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Friend bringing friend on 80th birthday hol and making us pay

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SparklyBrickHare · 17/07/2025 11:54

I’m absolutely fuming this morning. My friend and I are going to Las Vegas in December for our joint 80th celebrations, mine in November and hers in January. She has told me she’s bringing her other friend with us who I don’t like very much because she witters on about herself all the time.

It was supposed to just be me, DH, her and her DH but now she’s asked if her and I can split the bill and pay for this friend to come with us because she’s lonely and hasn’t got much money. She’s expecting us to pay for not only the flights and hotel but for a day trip and helicopter ride over the Grand Canyon which isn’t exactly cheap anyway without having to fork out for someone else.

I’m annoyed at the both of them. Her friend for expecting it and my friend for asking me to split it with someone I don’t like very much. The problem is that you can’t say anything to her because she victim blames and flies of the handle if you disagree with her. We can’t really have any fall outs because we need to get it booked quickly.
What would you do?

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aredcar · 17/07/2025 12:00

AMillionTomorrows · 17/07/2025 11:57

Say “no Jackie that arrangement doesn’t suit us. Would you like to go ahead just the four of us or shall we go separately?”

This reply is perfect

NImumconfused · 17/07/2025 11:59

I would scrap the whole thing - take a trip with your DH only. No way on this earth would I consider paying for someone to come on a trip like that when I didn't even like them. I can't believe she's got the cheek to even suggest it!

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 17/07/2025 11:58

No.

It is a complete sentence, and that is what you say to her. No.

where will this extra person sleep - she will want her own room, and that will cost more per person than 2 people sharing a room.

If your friend insists on her other friend coming, then she pays. or the other friend does.

Luckyforsome23 · 17/07/2025 11:58

Sorry that isn’t what I had in mind. I will just go with my DH. Enjoy your trip with your other friend.

TomatoSandwiches · 17/07/2025 11:58

I would cancel and not go, I'd probably lose the friend who actually doesn't sound like a good friend at all aswell.

99bottlesofkombucha · 17/07/2025 11:58

No. Don’t let her spoil this big ticket trip! Say how would you feel if I suggested we bring <someone she doesn’t get on with> and that you also pay half for them?! We need to book so is it the 4 of us or just dh & I doing our thing? I’d like it to be the 4 of us but I’m not interested in adding someone in.

AMillionTomorrows · 17/07/2025 11:57

Say “no Jackie that arrangement doesn’t suit us. Would you like to go ahead just the four of us or shall we go separately?”

StarCourt · 17/07/2025 11:56

I’d go with just my DH

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