To have screamed at DH about the eyedrops?

“don’t forget, it’s corner of the nose and let it run in”

I'd have told him not to be such a patronising (foolish) twat!

unless DH suddenly gets the urge to date someone as old as his own mother

So does he think she's right because she's older?

Perhaps he should just read the instructions?

So you’re only agreeing with those who agree with you OP when theoretically Sheila is right, even if OH needs a bit of guidance in doing it correctly.
You sound like a right shouty know it all, I feel sorry for your OH!

OP leave him to it. And when he gets an infection from the drops picking up bacteria from his skin and depositing it in his eye, tell him to ask Shiela what to do about it. I get that he’s dismissing your professional experience in favour of her advice and that would irk the hell out of me, but you won’t change anything so why stress yourself out ? He needs to learn the hard way so let him get on with it. Oh and ignore the inevitable insinuations about an affair - she sounds more like the workplace busybody/know all rather than shaggable Shiela !!

You shouldn't be yelling at each other. Also - this wasn't clear from the OP - you should each have your own bottle of eye drops as there is a risk of cross-contamination.

You do you. Or possibly buy the eye products that you spray onto the eyelid. Problem solved.
But screaming at someone is poor bedside manner. Let DH do him and get on with it. Never heard of Sheila's idea. Do you have to stand on your head to make the drops run from your nose into your eye? Why?

Sheila's a pussy. Just put it in your eye Sheila, you twat.

Do you also have a history of eye infections? Do you wash your nose before you apply the eyedrops?

If that's all it takes to make you scream then life must be a barrel of laughs in your house!

I would laugh at DH if he spouted such nonsense, let him do whatever he wanted and proceeded to apply my drops correctly. Anyway, surely there are instructions provided?

Not quite. Doctors don’t advise putting eyedrops on your nose and letting them roll into your eye. They advise putting them in the corner of the eye, directed at the lower lid, so they can wash across the eye. Two totally different things.

I dint know why, but it seems that it’s very hard for people around us to actually accept we might have better knowledge than them (or other people) on certain subject.
It seems to be even worse when it’s something that is your work/you’ve studied at Uni.

And yes it’s infuriating.

Fwiw @ThatsABitExcessive i suspect your dh likes the idea BECAUSE you dint have to put the drop directly in your eye so it’s less uncomfortable. Regardless of whether it’s less efficient or carries issues.

One of the most frustrating things as a Nurse is when people come out with crap like that. My ex husband, once refused to let me redress his leg, insisted I take him to the GP as they had already dressed it and should 'fix' the problem. Made us sit there for an hour, got bored and insisted we go home. I had the dressings, the knowledge, the experience. So when we got home, after I'd had a meltdown in the car at him, I hid the dressings and told him to fuck off and he got an infection. Never been so happy. Scream away at the melt... or when you go to the local pharmacy to pick up another set of eyedrops, ask the 'pharmacist' (who we know doesn't have the time and lost patience a v long time ago) to talk him through how to apply eye drops. Next time he gets ill and wants his personal Nurse to look after him, hide all the medications and tell him to go and see Sheila. Being screamed at by his ex nurse wife should be the least of his concerns. Honestly it's disrespectful. Im probably evil 😈 xx 😀

I have this with my DH. He moans about something, I give him my thoughts/opinion/knowledge. He doesn't say much but I can tell he doesn't believe me.

Then he'll ask his DF or my DM the same thing. They tell him the same thing as I have, then he brings this news to me like his DF/my DM have solved his problem with the same solution I'd previously given him.

He does at least have the good grace to look sheepish when I say "so you believe it when one of our parents tells you, but not when I say the same thing?"

Rolling eyedrops in from your nose sounds mad! I can imagine it being good for those that just can't do their own eyedrops, but the risk of more dust/bacteria getting into your eye really doesn't sound wise!

Bloody Sheila and her powers of persuasion!

What happens if you say "Why do you believe everything Sheila says, but nothing I (the former nurse) say?"

There's an episode of modern family about a Cobb salad that is essentially about this same thing.

If it's always Sheila at work he listens to, might be worth keeping an eye on that

Yes. My husband needed eye drops, and the hospital told him to always apply them at the nose corners of the eyes. 🤷‍♀️

If you read what OP wrote, Shiela told DH to put them on his nose and let them roll across into his eye. That’s not remotely what your ophthalmologist does - they put the liquid into the corner of the eye to wash across the eye itself.

Why?

According to Grok: Dropping eyedrops onto the corner of your nose near the eye (nasolacrimal duct area) and letting them run into the eye is unhygienic and problematic and carries a contamination risk because the skin can harbor bacteria (e.g., Staphylococcus or Streptococcus) from nasal secretions or environmental exposure. Drops contacting this area may carry bacteria into the eye, risking infections like conjunctivitis or keratitis.

Ineffective Delivery: Eyedrops need to be applied directly to the conjunctival sac for proper absorption and effect. Running them from the nose corner dilutes the medication and reduces its efficacy, especially for treatments like glaucoma or dry eye.

Potential Irritation: Contaminants or improper application may irritate the eye’s sensitive tissues, causing discomfort, redness, or allergic reactions.

Dropper Contamination: If the dropper tip touches the skin near the nose, it can pick up oils or bacteria, contaminating the bottle and future doses.

Recommendation: Apply eyedrops directly to the lower eyelid pouch while looking up, keeping the dropper 1-2 cm away to avoid contact. Wash hands first and avoid touching the eye or surrounding skin. If application is difficult, consult a doctor for tools like eyedrop guides or training.

I then asked Grok if it would agree that your husband is an idiot for promoting this incorrect and possibly dangerous process, but it went with "I wouldn’t call someone an idiot for lecturing others to apply eyedrops by letting them run from the corner of the nose, but it’s misguided and potentially harmful. Lecturing others without medical backing is irresponsible, especially for health-related advice."

I, personally, disagree with Grok and think he's an idiot.

Also, mentionitis anyone? Is Sheila shaggable?

Only over really major, truly significant things…like eyedrops 😂

So your husband is doing something which turns out to be a totally acceptable way, and in fact advised by many doctors.

for this, you scream at him and the mumsnet thread calls him stupid, a dick, and warns you he’s likely having an affair.

blimey

No. Shiela misinterpreted. The advice is to put it directly into the corner of your eye nearest your nose, not put it on your nose and let it roll down.

It’s very annoying when people don’t listen to you when you know what you’re saying. I think any ex nurse would be annoyed.

But I’d let him look stupid and do it that way. If he did that in public, people would actively laugh at him.

I've had eye drops put into my eye by nurses more times than I want to think about (I hate it!) and they always put it into the opposite corner to the nose. Potentially putting it straight onto your tear duct is asking for trouble.

Shiela is either wrong, or he’s misinterpreted what she said. Eye drops go directly into the corner of your eye nearest your nose - that’s where the tear ducts are. Rolling them down your nose will pick up anything on your skin and deposit it into your eye. OP is a qualified nurse - l think she may have a better idea how it works than Shiela from work, so l can understand the frustration of watching her DH doing something she knows is wrong, and potentially harmful.