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To have screamed at DH about the eyedrops?

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ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 06:27

Last year DH and I got sore itchy hayfever eyes. I bought some drops. A few days later DH came home and announced that we had been doing the eye drops wrong - Shiela from work had told him that rather than dropping it directly into the eye - you should drop it onto the corner of your nose and let the liquid roll into your eye. I said I disagreed with Shiela and would continue doing it properly my way.

He spent all summer doing it Sheila’s way.

Now yesterday I bought some more drops as we’re struggling again. DH said to me “don’t forget, it’s corner of the nose and let it run in”

I screamed and said that’s stupid! Just drop it into the bloody eye like a normal person!! He continues to say I’m doing it wrong and last night I had to sit and watch him dropping these bloody drops onto his face with his eyes closed!!??

The most annoying bit about it - Sheila has no medical experience. I’m an ex-qualified nurse - yet DH takes Sheila’s word as gospel!

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maudelovesharold · 17/07/2025 12:16

I think there’s probably been a misunderstanding on the part of Sheila or your dh. I reckon the advice was to put the drops in the corner of the eyes, nearest the nose. Something has been lost in translation.

I also remember my Mum, who had drops for Glaucoma, being told to press that same corner, up against the nose, for a minute or so after administering the eye drops, to stop them migrating from the eye. Maybe that was part of Sheila’s advice and it all got confused?

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 12:10

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 11:32

Nah op

you were sacked for screaming at a patient for being “stupid”

and you don’t work with the public now you say? Was that court ordered?

I see you’re into creative writing? Keep it up! You have a great imagination! 😁

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Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 12:03

hepsitemiz · 17/07/2025 12:01

I expect the "screaming" was hyperbole on your part, OP.

I would have been terribly frustrated if my DH had decided to do it Sheila's way as that does sound all kinds of wrong.

As someone who has to use eye drops about ten times a day, 365 days a year due to Sjogren's, I know for certain that the best way is to drop into the outer corner of your eye, not the inner corner.

That is simply because liquids - tears, eye drops - drain from your eye via the tear ducts which are on the bottom lid in the inner corner of each eye. Drops placed in the outer corner spend longer in the eye, and have a better chance of irrigating the entire eye by being washed across the eyeball before draining out.

Starting from the nose is unhygienic nonsense.

She not longer is a nurse because she got fed up with the stupidity of patients

I reckon screaming if probably underplaying it!

hepsitemiz · 17/07/2025 12:02

cross-posted with pps

hepsitemiz · 17/07/2025 12:01

I expect the "screaming" was hyperbole on your part, OP.

I would have been terribly frustrated if my DH had decided to do it Sheila's way as that does sound all kinds of wrong.

As someone who has to use eye drops about ten times a day, 365 days a year due to Sjogren's, I know for certain that the best way is to drop into the outer corner of your eye, not the inner corner.

That is simply because liquids - tears, eye drops - drain from your eye via the tear ducts which are on the bottom lid in the inner corner of each eye. Drops placed in the outer corner spend longer in the eye, and have a better chance of irrigating the entire eye by being washed across the eyeball before draining out.

Starting from the nose is unhygienic nonsense.

trailmx · 17/07/2025 11:58

Floatlikeafeather2 · 17/07/2025 09:14

I've had eye drops put into my eye by nurses more times than I want to think about (I hate it!) and they always put it into the opposite corner to the nose. Potentially putting it straight onto your tear duct is asking for trouble.

I was told NOT to put eye drops near the inner corner. They wouldn’t be so effective as some of the med likely to go down the tear duct and be swallowed instead of staying in contact with surface of the eye.

Empress13 · 17/07/2025 11:55

Sheila needs to go to spec savers 🤣

TourdeFrance25 · 17/07/2025 11:54

londongirl12 · 17/07/2025 06:35

So he’d let an eye drop roll over his dirty face and into his eye? Weird.
why are you screaming at him though???

