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Ex’s friends and family spying on me on Facebook

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Doolallyally · 17/07/2025 11:47

Separated from ex recently and I’ll be moving out soon. Ex has been receiving screen shots and messages about my Facebook posts - one was when I took our youngest out for food (She’s up to something!) another was taking our teen out for the day on a very hot day (she shouldn’t be taking him out in that heat!)

the latest - I shared a photo of a new book - Women Living Deliciously - it’s a great book and I shared inspirational quotes from it - feminist stuff about living your best life and respecting boundaries etc. I am leaving due to emotional abuse and found the statements powerful and positive. Ex’s friend screen shotted my post saying WTF! and how insensitive I was being? To me the book is hugely inspiring especially how much crap I have put up with and how I’m trying to lose my people pleasing ways! Was I insensitive and rude considering I’m moving out very soon? I did not intend it to be passive aggressive. I’m the one who ended the marriage. Thanks.

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tumblingdowntherabbithole · 17/07/2025 11:59

Doolallyally · 17/07/2025 11:58

They are still on my friends list and some were mutual friends.

Keep that kind of stuff away from social media. There’s no need for it, especially when you know his friends can see it.

Doolallyally · 17/07/2025 11:58

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 17/07/2025 11:57

Why are you sharing all this stuff with his friends - or even on Facebook in general?

It honestly makes me cringe a bit when people post all this kind of stuff for the world to see.

Edited

They are still on my friends list and some were mutual friends.

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tumblingdowntherabbithole · 17/07/2025 11:57

Why are you sharing all this stuff with his friends - or even on Facebook in general?

It honestly makes me cringe a bit when people post all this kind of stuff for the world to see.

ReluctantBikini · 17/07/2025 11:56

De-friend those reporting back.

Stop with the inspirational quotes and hints of emotional abuse.

Doolallyally · 17/07/2025 11:56

Was I being insensitive with the book post? I’ll check my privacy settings and watch who can see my stuff. I didn’t really want to unfriend all of his friends as some were mutual but I’ll be more careful.

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MidnightPatrol · 17/07/2025 11:54

Stop sharing stuff on social media.

Send your inspirational quotes to your friends on WhatsApp if you want to share them privately.

Doing so on a public platform is obviously going to draw attention - that’s why people post things on public platforms.

Withdjsns · 17/07/2025 11:54

Unfriend those people and check your privacy settings - post what you like

Rainpigeon · 17/07/2025 11:53

Stop posting mundane pictures of your life if you don't want people to see ...

Rainpigeon · 17/07/2025 11:51

Change your privacy setting so that they can't see, block anyone you don't wish contact with or don't trust any more.