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Missrosie123 · 2025-07-16T18:04:40+00:00

Just as the title says really. A busy day. I was going to do a Deliveroo order for pizzas and my favourite wine. DH insists on going to the shop. Comes back without the wine. Goes back for it and gets right brand but wrong type. Come to cook pizzas. Asked for two. He got both the same. The one type of pizza I don’t eat. Im being pathetic as I’ve not even said anything. I can’t cope with his inevitable ‘I’m so rubbish at everything’ downward spiral where I then have to pick him up. Sick of carrying the mental load for everything. He is a good man and a good dad, it’s just not enough.

Matronic6 · 16/07/2025 21:30

MessageMystery · 16/07/2025 19:06

You wanted pizza and wine, you got pizza and wine. Just enjoy it.

This makes me so sad, why do some women have such low standards?

godmum56 · 16/07/2025 21:27

Grammarnut · 16/07/2025 21:26

Why do you not keep bottles of your favourite wine in the house? Frozen pizza? Deliveroo is expensive and not very eco-friendly.
And DH offered to go.

Oh that's REALLY what she needed to hear

Grammarnut · 16/07/2025 21:26

Why do you not keep bottles of your favourite wine in the house? Frozen pizza? Deliveroo is expensive and not very eco-friendly.
And DH offered to go.

TomatoSandwiches · 16/07/2025 21:20

He can be a good dad without being your husband/partner.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 16/07/2025 21:18

Women in poor relationships write the good dad comment when they can think of nothing else positive to write about their man.

It won't destroy him if you were to split up but he will destroy you emotionally an d from the inside out if he is allowed by you to continue to do this to you. Your child will become markedly affected by their dad's behaviour towards you, he or she certainly will not be heartbroken and besides which you should not just the child as a reason to stay with him.

What do you want to teach your child/children about relationships and what are they learning here?.

What he is showing you is weaponised incompetence and that is extremely damaging to both you and your child. Do you think he would be this incompetent when it comes to his mother or his work colleagues?. No this treatment is reserved solely for you.

godmum56 · 16/07/2025 21:16

you are not responsible for his happiness ahead of your own....your child will eventually realise you are so unhappy. Its time to start sorting this out. Your partner is a grownup and you are ALLOWED to expect him to act like one.

Alwham · 16/07/2025 21:08

pavillion1 · 16/07/2025 21:00

Absolutely gob smacked people are still using deliveroo

Why?
I don’t use any of the delivery services. Either go and collect/delivery is from shop.

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Missrosie123 · 16/07/2025 21:08

Thanks everyone. You are actually making me cry with your validation of my feelings.

The truth is I have been unhappy for a long time and I keep telling myself my expectations are unreasonable.

He hasn’t done this on purpose, it’s just another indication of a lack of care when it comes to me.

i work full time in an intense role and ‘manage’ our life.He is good and kind and a hands on dad. Just not good with day to day life. I feel like everything he does makes my life harder. I have to ‘protect’ him or deal with the emotional fallout and I just don’t have the energy to deal with that as well.

It would destroy him if we were to split up and it would break my child’s heart. I just feel so trapped and claustrophobic.

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pavillion1 · 16/07/2025 21:00

Absolutely gob smacked people are still using deliveroo

TomatoSandwiches · 16/07/2025 20:57

Theunamedcat · 16/07/2025 20:54

I had tears of this here is your pizza (or whatever) but it wasn't gluten free i literally couldn't eat it so he got to eat it all and cry about it (i had always been gluten free BTW it wasn't new) he would tell his family how bad he felt forgetting i was gluten intolerant they commiserate saying i should suck it up and I'm being "fussy" so I ate the pizza it made me ill i vomited everywhere he claimed he was "sick too" but I physically couldn't not look after the children he was awful about that he even suggested he book an appointment with the dr for himself his sil said what are you going to say you think you have "caught" your wife's celiac disease that seemed to shut him up for a bit

Farking hell, I would have aimed my vomit at him.

Spinachpastapicker · 16/07/2025 20:57

Agree with everything said by @WilfredsPiesat 8.30 - would he try this pathetic tactic at work?

TomatoSandwiches · 16/07/2025 20:56

When incompetent men fuck up and sulk about how shit they are I dont coddle them I agree with them and say they better fix the problem.
Can't stand losers like this.

