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To have screamed at DH about the eyedrops?

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ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 06:27

Last year DH and I got sore itchy hayfever eyes. I bought some drops. A few days later DH came home and announced that we had been doing the eye drops wrong - Shiela from work had told him that rather than dropping it directly into the eye - you should drop it onto the corner of your nose and let the liquid roll into your eye. I said I disagreed with Shiela and would continue doing it properly my way.

He spent all summer doing it Sheila’s way.

Now yesterday I bought some more drops as we’re struggling again. DH said to me “don’t forget, it’s corner of the nose and let it run in”

I screamed and said that’s stupid! Just drop it into the bloody eye like a normal person!! He continues to say I’m doing it wrong and last night I had to sit and watch him dropping these bloody drops onto his face with his eyes closed!!??

The most annoying bit about it - Sheila has no medical experience. I’m an ex-qualified nurse - yet DH takes Sheila’s word as gospel!

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Trotula · 17/10/2025 17:06

I will add to the carnage! Have had two eye surgeries and they advised to rest the neck of the bottle on the bridge of your nose diagonally and open the eye with two fingers and squeeze that works well. It also works well if you lie flat on a bed and squeeze directly onto the eye and wait a few minutes to let it do its job. Not much use if you are at work though! Or on a train!

kkloo · 17/10/2025 16:56

Risking causing carnage here but I remembered reading this thread so looked it up today to remind myself of your husbands tip because I struggle with eye drops and also due to severe eye dryness causing pain I can't really open them to put the drops in anyway...Worked a treat 😂 thanks Sheila.

hepsitemiz · 23/07/2025 15:05

Classic, Helena.😂

I "thanked" you because we can no longer "lol" people

HelenaWaiting · 18/07/2025 02:02

When the first lockdown was announced, my DP spent a good half hour explaining to me why it was necessary, how disease is transmitted and how a vaccine would work once one was formulated. I'm an epidemiologist.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 18/07/2025 01:53

trailmx · 17/07/2025 11:58

I was told NOT to put eye drops near the inner corner. They wouldn’t be so effective as some of the med likely to go down the tear duct and be swallowed instead of staying in contact with surface of the eye.

Yes exactly. It's asking for trouble as irritated tear ducts are very unpleasant and it can also be very painful, depending on the type of drops, as well as risking introducing infection into the duct itself.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 18/07/2025 00:01

I can see how you might be driven to screaming in the end by that persistent and irritating behaviour.

Theycallmemama · 17/07/2025 23:43

I think Sheila is nuts

SparklyGlitterballs · 17/07/2025 22:51

Surely the box of eye drops has a leaflet inside that will include "how to use" instructions. Tell the idiot to read that.

orwellwasright2025 · 17/07/2025 22:41

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 09:48

People are getting this all wrong.

Firstly - Sheila told him to put them ON HIS NOSE - not the corner of the eye … the actual nose!!!

Secondly - I couldn’t give a shit what he does with his eye drops … it’s his insistence on ME listening to Sheila’s advice that winds me up. Telling me I’m doing it wrong and Sheila has sent her expertise to help me out 🤦‍♀️

Thirdly - I’ve met Sheila - she’s no threat unless DH suddenly gets the urge to date someone as old as his own mother

There's some real loons on this thread. Obviously, you're right, Sheila's an idiot, and I have no idea what is going on with your husband.

Rosscameasdoody · 17/07/2025 19:13

Ooodelally · 17/07/2025 18:42

Scream?! Really?

No. Not really. Hyperbole. To make a point. But as usual MN leap on the insignificant to avoid the real issues.

Popadomorbread · 17/07/2025 18:48

There is something wrong with men. I’m a nurse too and advised ex- DH about how to treat a rash on his skin. No he carried on scraping it off with a Stanley knife blade as someone at work, in insurance, told him too. Dickhead. He turned out to be a cheating bastard so hopefully he ended up with some sort of necrotising fasciitis.

Ooodelally · 17/07/2025 18:42

Scream?! Really?

