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Feeling sorry for myself after turning down a job offer

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Trebor57 · 16/07/2025 21:48

So I was headhunted on LinkedIn for a very similar job to what I do now but for a completely different Industry, the salary increase wasn't huge but seemed a great company to work for and various other perks got good reviews on glass door etc.I accepted but got cold feet and turned it down, main reason being is I have been at my current job 11 years and I'm quite well respected and never had any issues whilst being there , also they are not the kind of companies to make redundancies often but on the 2 occasions since I've been there (and colleagues who have been there longer has said it's never happened much before) there were redundancies (a very small percent of workforce, and a lot volunteered) and from what I was told by a friend the payouts are rather generous, which gives a great deal of security in this day and age that even if things did go a bit pete tong at least you are looked after.

But with employment laws of being able to let staff go before 2 years etc, my fear was if I took the job and that was to happen I could lose everything.

I know I've made the right decision but can't help feel sorry for myself as it did sound exciting, which is annoying as a week ago I wasn't even giving it a seconds thought

Be nice to me and tell me I've done the right thing lol

Gut feelings etc etc and if it ain't broke dont fix it

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Jellycatspyjamas · 16/07/2025 21:57

I think it’s hard to know that, in different circumstances, you’d have wanted to take the opportunity. You’ve made the right decision for you, it sounds well considered and with an eye to much needed job security so give yourself time to feel down about it but know you’ve done the best you can.

runningonberocca · 16/07/2025 21:55

You’ve done the right thing. It hasn’t got enough perks to risk changing from a job in which you have established security, respect, where you’re happy and you’re in no way desperate to leave.
I think you’ve made a well considered decision. I know from experience how badly things can go wrong with impulsive changes in role.