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hanmonisnana · 2025-07-16T19:49:05+00:00

“Just dropped S off at dance class” - just say Sofia, it’s not a long name!! ”D will be home later from work” - why?!!

Berlinlover · 16/07/2025 23:13

MyUmberSeal · 16/07/2025 20:52

It annoys me when people put DH and DS and all that shit on here. Just say husband, son, daughter. What’s with the ‘Dear’ bit. So yes, in solidarity..I sympathise.

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I agree, it’s very annoying.

CoastalCalm · 16/07/2025 23:10

I actually use my initial as my name , it feels odd when my husband uses my full name

TourdeFrance25 · 16/07/2025 23:09

TheBestSpoon · 16/07/2025 20:56

Oh dear, we've always done this in my family, to the extent that I'm now known by my initial to most of my friends. I didn't realize it was such a social faux pas - it's just our version of a nickname / shortening...

It's perfectly nitmak. So what if a few internet randoms find it annoying?!

thekewgirl · 16/07/2025 23:07

It irritates me too - but in always thought I was being irrational. The worst is a long text with lots of them in - like ‘I’ll drop B off before getting S and then I’ll be back in time for A&A to come for dinner’..: what the fuck are you talking about

WellMaybeYouShouldntBeLivingHeeeeeeee · 16/07/2025 23:05

Noseylittlemoo · 16/07/2025 22:55

I refer to my husband as his initials both in a text and verbally . Eg if it was CJ I would refer to him as CJ and call him CJ.
Slightly veering off topic I knew someone who had the word ASDA in sort of gothic script tattooed on his arm. I asked about it once and it was apparently his parents, brother and his initials...

😁

Didimum · 16/07/2025 23:01

It’s so inconsequential. I can’t see why it matters at all.

DryDay · 16/07/2025 23:00

I do this in texts - it’s just shorthand.
Although I never put anything like ‘How R U’ - I find that such a turn-off.

TheFormidableMrsC · 16/07/2025 23:00

I would do initials in a text message but not in spoken conversation. I am also in the habit because of safeguarding at my job where children are only referred to in documents by their initial.

Noseylittlemoo · 16/07/2025 22:55

I refer to my husband as his initials both in a text and verbally . Eg if it was CJ I would refer to him as CJ and call him CJ.
Slightly veering off topic I knew someone who had the word ASDA in sort of gothic script tattooed on his arm. I asked about it once and it was apparently his parents, brother and his initials...

Springadorable · 16/07/2025 22:38

Loadsapandas · 16/07/2025 21:53

So many of you would hate me.

We sometimes refer to the DC by their first initial f2f as well as via text🤣🤣🤣

Plus they both have shit loads of nicknames🤣🤣

Most people (possibly inc the DC) don’t even know my DH name is an initial and not his real name.

It always sounds weird when he calls me by my name as he rarely uses it to the point I’ve not realised he’s talking about me 🤣🤣

J or K then? 😂

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 16/07/2025 22:38

YABU. I can understand not wanting your own name to be shortened like this, but can’t get my head round being annoyed by what other people do.

Springadorable · 16/07/2025 22:36

Verbally - weird. In text - totally fine.

verycloakanddaggers · 16/07/2025 22:34

It's just one of those things some people do, does it matter?

I'm a live and let live type, think it's quite weird to care.

Wonderwoman333 · 16/07/2025 22:27

I also find this so annoying, just type their names out! Makes me cringe

RynNOTerine · 16/07/2025 22:25

MyUmberSeal · 16/07/2025 20:52

It annoys me when people put DH and DS and all that shit on here. Just say husband, son, daughter. What’s with the ‘Dear’ bit. So yes, in solidarity..I sympathise.

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This comment wins 🤣

CrystalMighty · 16/07/2025 22:23

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 16/07/2025 21:43

A few of my friends refer to their children by their ages, e.g. "I took 10 to dance class." It irritates me to an irrational degree but they are otherwise sane and non-annoying people.

Oh my god- what??!! This is NOT an irrational irritation!!

Driftingawaynow · 16/07/2025 22:10

I do it. Saves energy and also avoid having to bother to learn how to spell mates kids weird names

GlastoNinja · 16/07/2025 22:05

Husband is know fairly universally by a nickname - including by me for 30 years. Our wedding ceremony used his nickname except the official bit which had to be his proper name. Someone recently said ‘Ben said….’ I said who’s Ben? They said ‘your husband’ 🤣 genuinely had no clue.

Loadsapandas · 16/07/2025 21:53

So many of you would hate me.

We sometimes refer to the DC by their first initial f2f as well as via text🤣🤣🤣

Plus they both have shit loads of nicknames🤣🤣

Most people (possibly inc the DC) don’t even know my DH name is an initial and not his real name.

It always sounds weird when he calls me by my name as he rarely uses it to the point I’ve not realised he’s talking about me 🤣🤣

merrymelody · 16/07/2025 21:52

TheBestSpoon · 16/07/2025 20:56

Oh dear, we've always done this in my family, to the extent that I'm now known by my initial to most of my friends. I didn't realize it was such a social faux pas - it's just our version of a nickname / shortening...

It’s not! 😂

AutumnLeaves95 · 16/07/2025 21:52

Absolutely, I’m part of a mum group and some people do this, it’s so annoying! Mind you, I also hate the whole DH/DC thing

GlastoNinja · 16/07/2025 21:51

MyUmberSeal · 16/07/2025 21:32

🤣🤣 this reminds me of my mate when she was pregnant 4 years ago. It was her first and she called the baby peanut all the time, my little peanut this, my little peanut that. She even got a keying made saying ‘mummy’s little peanut coming soon’. Every time she said it, it made a little bit of sick come up in my mouth.

Thank fuck she stopped when the baby was born.

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Before I even got to the end of the first paragraph I could feel the vomit rising, then I read the last sentence and felt validated

Abra1t · 16/07/2025 21:51

We call my daughter by her surname initial because at nursery there were two girls with her first name and they referred to her as Milly B (not real name but would give you an idea.)

My husband was tickled by this and called her it at home and eventually it just became 'Bee'. IT's stuck to a degree in our nuclear family.

PassingStranger · 16/07/2025 21:46

TourdeFrance25 · 16/07/2025 20:53

You can be as (quietly) annoyed as you like 🤷🏻‍♀️ but it's a weird thing to be annoyed by.

Yes first world problems.

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 16/07/2025 21:43

A few of my friends refer to their children by their ages, e.g. "I took 10 to dance class." It irritates me to an irrational degree but they are otherwise sane and non-annoying people.