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To ask when your 13/14 year old goes to bed?

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sidechick · 17/07/2025 09:28

DS13 thinks we are unreasonable and strict (I actually think the opposite and that we are pretty relaxed!)

So I wondered-

What time do your teens go to bed?

What restrictions or limits do you have on phone use?

What time do you expect them up on weekends?

thank you

OP posts:
TotallyAddictedToCoffee · 17/07/2025 10:25

DD13 is a night owl (takes after her dad) and doesn't seem to need much sleep

Her devices lock at 10:30 but she usually dicks around till at least 11/11:30 😩

She gets up at 7:00 on weekdays for school, but will stay in bed till lunchtime at weekends because she stays up till 12/1:00am 😳

Yes, I know this is terrible parenting

ElixirOfLife · 17/07/2025 10:20

15 year old usually in bed by 10pm and whenever at weekends.

polarsystem · 17/07/2025 10:17

School mornings he’s up by 7.15. Weekends anything from 8- 11 am.

polarsystem · 17/07/2025 10:15

15 year old boy - 10 pm on school nights. 9.30 if he’s particularly tired. Friday and Saturday when he’s tired.

twistyizzy · 17/07/2025 10:12

13 Yr old. During term time bed is 9/9.30pm. Phone locks at 9pm but as she doesn't get home until 5.45 and then has 1 hour homework each night she had about 2 hours access to her phone.
She has school on a Saturday so on a Sunday she can stay in bed until whatever time she wants.

Holidays bed time is whenever but phone still goes off at 9pm and she has a 3 hair time limit per day. Up time is up to her but she's usually downstairs by 11am.

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 17/07/2025 10:02

Dts are almost 14. Bed at 2130, don’t have to go to sleep but I take the phones. They are up at 615.

weekends They always have a Saturday activity and need to be up by 0800. Sunday they can sleep as long as they want, as long as they are in bed at the right time to be ready for school Monday am.

Trying2310 · 17/07/2025 09:55

14 year old. Bed around 9pm on school nights. Takes melatonin to aid sleep as he has ADHD so that helps.
Iphone controlled by family app. Has time limits on social media apps and downtime of 8 30pm.
He thinks we are very strict and unreasonable.

MugsyBalonz · 17/07/2025 09:39

My 13yr old is expected to be in their room by 930 during the week, they don't have to go to sleep if they aren't tired so sometimes reads or potters about however they are in their room and winding down.

No limits or restrictions on phone use other than age-related content restrictions via a family app. They're clued up on e-safety and know they can come to me if anything worries them, I periodically check their phone if I have a cause to be concerned. Phones doesn't go in their bedroom and is charged downstairs overnight.

I let them wake up whenever they like on a weekend and in the holidays unless we have plans, although 13yr old has a club on a Sunday morning so gets up early for that. During the holidays I will plan in for at least one lazy day each week where they can please themselves, 13yr old usually likes to rot in bed with a book on those days.

Harrriet · 17/07/2025 09:39

School night around 10pm and is up between 6.45 - 7.00am.
Weekend he goes around 10pm but doesn't put his light out till around 11pm.
Gets up around 7am as he has activities and "stuff"
Holidays still around 10pm and gets up by 8 am usually, he likes to be up and about

brunettemic · 17/07/2025 09:34

13 year old…during the week about 9:30 but he probably then reads for quite a while, at the weekend 10:30 on average, sometimes later and again will read. He gets up at 6:30 during the week and is the first one downstairs, at the weekend I have no expectations of when he has to get up although he’ll often have football at least one day so that could mean an early start. His phone is downstairs at night.