SapphireSeptember · 17/07/2025 18:41

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 11:54

you and the Op cut from the same cloth 😆

No, I just think parents who won't get their kids vaccinated or who take them to the doctor/A&E and then complain about the treatment suggested not being natural/holistic/homeopathic/witchcraft or women who want to do free birthing are bloody idiots and need to be shouted at. In fact, I'll volunteer so the nurses/doctors/paramedics/midwives don't get into trouble. I'd require some tea and biscuits and I'll be well away. Might have a bone to pick about this, considering me and DS would be dead if I hadn't been sensible this time last year and listened to the obstetrician and insisted on a natural birth, and then he was poorly and I didn't care what they gave him as long as he got better.

Rosscameasdoody · 17/07/2025 18:30

This thread is mad. ‘Screaming’ is obviously hyperbole borne of frustration - depending on how many times this has been brought up. And so many people agreeing with Sheila without understanding that what she advised is based on misinterpretation. Reading and comprehension skills on MN are getting worse if some of the replies here are anything to go by.

AmIthatSpringy · 17/07/2025 13:55

merrymelody · 17/07/2025 07:16

Screaming is totally normal if you’re that frustrated!

Nothing normal about screaming unless you're being attacked by an axe wielding murderer

Rosscameasdoody · 17/07/2025 13:52

LizaRadleywasonthespectrum · 17/07/2025 10:35

Sheila is correct though.

No. She’s not. At all.

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 13:40

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 12:52

i miss the laughing emoji - I could never scream at you, you’re too funny.

treat your own husband with the same respect and don’t scream at him!!

classiccake · 17/07/2025 13:38

Let him do it his way and you do it your way problem solved.

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 12:52

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 12:48

You’re going to start screaming at me soon aren’t you?

playing it cas on this thread, but I bet you’re having a right tizzy at home.

Go Sheila Go!!

i miss the laughing emoji - I could never scream at you, you’re too funny.

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Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 12:49

I look forward to thread 2

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 12:48

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 12:31

Perhaps journalism would be a good move for you? I dare say the Daily Mail would snap you up in a heartbeat! They love “creative” writers 😂

You’re going to start screaming at me soon aren’t you?

playing it cas on this thread, but I bet you’re having a right tizzy at home.

Go Sheila Go!!

ZoggyStirdust · 17/07/2025 12:47

VioletandDill · 17/07/2025 12:37

It sounds like you had the conversation twice. He's hardly banging on about it.
You shouldn't be screaming at anyone. I'd take people who get things wrong (but it doesn't sound as though he's completely wrong) over aggressive people any day. Glad that you're letting your nursing lapse as well, if it's because you can't put up with 'stupid' any more. I'm going though chemo at the moment and have asked a million 'stupid' questions and done some things wrong because as you might understand, it's a stressful time. I've met nurses who rolled their eyes and obviously had disdain for me asking very simple questions and it makes the whole thing worse.

Spot on. op sounds like she has a short fuse generally in life and if the screaming was actually that, is borderline abusive to a husband doing something either not quite right, or just different to her (tbc)

if op was a man screaming at his wife over eye drops I know what the unanimous advice would be…

VioletandDill · 17/07/2025 12:37

It sounds like you had the conversation twice. He's hardly banging on about it.
You shouldn't be screaming at anyone. I'd take people who get things wrong (but it doesn't sound as though he's completely wrong) over aggressive people any day. Glad that you're letting your nursing lapse as well, if it's because you can't put up with 'stupid' any more. I'm going though chemo at the moment and have asked a million 'stupid' questions and done some things wrong because as you might understand, it's a stressful time. I've met nurses who rolled their eyes and obviously had disdain for me asking very simple questions and it makes the whole thing worse.

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 12:31

Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 12:26

I think I have nailed it!!

Perhaps journalism would be a good move for you? I dare say the Daily Mail would snap you up in a heartbeat! They love “creative” writers 😂

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Truegum2 · 17/07/2025 12:26

ThatsABitExcessive · 17/07/2025 12:10

I see you’re into creative writing? Keep it up! You have a great imagination! 😁

I think I have nailed it!!

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