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To have screamed at DH about the eyedrops?

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ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 06:27

Last year DH and I got sore itchy hayfever eyes. I bought some drops. A few days later DH came home and announced that we had been doing the eye drops wrong - Shiela from work had told him that rather than dropping it directly into the eye - you should drop it onto the corner of your nose and let the liquid roll into your eye. I said I disagreed with Shiela and would continue doing it properly my way.

He spent all summer doing it Sheila’s way.

Now yesterday I bought some more drops as we’re struggling again. DH said to me “don’t forget, it’s corner of the nose and let it run in”

I screamed and said that’s stupid! Just drop it into the bloody eye like a normal person!! He continues to say I’m doing it wrong and last night I had to sit and watch him dropping these bloody drops onto his face with his eyes closed!!??

The most annoying bit about it - Sheila has no medical experience. I’m an ex-qualified nurse - yet DH takes Sheila’s word as gospel!

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Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 07:24

Ex qualified nurse

what do you do now Op? (Aside from scream shout and behave like a loon)

U53rn8m3ch8ng3 · 17/07/2025 07:20

Tiswa · 17/07/2025 07:01

Are you sure it’s corner of the nose? Corner of the eye nearest the nose (tear duct) and the letting it roll is the easiest way to- the centre often blinks quite a lot of it out!

So yes Sheila probably was right!

This! If he's dropping it in at the corner of his eye at the top of his nose then he's absolutely right.

Dozer · 17/07/2025 07:20

’screaming’ at a partner or anyone else isn’t ‘totally normal’.

RhiWrites · 17/07/2025 07:18

Don’t these drops come with instructions?

UpsideDownChairs · 17/07/2025 07:17

I am an adult, I can drop the drops directly into my bloody eye. (I can feel the rage building just thinking about your DP OP!)

I think that way's for people who are squeamish/rubbish at it/don't really want a decent dose in their eye maybe because the drops sting. But it's not the 'proper' way, and yes, it's going to introduce bacteria!

LindorDoubleChoc · 17/07/2025 07:16

#teamSheila. I use eyedrops several times a day and dropping them right onto the eyeball is messy and wasteful.

merrymelody · 17/07/2025 07:16

Screaming is totally normal if you’re that frustrated!

Dozer · 17/07/2025 07:13

Agree with @CopperWhite about your ‘screaming’ at him.

Also quite codependent of you both: your bodies, your choices!

Whistlingformysupper · 17/07/2025 07:10

The method of putting it in the corner closest to the nose is what hospital advise when you are given drops to use at home as it distributes the liquid across the eye best.
I think OP's husband has misunderstood the work colleague though as you don't put it on your nose and let it roll in - its the little corner of the eye you squeeze it into.
OP why are you so aggressive in being adamant you are right?

BitOutOfPractice · 17/07/2025 07:06

I would find that annoying op. And I would definitely have snapped at him. Not screamed though.

whynotmereally · 17/07/2025 07:04

Obviously it’s wrong but it wasn’t something to scream about. I could understand if he was mentioned constantly but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case. Do you have other beef with Shiela?

AgnesX · 17/07/2025 07:04

I'm sure screaming was hyperbole. But yes, frustrating when people don't listen to you when you do actually know about something.

Drives me bonkers and I have to bite my tongue not to say "I told you so" when I'm right.

Mrsttcno1 · 17/07/2025 07:03

YABU to scream at him regardless.

But Shiela’s way is actually exactly the way I was told by the GP to put my daughters eye drops in a few months ago. It doesn’t roll across miles of skin it is literally just into the corner of the eye and when you open your eye then it goes in. It’s better for kids or squeamish adults who struggle with putting a drop directly in eye.

Anywherebuthere · 17/07/2025 07:01

You both sound very childish and have a lack of respect for each other.

Tiswa · 17/07/2025 07:01

Are you sure it’s corner of the nose? Corner of the eye nearest the nose (tear duct) and the letting it roll is the easiest way to- the centre often blinks quite a lot of it out!

So yes Sheila probably was right!

Withdjsns · 17/07/2025 06:57

Why are you screaming? I agree he’s wrong though

AndSoFinally · 17/07/2025 06:57

My exH was like this. Would listen to anyone except me, even if I'd said the exact same thing! Drove me nuts

FamilyPhoto · 17/07/2025 06:57

CopperWhite · 17/07/2025 06:53

Screaming at someone because they do something that doesn’t affect you differently to the way you do it is nasty, abusive behaviour.

I hate putting in eye drops, Sheila’s way sounds like it might be easier. I’ll give it a try next time.

Its not the correct way.
Its not even a logical way.

CopperWhite · 17/07/2025 06:53

Screaming at someone because they do something that doesn’t affect you differently to the way you do it is nasty, abusive behaviour.

I hate putting in eye drops, Sheila’s way sounds like it might be easier. I’ll give it a try next time.

Kimmeridge · 17/07/2025 06:47

Let him get on with it if thats what he wants

Screaming at him though do you always over react like that. That seems totally ott

Eaglemom · 17/07/2025 06:45

Ignore all the perfect zen people ... that is scream inducing behaviour, been there with ex taking randoms word for things over mine, where the subject is the exact job I had done for years.
No bloody logic!

PermanentTemporary · 17/07/2025 06:40

I’d remain interested in Sheila from work.

Jumpthewaves · 17/07/2025 06:39

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 06:37

Yes, I actually said to him “so you let your eye drop roll across your skin - carrying with it a load of bacteria - into your eye?! Why not just drop it directly into the eye?! Make it make sense!

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I typed too slowly, but exactly. What nonsense.

Jumpthewaves · 17/07/2025 06:38

That's ridiculous, if your skin has anything on it then it could go into your eye with the drop and cause an infection.