To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

Dh became quaraplegic 4 years ago, can't move, can't eat without help, bowel care every morning, carers in our house 13 hours a day. Two kids, 9 and 15. I am exhausted

So sorry to hear about what everyone is going through, sending positive thoughts and gentle hugs to all who need them.

I had a sibling sadly die last month I’ve another that is end of life alcoholism .Could be weeks . Both in their 40s this is obviously so sad it’s also hard as it heightens the waves of chaos that is my family of origin .

Stage 4 cancer. Also trying to run a business (self employed) and buy a house while dealing with chemo brain. Life is very stressful at the moment.

I can't leave the house as every time I try, I feel like I'm going to wet myself.

If anyone has been through this, please send ideas to break the cycle!

I’m having extensive medical testing at the moment for a problem found incidentally. The NHS have been brilliant and have been seeing me urgently.

I know people who have to wait months or even years and I’ve been seen sometimes within days so I feel very well looked after but it is my worry at the moment.

Domestic abuse

Not being able to drive. It's an absolute nightmare and I get upset about it frequently.

Im clinically depressed, I am waiting for a tailored therapy course that will likely start in September but I have to survive the summer holidays first when all I want to do is disappear and be alone.

There's a charity called PEGS that might be able to help. They support families experiencing child to parent abuse. I can also recommend a facebook group called Parental Abuse by Children (PABC) which has a lot of families that have loved ones with autism who display violent and challenging behaviour xx

"Toxic Positivity"
Oh yes I've seen that in action too. Not too helpful.
Best Wishes to all on here. With the quote from the King James version. "Faith Hope and Charity, the greatest is Charity".

Issues not houses.

Health houses for both myself and dh.

I’m in an OCD pit of hell that I can’t seem to get out of.

I'm severely disabled. My dad and my OH were my carers but they both suddenly died within a few weeks of each other last year leaving me to cope alone.

Social services are overwhelmed and staff turnover is insane so my case keeps getting lost. I've yet to have my initial assessment despite being referred 3 times as my case keeps getting given to someone who quits soon after and doesn't get handed over properly.

The house is a mess, I'm drowning in debt, my health is getting worse and worse and I'm struggling majorly with the grief of losing my partner of 15 years. I feel like I can't start to even deal with it as just keeping myself alive takes all my energy. Then on top of all this I'm hearing in the news constantly about how I'm not really disabled and should just go get a job and stop being a waste of money (I don't score any 4s despite getting getting 17 points at assessment in daily living).

Happy to hear of minor first world problems. Please don't feel the need to be silenced - surely we don't want everyone going through major crisis?

Our life was as dull and as unproblematic as it could get apart from grumpy DS and declining health of elderly relatives. Then things started to go pear-shaped after DS announced he was trans and us trying to be gentle as possible without agreeing to puberty blockers didn't go well at all. He was so consumed with gender dysphoria and miserable, he hated us for dogwhistling GC talking points, tried to end life multiple times, inpatient, etc. It was hell emotionally.

But it's never just GD - there were lots of other issues uncovered, incl autism. We are in so much better place now. GD is not as all consuming as it used to be, but I don't know what future holds and we are too focused on building up mutual trust. At least we talk.

Parent has cancer , incurable but treatable to keep it at bay, worried they won't continue with treatment.

Please consider getting advice from IPSEA. They are brilliant at giving advice on SEND issues, including how to appeal when a child is turned down for an EHCP or a special school.

Right now? The DWP.
My ten year PIP review is sat waiting to be looked at. Could take up to a year and right in the middle of that they decided that NOW was the time (after 10 years on ESA to "migrate" me to UC.
Arseholes!

My post was in response to @inezname , sent without quote.

Thankyou so much! That is amazing and gives me so much hope! Xx

Worry that we will not be financially secure in the future.

I echo this. You have said exactly what I wanted to say, but better than I would have done. Sending everyone love and strength.

Definitely this.....

Toxic positivty isn't a solution either though. As you say it is all subjective.

Hate my job and need a new one but no motivation to look and probably won't get anything due to age. DS can't find part time work around his studies either.