Dramatic much!

corner of his eye into his eye is not 'all over his dirty face* 🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️

@ThatsABitExcessive

i don't think screaming is on. But I'm a quiet person 😂 I'd certainly be telling him I think 'Sheila' the admin/HR/cleaner/whatever is what you'd call an expert on eye drops & that I as a nurse might just have more of a fucking clue!! But best to pop into SpecSavers/pharmacy next time he's near one & ask them.

then TRY not to watch him!

TRY also to ignore the rude goady fuckers!
it's a shame you've left nursing, but I can totally understand why!!

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 11:54

SapphireSeptember · 17/07/2025 11:53

To be honest, (although you're making things up again, Arnold,) I think nurses should be allowed to scream at idiots. Might make them think.

you and the Op cut from the same cloth 😆

SapphireSeptember · 17/07/2025 11:53

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 11:32

Nah op

you were sacked for screaming at a patient for being “stupid”

and you don’t work with the public now you say? Was that court ordered?

To be honest, (although you're making things up again, Arnold,) I think nurses should be allowed to scream at idiots. Might make them think.

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 11:47

Slimtoddy · 17/07/2025 11:46

I had a realisation recently that some people just love to tell people what to do. Sounds like Shelia is one of those people and so is your DH. It's an ego thing I suspect.

Do you really not see that it’s the OP that “loves to tell people what to do”

Sheila (god love her) made a suggestion
The DH followed it.

the op had a screaming frenzy In response

Slimtoddy · 17/07/2025 11:46

I had a realisation recently that some people just love to tell people what to do. Sounds like Shelia is one of those people and so is your DH. It's an ego thing I suspect.

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 11:32

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 11:21

I wasn’t sacked, I’m actually still registered - I just choose not to nurse anymore and will be letting my registration lapse this year

Nah op

you were sacked for screaming at a patient for being “stupid”

and you don’t work with the public now you say? Was that court ordered?

zingally · 17/07/2025 11:27

To be fair, putting eye drops in the corner of the eye is actually the recommended way to do certain drops - mostly the medicated ones. I have an eye condition, so have a lot of experience with many different types of drops.
I suspect Shelia actually said something like that, and DH has butchered it in his interpretation. Because in no world is any medical professional telling you to put the drop on your nose and let it roll in. That's weird.

FamilyPhoto · 17/07/2025 11:27

LizaRadleywasonthespectrum · 17/07/2025 10:35

Sheila is correct though.

No she isnt.

Currymaker · 17/07/2025 11:26

Why doesn't he just read the patient leaflet that comes with the drops and do it that way?

CaptainMyCaptain · 17/07/2025 11:25

I have read all the OP 's posts. I can't imagine two people getting so worked up about such a small thing. You are both being unreasonable and YABU to scream. Just do your own eyedrops your own way. (Personally, I agree with the OP but couldn't be bothered to fight over it)

Tiswa · 17/07/2025 11:22

Are we sure that is what Sheila said and it isn’t your DH mishearing

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 11:21

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 11:17

Yeah, you were sacked Op! 😆

you. Sound. Terrifying

I wasn’t sacked, I’m actually still registered - I just choose not to nurse anymore and will be letting my registration lapse this year

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Missanimosity · 17/07/2025 11:21

Flossflower · 17/07/2025 08:31

It is really important that people don’t share eyedrops.

Buy 2 new bottles.

Why? You drip it, there should be no contact between yhe nossle and the eye, is not like you put it in eye pick it up then put it back in the bottle to use later.

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 11:20

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 11:17

Retired now?

No I do something else now - I don’t deal with the public anymore 😂

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Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 11:17

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 11:13

No I gave nursing up as my tolerance for stupidity hit critical levels.

Retired now?

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 11:17

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 11:13

No I gave nursing up as my tolerance for stupidity hit critical levels.

Yeah, you were sacked Op! 😆

you. Sound. Terrifying

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 11:13

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 11:11

Ex nurse

did you scream at a patient and then sacked for misconduct Op?

No I gave nursing up as my tolerance for stupidity hit critical levels.

OP posts:
Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 11:11

Ex nurse

did you scream at a patient and then sacked for misconduct Op?