every 7 weeks.

I do my colour at home, about £5 per month.

Botox/fillers average out just under £100 per month.

I tint and shape my eyebrows which costs about £2 per month.

Hairs alternates each time between 70 and 100, every 6 weeks. BIAB Nails are 30 every four weeks and get toes done in summer only usually once which is 20. Botox twice a year a couple of hundred each time, lips once a year 150, eyebrow top up every couple of years 200.

Right - but it certainly seems like its a work related expense, and his career could suffer if he didn't have it. So fine for it to come from the joint account.

Haircut - £120 every three months

Pedicure - £35 a couple of times in the summer, only relatively recently started doing this and it's so nice to have someone deal with the hard skin!

Eyebrow threading - £8 every three weeks

Massages - occasionally as needed

Don't bother with manicure

£55 two or three times a year for cut & blow dry

Yeah sod that my DH earns double what I do but we both get our 700 each monthly and gym/ football season ticket come out joint pot !!