Ex’s friends and family spying on me on Facebook

Tighten up your profile or open a new facebook account with a different name, and only have facebook 'friends' you can trust so that nobody else can see any of your posts.

Thaat does work.

If they're so affronted by your Facebook posts then they should remove themselves, not carry tales like 6 year olds.

They aren't mutual friends if they are reporting back to your ex.

Saying that, posting inspirational quotes is a bit cringe.

Life your best life and make them wonder. Failing that have a massive social media clear out and lock down your profiles.

They're not "spying" on you. They are reading the content that you post.

Come on now. People will comment on your stuff and once it’s on the internet you can’t stop people sharing. Get rid of these people and don’t post if you don’t want people commenting. Some people will always make a fuss and share a view yoy could never have anticipated.

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Also. You can set your audience for your posts... and can restrict what certain people see... Google it for a step by step guide.
You should definitely restrict posts to his friends and probably most of the mutual friends and definitely your ex MIL.

Who is commenting on your outings with the kids? None of their damn business, and don't let trivial complaints about that put you off doing what you want to do together, but yes. I would stop posting stuff like this and just send privately to real friends.
Best of luck.

She can post what she likes, but when you put stuff out there for anyone to see, you have to accept that people will share it, or judge it, or criticise it. Nothing on the internet is private.

It’s your social media and you can post whatever you want on it. But sharing these quotes on Facebook, to an audience that includes people who are still friends with your ex, especially when you already know somebody is reporting back to him, wasn’t a great idea and does feel a little pointed.

The people taking screenshots and sending them to your ex aren’t your friends, they’re his. If you intend to continue sharing like this, I’d suggest removing them from your friends list, or at the very least changing your settings so they no longer see your posts. These people don’t need this amount of detail about your life.

I would be tempted to post things to bait them, and maybe a few false flags as well to really rile them up, but I am petty and a wind up merchant.

Take the high road and change your privacy settings, they’ll go away eventually. Congratulations on leaving your relationship, in a few years you will look back and laugh at what losers these people are.

Separate your Facebook into two camps ones who back you and are happy for you and the flying monkeys, flying monkeys get cute cat or puppy pictures weather reports (what the forecast let's you post to Facebook) recipies and shit save your inspiration for those who want to be inspired

Stop posting on FB, set your privacy settings to selected people, block the gossips use wattsapp instead if you need to keep,in touch.

I would disagree with the use of the word spying if they are already on your friends list.

People talk, so if you have mutual acquaintances, then yeah stuff is going to get back to your ex. It's clear they have picked a side so I would limit contact with these people.

That said, I do believe you should be able to post what you like without it being twisted to something that it's not.

You can set your privacy to exclude/include specific people. Anyone you think is passing info on, exclude them from seeing any future posts (they won’t know any different)

But the minute anyone insults you, you must block them and any friends of theirs who are likely to join in. Just have nice people you trust.

Or go the other way - post more! :-)
it’s your SM you can post what you like @Doolallyally

if you change your behaviour because of his comments then he still is controlling what you do

who cares what him and his friends think?

with a break up many friends you think mutual generally aren’t - it’s not picking sides as such but people will tend to drift and stay in touch with who they prefer spending time with

whatever you decide to do, limit access, post less, whatever, he will also be trying to make sure his image isn’t tarnished so expect more of the same from him

just try and make the decisions your own

Surely if they can see it ex can see it too. It isn't spying if you have posted it publicly it's what you have chosen to share with the world. What do you care what they think or say anyway you are getting out.

Because she's complaining about her ex seeing it.

This is easy unfriend them or don't post these things.
Be private. Everyone dosent need to know everything.

Just come off Facebook and live instead.

@Doolallyally how do you know that he's receiving these?

You are publishing information about yourself on the world wide web for everyone to read.
The people who read what you have published are not spying on you, they are reading what you have published on the internet for everyone to read.

Only share things when you know who you’re sharing with. If his friends are family are passing on information, delete them. They’re clearly not your friends. Your posts also have an air of faux innocence OP.

There’s a really easy solution to this - several in fact. Don’t post, unfriend, make account private. You obviously want the validation and exposure otherwise you wouldn’t post this crap, so yes people are bound to comment.

If you don't want to de-friend them (though I would if they were reporting behind my back), then you can set your posts so that they're visible to your friends "except" then the option to choose who.

I do this as I have a few work people/clients on my friends list that I don't want to see all my posts, but I don't want to de-friend either.