To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

I am still bleeding 90% of my life, the remaining 10% I feel suicidal as I don’t know when the bleeding is going to kick in again. I am constantly having painful period cramps and the doctors are doing less than nothing to help me.

Are you on the website too? It is indeed Mr. Khan who I am hoping will sort me out. I only spoke to him on the phone for a few minutes but he is so nice and I love his accent too.

Have you tried Shad Khan in Oxford? Lovely, lovely man and phenomenal surgeon, operates successfully when other surgeons have failed-you can book a telephone consultation with him for advice and he is so supportive and willing to listen.
His secretary's email is [email protected] and these groups, if you haven't seen them, were life-saving for me:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/hyperpara.parathyroiduk/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/HyperparathyroidUKAction4Change/

Oh my God - please, please don't even consider doing this. She has shown you can't trust her. Don't. You could lose your home, your business and most likely your marriage (could you live with the resentment towards your DH?).

If they are homeless (and old, and with MH issues), the council will house them. Put your foot down, drop the rope and let the natural consequences of their actions happen.

I usually do mine with steroid cream for the first day or two when it's bad, then apply a layer of Dermol before wrapping after that.

@SummerCanDoOne thankyou! We used to have full cotton suits that he would have to sleep in but thankfully we don't need those anymore. I'm going to mention wet wrapping at our next app and see if that will help with the flare ups instead of steroids creams. Thankyou! Xx

@Bettyboop2530 wet wrapping is also great for eczema. Apply whatever cream you use then wrap in cold, wet cotton gauze. Can wrap over the top with dry but in this weather I've just been doing it of an evening and letting them dry (more difficult with a small child ofc!)

In the space of ten days my leg has gone from red raw to this...

@mrsCtheRed hi thankyou but yes we've tried that.. currently trying bathing salts and they seem to be helping 🤞🏼 I'm open to any suggestions anyone may have, thanks again x

One of mine was under derm for nasty eczema as a child, and asthma. We took him off dairy (after completing the milk ladder as he was intolerant as a baby) and took him swimming and didn’t shower him after and it really helped! We used aveeno and had it on prescription for a while. It is miserable for them, and for us to look after.

@mrsCtheRed
The brand Aveeno uses oats in their body care products.
Your mil was a wise woman.

Hi Betty
I don't want to try to teach you to suck eggs, but have you tried oat baths?
My daughter had terrible eczema as a baby, her arms and legs looked like she'd been burned in a fire.

MIL recommended oats in her bath (skin conditions are quite common in OH's family), so i bought plain porridge oats, and made a "sponge" with them, in the tied off end of a stocking.
I'd hold this under the tap while the bath was running, which makes the water look milky, then just use it the "sponge" to wipe her body down.

I'd tried everything from the doctor, creams, steroids etc but within about 2 weeks her skin was 90% clear.

If you haven't already tried this, maybe worth a go? xx

Also struggling with a loved one in the chaos of addiction. Sending love

Happy to PM if you need anything just shout. I'm not on here all day (no social media on phone) but often here in afternoon/eve x

If it is any consolation the police may not action it and even if they do the matter will be delayed by the court system queue anyway.

Its a huge problem, the dread of work dominated my thoughts as I was so exhausted, so Im totally with you on that. I cut outgoings right back but still could only afford to drop a few hours and you still need money to actually live.
I also opted for a change of job, within same field which allowed me to work from home (rare as a nurse and im very lucky) i also do longer days which are hard but give me an amazing extra day off - that may be an option for you.
The combination of compressing hours and dropping just a few has helped though not fully resolved it. I view my longer days simply as a couple of extra hours is like being paid for your commute if you're working at home- so it helped my mindset
Time is so precious, I hope you can win yourself some back somehow

As much as they can. It is just so unimaginable pain.

What do you mean by saying 'somebody knows what has caused it'.
Do you mean somebody knows what has caused the increase in ASD diagnosis?
Who do you think knows, and what do you think they know?
I'm really interested to hear you elaborate.
I'm super interested in why we are seeing so many children being diagnosed with ASD.

A woman's two children both drowned and the next day her 31 year old brother died of a heart attack......
Words fail me. This is a grief I cannot even begin to comprehend.
That woman is somewhere right now feeling destroyed.
Are people holding her through this?

Wondering whether or not I’ve done the right thing, by reporting my exh to the Police. It’s not so much the reporting it’s the repercussions when he finds out, that I’m more worried about. Plus part of me thinks I’ve just put myself through even more trauma by reporting it because it happened around 9 years ago so even if it does go to court it’s not like anyone is going to believe me because I didn’t report it straight away.

sciatic endometriosis, fibromyalgia, chronic pain and fatigue,limited mobility.I cant work and only get PIP. My sister and hubby are emigrating to Oz to be with her daughters and grandkids, my brother is already there and has been for 20 plus years.So my 82 year old mum is beside herself, she's only left with me to look after her she is in good health at the moment but I will be her sole carer if her health deteriorates.

I'm lonely,stuck living with elderly parent who has dementia.
I'm skint, just enough to buy food
My health is pretty bad

Oh wow, so sorry about how much you are going through. I hope you have support? (If not, reach out, there can be help out there, - & even just writing it down, as you have here, can maybe help just a little bit?). MacMillan as one example, without wanting to sound like that will solve all problems. (It may or may not be right for you). Please concentrate on yourself, your own needs & look after yourself (and your beloved cat) - Hard as it is, future problems you mention, such as possible benefit changes / the 'world' and what may or may not happen in the future are possibilities, not certainties - maybe try to ignore or curb reading the frequent current trend of some social media that brings these issues to the forefront and can make it seem like such things are imminent. Best wishes, sending love, you sound so strong 🌹

I have a mildly autistic dc too. There is a background increase I think, despite so much of it (imnsho) being down to cultural change and the desire to exclude by label. There’s also the increase in dementia, which I have seen linked to autism: they say the brain patterns are similar. Somebody knows what has caused it, is my belief, and does not care. My sympathies to all struggling with serious SEN.

North west. I hate it. I was actually born in the region and forced to live here until I was 18. I hated it then, but genuinely came back with an open mind, for the first 3 years. It’s always been very crony-based, jobs allotted on the basis of who knows who. The middle class snobs think middle class jobs (teaching primarily) make them the bees knees and they don’t open the social club to those of us not born into money. Hence what was the working class, now the underclass, being a bit crap and just interested in being given everything too. I spent my best working days in the Midlands where boys’ networks exist of course: but it’s much more rule based and competence is still valued, plus it’s just a bigger world. Not here.

we couldn’t afford to buy a house in the Midlands ten years ago. The idea was we came up for a couple of years just to get on the housing ladder and put some money down. I made it v clear I wanted to go back after a couple of years here, but was strung along just like in that other thread, and now any possibility of me having decent work ever again has gone given the way qualifications only last a couple of years now. I wish I’d never bothered.

Thank you @Alltheyearround - that means a lot x