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85 replies

Mushroo · 16/07/2025 11:39

I’ll preface this my saying I’ve never been to A&E in my life so I’m absolutely not a habitual user, and very much in the ‘don’t waste resources’ camp.

However, my daughter has developed a swallowing problem. It started around March as coughing when she ate.

We’ve seen the GP who started out saying her chest was fine, it’s just viral.
We’ve seen a private respiratory doctor who thinks it’s asthma, but steroid and inhalers haven’t helped.
Weve seen an NHS paediatrician who did a chest x ray, she had a chest infection which antibiotics cleared up, but the cough when eating has gotten worse.

It’s got to the point this week she can’t eat at all without coughing / vomiting.

We’ve been referred to a speech and language therapist but the waitlist is at least a month.

Im so worried as she can’t eat comfortably and there’s no pathway to help at all for months. I’m worried there’s something in / wrong with her oesophagus, would going to A&e be wrong?

I can’t sit and watch her vomit everyday for at least a month

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quicklywick · 16/07/2025 11:57

Definitely at that age if shes struggling to eat

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 16/07/2025 11:56

Ah, she's only tiny. Absolutely take her. Is there a kids' A&E where you are? We have a separate waiting area and process in our local one.

Bring her buggy and lots of entertainment, screens and headphones if that will help keep her content - it could be a long wait. I'd say snacks and drinks, but that's complicated for you! Is there anything she has less trouble with? Supplies for yourself too - and a power bank if you have one. Dress her lightly, it'll probably be roasting.

Mushroo · 16/07/2025 11:55

Bobnobob · 16/07/2025 11:51

Yes get her seen by whatever means you can! Is it worth also making another GP appointment now other things have been ruled out? You might get a better GP this time

We saw them again yesterday and then just said to wait for the speech and language referral.

I chased them this morning and got told it would be at least 5 weeks which is what has prompted desperate measures, as I just don’t feel we’ve made any progress at all, and no avenues to making any progress either.

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Bobnobob · 16/07/2025 11:51

Yes get her seen by whatever means you can! Is it worth also making another GP appointment now other things have been ruled out? You might get a better GP this time

TaupeMember · 16/07/2025 11:50

Yes, take her.

Especially at 18 months

Ninjasan · 16/07/2025 11:49

Mushroo · 16/07/2025 11:39

I’ll preface this my saying I’ve never been to A&E in my life so I’m absolutely not a habitual user, and very much in the ‘don’t waste resources’ camp.

However, my daughter has developed a swallowing problem. It started around March as coughing when she ate.

We’ve seen the GP who started out saying her chest was fine, it’s just viral.
We’ve seen a private respiratory doctor who thinks it’s asthma, but steroid and inhalers haven’t helped.
Weve seen an NHS paediatrician who did a chest x ray, she had a chest infection which antibiotics cleared up, but the cough when eating has gotten worse.

It’s got to the point this week she can’t eat at all without coughing / vomiting.

We’ve been referred to a speech and language therapist but the waitlist is at least a month.

Im so worried as she can’t eat comfortably and there’s no pathway to help at all for months. I’m worried there’s something in / wrong with her oesophagus, would going to A&e be wrong?

I can’t sit and watch her vomit everyday for at least a month

Has she been checked for reflux?

Mushroo · 16/07/2025 11:46

She’s 18 months but before this all starred has always been a brilliant eater. It’s so sad watching her cough through trying to eat her favourite foods

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okydokethen · 16/07/2025 11:43

Gosh what a worry, if it’s every day then yes I would go to A&E. How old?

DuskyPink1984 · 16/07/2025 11:42

Yes, I would take her along and ask them to have a look.

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 16/07/2025 11:40

To me, that comes under the 'emergency' end of things, so I'd bring her. She can't not eat for a month. Is she able to drink at all?

Also, I'd wonder if the chest infection had been caused by the swallowing issue, rather than the reverse.