Theunamedcat · 16/07/2025 20:54

I had tears of this here is your pizza (or whatever) but it wasn't gluten free i literally couldn't eat it so he got to eat it all and cry about it (i had always been gluten free BTW it wasn't new) he would tell his family how bad he felt forgetting i was gluten intolerant they commiserate saying i should suck it up and I'm being "fussy" so I ate the pizza it made me ill i vomited everywhere he claimed he was "sick too" but I physically couldn't not look after the children he was awful about that he even suggested he book an appointment with the dr for himself his sil said what are you going to say you think you have "caught" your wife's celiac disease that seemed to shut him up for a bit

Spinachpastapicker · 16/07/2025 20:52

Obimumkinobi · 16/07/2025 20:23

Yes, it's "only" pizza and wine today but presumably he's her next of kin, so one day he might have to actually know what the fuck he's doing!

agree and I love your username 😄

RainbowZebraWarrior · 16/07/2025 20:52

Spinachpastapicker · 16/07/2025 20:46

I’m not sure which is worse - that it’s deliberate incompetence or that he is just this pathetic!

The whining about not being able to do anything right would give me the utter ick. It’s a tactic to stop you giving him the bollocking that he deserves. What a baby.

I would really struggle to respect someone like this - unless there was a diagnosis of ADHD or something. Even then, he could take a simple list!

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This. Either he thought of you and your needs, or he didn't think of you at all

lessglittermoremud · 16/07/2025 20:52

You’re not being unreasonable to be disappointed, I hate galaxy chocolate and prefer one wine over another.
If DH offered to go and get chocolate and wine for me and rocked up with a big bar of galaxy and the wine that i don’t particularly like I’d be annoyed.
Just like I know what his favourite sweets are and what pizza he likes, it’s about thinking of the other person not just grabbing stuff that suits you.

RainbowZebraWarrior · 16/07/2025 20:51

Spinachpastapicker · 16/07/2025 20:49

Ffs nobody said it was, but she deserves a pizza she can eat and wine she likes!

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Exactly. Imagine going on a daring site and saying you were looking for a partner who took no notice of your needs or likes.

EasyTouch · 16/07/2025 20:51

Morry15 · 16/07/2025 19:54

Meanwhile in the real world......its pizza and wine. It's not the end of the world.

A lot of women are satisfied with a man who works, shuffles the kids around now and again , provides sex and manages not to leave skidmarks in the toilet or their drawers. Oh, and not beat them.
Another set of women, with bars higher than limbo level want to actually be SEEN in a relationship.
It is not hard to know the likes and dislikes and habits of one's loved ones.
However, that would require giving a fuck and being interested and invested in one's loved ones.

So many women never realise that they are only a vagina, cook, womb and unpaid secretary to a man because they are so GRATEFUL that he is able to go about without his knuckles dragging on the ground.

Spinachpastapicker · 16/07/2025 20:49

Morry15 · 16/07/2025 19:54

Meanwhile in the real world......its pizza and wine. It's not the end of the world.

Ffs nobody said it was, but she deserves a pizza she can eat and wine she likes!

Spinachpastapicker · 16/07/2025 20:48

JJWT · 16/07/2025 19:49

I'm afraid I would very pass agg go to the shop and get the correct things, then settle down and enjoy them, leaving the alternatives untouched. I know this doesn't put me on a pedestal of virtue but I'd be fuming and determined to demonstrate that I'm perfectly capable of managing better without his interference, via actions rather than words.

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I like your style. Don’t put up with this crap OP. You deserve better.

Isitreallysohard · 16/07/2025 20:47

This would piss me off if he does it all the time. And especially if he takes no responsibility for it. Does he write things down? If not, make him start.

Spinachpastapicker · 16/07/2025 20:46

Difficile · 16/07/2025 19:11

This is weaponised incompetence. If he does it poorly enough times, eventually you'll be forced to do it yourself and will stop asking for his help.

He's being a knob on purpose. Don't let him play the victim.

I’m not sure which is worse - that it’s deliberate incompetence or that he is just this pathetic!

The whining about not being able to do anything right would give me the utter ick. It’s a tactic to stop you giving him the bollocking that he deserves. What a baby.

I would really struggle to respect someone like this - unless there was a diagnosis of ADHD or something. Even then, he could take a simple list!

SomeOfTheTrouble · 16/07/2025 20:46

MessageMystery · 16/07/2025 19:06

You wanted pizza and wine, you got pizza and wine. Just enjoy it.

Do you regularly enjoy eating and drinking things you don’t like?

dynamiccactus · 16/07/2025 20:45

It's not hard to get the right wine and the right pizza. And he must know what you do and don't like.

Yes I'd be really cross too.

Isobel201 · 16/07/2025 20:45

GreenGully · 16/07/2025 19:24

The pizza and wine are red herrings.

You are totally fed up with him. Why?

This, I have a feeling there are troubles beyond the wrong wine and pizza?