To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

I know this is easier said than done, but (especially if you are under 50) the chances of a breast lump being cancerous are very small. Fibrous lumps, cysts, etc are extremely common. And there are many, many types of "breast cancer" (it's an umbrella term for all sorts of very different types of growth), most of them very treatable nowadays. Good luck with it 💗

@Asthenia just looked Tiffany Aliche up to refresh my memory and identical amount to you! Well, ok in USD

She was $35k deep in credit card debt and scared sh!tless

That I have about £6 in my bank and won’t be paid for 3 more weeks

@Asthenia you can get yourself out of this! If other people can and have done, then so can you. It must be a massive worry but know that is is reversible and one day, with the right smaller actions built up over every day, you will be debt free. It's a project that will probably consume you but you will change the trajectory of your life. I think Tiffany Aliche was in a similar position to you. Hers came from being convinced to put tens of thousands on a credit card for an investment that turned out to be dodgy and the bloke ran off with all the money. This was during the 2008 crisis and she subsequently got made redundant, making it worse. She got herself debt free, it took a while, and she made a project of it but she did it. Have a listen to her stuff.

I don't know the reason for your credit card debt but know You aren't the first and won't be the last so if you are harbouring any shame about it, then drop that! 💐

My husband died 11 months ago and I’m trying to navigate supporting my two daughters (8 and 11) through their grief as it’s just starting to properly surface.

Also feeling mega stressed as I’m juggling a busy full time job with doing everything else now

Hi @TheTwinklyLemur - I’m sorry to hear this. Does your mum live with you or near you? X

My problems are not big compared to some. I have a chronic illness, moving house, sick parents, demanding teens, my dog died, my closest aunt died and my parents have never much cared about me - so I am working through that. Apart from that I am good! Grateful it’s not worse tbh.

I am so sorry to hear this, sending lots of love and hugs.
cancer sucks, it truly does xxx

Dear @Welikebeingcosy
im so sorry to read your post. I understand so much feels overwhelming but maybe you can start to make a difference with very small steps otherwise you will feel worse and worse.

Maybe you can try and make yourself do the following …
….. try and do an exercise video on YouTube- yoga or HIIT. Maybe one with your DD in morning and yoga when she’s sleeping? start today - one foot in front of the other - just do it!
….Can you walk to your DRs surgery and ask in person the best way to get an appointment? Mine always tell me exactly when they’re being released or have some emergency ones and book me when I’m actually in there. Try and walk with your DD - can you cajole her make a game of it ?

….Im not religious but can you go to Church? pick a family friendly one near you? People in church are usually friendly, it’s a change of scene, take a deep breath and just try it?

…and finally can you cook? Do you have access to a kitchen? If so, start off picking up some veggies on sale tins of tomatoes and make the odd simple meal. I believe what you put inside helps your health and mind and it may also help your DD either to chop or prep with you. Give some structure …

Just set yourself these little goals and really push yourself to do them - and hopefully they will make a little difference xx

Cant get over my father's death. I just want him back, how he was.

Ds who is 20 is dating a woman the same age who is on benefits plus PIP owing to her bipolar. Whereas unfortunate for her to be on PIP her life is going nowhere and ds is getting on fine in life. Busy with his fulltime job car plus savings. She is not currently on meds has let her meds run out. I am concerned her deadbeat attitude will rub off on him. We talk every day are very chummy as I am a single parent and have always been close. She uses class A drugs occasionally as self medicates. Dragged up person wrong background Awful family history. Her 2 half sisters are in foster care. Sorry this is so long. He now takes cannabis every day though not at home as I do not allow. He was only having twice weekly before with a mate.

I’m being bullied

im 45….

cant believe it’s happening again.

I’m in the same situation and utterly depressed and anxious

Have gone freelance but am getting very little work. Missing my former colleagues.

One reason for both is my terrible social anxiety due to CPTSD which means I have very few friends and struggle to make phone calls, get routine domestic maintenance done, go to the dentist, take care of/arrange to get my car fixed...It affects everything.

I'm unbearably lonely and can't see a way to change it. Meds and therapy have not helped.

I am so sorry you are going through this. If it were at all possible, I would give you a hug.

I cant imagine how hard this is for you and I hope you have a good support network around you. ❤️

Not wise, you have no idea who anyone is on here, or what they are saying is the truth.

Perhaps a happy thread alongside it asking what's making you happy at the moment would be a good balance. People do tend to.opt for negativity.

So sorry to hear of all of your problems. After reading the first couple of pages mine pale into insignificance. I wish all of you the very best and hope you are able to get through these tough times x

Same as always, fighting a shitty disease thst is taking my ability to walk.

@naturalcrackle111thank you that’s really kind. And brought tears to my eyes

I hate my job and have wanted to leave for over a year.

Shelling out 2.5K to incompetent rude roofers to fix an issue leading to water leaking through my ceiling even it rains heavily.

Otherwise I can't complain. I've had a hard life at times, this is comparatively easy, albeit stressful.

I've been retired since 2012 and I understand how you feel MidlandBlue. A couple of years ago I attended an open day for a charity that I was interested in and decided to volunteer for them. It helped me to see how fortunate I am. (the charity supports people with disabilities) I have met lots of people with different outlooks and life experiences. My IT skills have improved and I'm so much more confident in general. The charity puts on social events and really values and encourages it's volunteers. When you feel valued, your life gains purpose. If there's a charity you'd like to support near where you live, perhaps volunteering might help.
Good luck! 💐

Developed severe tinnitus after an ear infection 10 weeks ago.
Havent slept well since.
Now losing all my hair from the stress.
Had to leave work to try and manage it all. No idea how to accept the noise for the rest of my life.

Oh And now my lower molar is starting to ache. It has a large filling in it already. Dreading the dentist/drill - no of course it’s on the same side as my tinnitus. Might just get it pulled instead as I think a root canal will likely fail.

worried about a close friend who is going through addiction and homelessness and won't seek the correct avenues of support.

worried about dd (6) who is being home educated and i'm trying to apply for an EHCP but ran out of mental gas to find evidence and send that off.

also trying to navigate the PIP appeals process and find evidence for that. i have a chronic illness. impossible to get a doctor's appointment at the moment to gather evidence for me or DD.

spending every penny i have on driving lessons and saving for a car asap, as dd started trying to throw herself into traffic when overstimulated at bus stops.

all my loves, exercise, healthy eating and hobbies are being neglected for the mental load at the moment. spend a lot of time staring into space whilst DD watches youtube kids.

live in social housing after being homeless so that means i'm in a place where i have no family and it's very hard to form friendships with my situation. isolation is not helping my past traumas from staying out of my mind.

i want to give up on all of it and turn my house into a commune, but i've tried house sharing with people before and it never worked out.