To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

DH with metastatic cancer, though doing well on cutting-edge treatment from our wonderful local oncology hospital. Worry about all my grown-up children, life seems so much harder than when I was their age. But we are solvent and coping.

thank you. ❤️ have sold a bit on vinted so hoping that will convince husband to take a break.
it's hard as to the outside world we seem to be perfect but inside am drowning. Will keep ploughing on 😤

Lost a parent a few months back. I'm terminally ill and in agony 24/7. Currently waiting on mortgage company taking back the house as we can't afford mortgage due to my illness and husband having to become my full time carer. Don't know what we will do or where we will go. Worried husband may have to face it alone. Just too much really

Each way? For £250ish extra quid a month? How much will the extra time cost you in time, money and quality of life? Will the promotion lead to further opportunities?

Just diagnosed with a terminal illness

Generally people expect you to be over hugely tragic events in a month or so. I already know my friends will expect me to be over my marriage breakup pretty soon. Most people have compassion fatigue in 2025, unfortunately.

I suppose I should feel glad that I can afford a bit of therapy, but I really need my friends.

Being everyone's "go to person"...
My elderly frail parent, my 2 dc, my dh, my pils and now dhs nephew, whose partner is sadly now terminal.
The last 6 months have been horrendous.

Nothing compared to some on this thread, but I am completely wrung out.
I'm very sorry for the sad losses. Life can be very cruel x

I’m genuinely humbled by what so many of you are going through and suffering with at the moment…..makes my “ looking after my darling dad as he declines rapidly physically at the age of 84” seem very minor….love and support to you all xx

That all sounds so tough - I hope you can push for some kind of holiday. Things seem better when youve rested - good luck xx

This thread is making me cry. I want to put the kettle on, make us all a big pot of tea, and then hug everyone.

My husband's cousin lost two sons aged 10 and 6. They both drowned.
The very next day the boys mother lost her brother who died of a cardiac arrest aged 31.

What's wrong with a vocational course?

That I'm ill again. It's a repeat of last week and I have no idea what on earth that was about

(It's a fever of some sort which comes and goes. Spent last Tuesday not knowing whether I wanted to vomit or pass out. I just want to vomit now)

This is so true, I now look back at the things that I was moaning about before my family was hit by tragedy and it seems like a golden age that I did not appreciate.

Chronic pain condition that the masking is slipping on. I keep it private and go about daily life with none the wiser. Most with my condition don't work and receive help. I won't allow that to happen until I'm literally bed bound. I want to live every second of everyday to the fullest extent I can. To enjoy my family and work. To succeed and see my kids grow.

Lifeonmars 100
that sounds so hard for you just now and I just wanted to say sorry. I hope things pick up for you soon
take care of yourself

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
in sure it’s knocked you for six - it sounds hideous.
In terms of your friends, it may be worth messaging them or saying that you feel sad/ your still missing and grieving your friend. I do think people who haven’t experienced extreme grief expect people to move on more quickly than they do and aren’t sure whether they should mention the person who’s died in case it upsets you. I think it’s ok to bring up their name and talk about your relative. I really hope at least one of them will understand. Another approach is to try and get some grief counselling as this will give you ways to understand what’s happening to you and ideas on how to get through it.
People do get through it but it takes time,
Im sorry for your loss @lifeonmars100

Single parent of 4. 3 dc with SEND.

Ds finished college, no support, no help, no training and no job.

Trying to support him and organise something.

My dad has Dementia and is declining rapidly. It's exhausting.

Managing AuDHD son's demand avoidance and mental health...

Nothing compared to this thread - but pretty much - do I turn down promotion and £5k pay rise because I dunno if I can be bothered with a 30 minute commute.

Sorry to hear what everyone else is facing.

Yes thanks, someone else mentioned it. Definitely worth looking into, Sometimes solutions come along in a form you don't expect.😺

Where to start?

Had a sudden and shocking bereavement, young close family member died in dreadful circumstances and my feelings range from disbelief, to numbness, to being ambushed by uncontrollable crying. So that is the worst as I just cannot make any sense of it. It happened about 6 weeks ago and while my friends were intitally supportive nobody has mentioned ot for well over 2 weeks, it feels as I should be "over it". Met some of them for a meal at the weekend and not one of them mentioned what had happened or asked me how I was doing. I felt that I had to protect their feelings by doing my best not to talk about it. Maybe I am being oversensitive and am still in shock so am being too hard on my friends.

Apart from that, another relative has been the victim of a serious violent attack and then two weeks later I too was a victim of an unrelated and scary crime. I feel overwhelmed, I feel cursed which I know is daft,

Then there is the fact that I hate where I live and there is no way I can afford to move. The only thing i enjoy is sleeping because it is some respite from my problems. Sorry to sound so negative, just feel that my back is up against the wall currently

Me too. It’s shit isn’t it. 💐

I wouldn’t say so much as ‘problem’ but a worry - currently 9.5 weeks pregnant after 3 losses, just praying every day that I’ll be entering the second trimester at the end of the month. Such a worry ❤️🌈

mentally unstable sibling who lives with my mother who enabled sibling a lot and now is bearing the brunt of sibling’s dependency, think
mother expects me to look after sibling when she is no longer here but I have my own health issues.