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Mushroo · 16/07/2025 11:39

I’ll preface this my saying I’ve never been to A&E in my life so I’m absolutely not a habitual user, and very much in the ‘don’t waste resources’ camp.

However, my daughter has developed a swallowing problem. It started around March as coughing when she ate.

We’ve seen the GP who started out saying her chest was fine, it’s just viral.
We’ve seen a private respiratory doctor who thinks it’s asthma, but steroid and inhalers haven’t helped.
Weve seen an NHS paediatrician who did a chest x ray, she had a chest infection which antibiotics cleared up, but the cough when eating has gotten worse.

It’s got to the point this week she can’t eat at all without coughing / vomiting.

We’ve been referred to a speech and language therapist but the waitlist is at least a month.

Im so worried as she can’t eat comfortably and there’s no pathway to help at all for months. I’m worried there’s something in / wrong with her oesophagus, would going to A&e be wrong?

I can’t sit and watch her vomit everyday for at least a month

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Mushroo · 18/07/2025 09:44

@TorturedParentsDepartment yes, my DH said ‘we’re working our way down!’ 😂

She woke up at 4am this morning just coughing and coughing and she looked so sad, shaking her head as she was doing it.

It’s breaking my heart as she’s so happy in the daytime despite it all,

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TorturedParentsDepartment · 18/07/2025 09:16

It's a positive first step - you've narrowed down that mechanically her swallow is working fine - so it's unlikely that she's aspirating or anything like that... now it's just chasing the issue up and down her digestive tract!

And yeah @sapsapsap reflux can cause a load of issues - about 50% of the people I see have some kind of reflux element to what's going on!

Mushroo · 17/07/2025 20:20

@Chucklecheeks01 that’s where we’ve been referred to next, so it’s definitely on my list of potential issues

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Chucklecheeks01 · 17/07/2025 16:00

Has she been seen by a ENT? my DS had to have his tonsils and adenoids out at 20 months due to them both being seriously enlarged. Everyone missed it until i paid for a private ENT.

He had sleep apnoea, choked on food etc. its caused long term eating issues.

sapsapsap · 17/07/2025 15:54

Hi OP. I understand you have previously considered reflux, just wanted to share my personal experience in case relevant.

A few years ago, I started coughing as soon as I ate something. I was fine otherwise. When I ate I got really bad coughing fits, at some point I could barely get through a meal. Sounds quite similar to what your DC is going through. For me it was reflux and some short term medication and a change in diet (including avoiding acidic foods for an initial period) helped over time.

Hope you manage to get to the bottom of this. Best of luck.

Mushroo · 17/07/2025 13:07

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne yes, and she was so lovely. I felt really listened to and taken seriously and that is half the battle a lot of the time!

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 17/07/2025 12:24

Mushroo · 17/07/2025 11:06

As an update, we saw the SLT today and she didn’t think there were any issues with swallowing.

So either something is wrong further down in her oesophagus, or her repeated colds / coughs have just made her more likely to vomit and it’s become a vicious circle.

We’ve been referred to ENT so it was kind of useful, but at the same time, no actual progress

Well, you're a step forward, and as your little girl isn't losing weight, hopefully it won't be too long before you do get an answer.

Mushroo · 17/07/2025 11:06

As an update, we saw the SLT today and she didn’t think there were any issues with swallowing.

So either something is wrong further down in her oesophagus, or her repeated colds / coughs have just made her more likely to vomit and it’s become a vicious circle.

We’ve been referred to ENT so it was kind of useful, but at the same time, no actual progress

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TorturedParentsDepartment · 17/07/2025 08:04

Glad you're getting seen promptly - thought you had a couple of red flags there that would be likely to bump you up a bit if you emphasised them.

As for "why are they sending you to a SLT" - no idea why it originated but (I assume because we do a lot of head and neck anatomically related stuff), the bit that's not in the job title is that we also do dysphagia - well stuff that has an issue in the mouth and pharynx... below that and it's gastro! Not as commonly known about the SLT role and there are constant discussions about the job title (but it's enough of a mouthful already so leave it as it is) but still.

Mac3321 · 17/07/2025 00:03

I also recommend looking into Eosinophilic esophagitis and mentioning it to the professionals you see.
my friends little boy didn’t get diagnosed until he was close to 5 with it. They kept fobbing his mum off for a long time.

McGregor33 · 17/07/2025 00:01

My daughter developed swallowing problems after whooping cough and haemophilis influenzae just before her 1st birthday. I won’t go into how much we were fobbed off. She was eventually properly assessed by ent. Within a month both of her tonsils and adenoids were removed, just before her 2nd birthday.

SeaToSki · 16/07/2025 23:49

Look at Eosinophilic esophagitis

Plibble · 16/07/2025 23:45

Sounds like she needs to see a gastroenterologist to rule out something physical before looking for a behavioural cause. If you have insurance you could get a private referral relatively quickly. But if she is struggling to eat any meals then I think I may well take her to A&E. It’s not really an emergency, but it may be the fastest way to get her seen by the right person.

Ilovewheelychairs · 16/07/2025 15:30

Please ask to be tested for achalasia. A friend of mine developed it and became very poorly very quickly. It can occur in children but is rare. However all his symptoms were pretty much identical to your daughters.

I wish you all the best with SLT & finding a way forward!

PrioritisePleasure24 · 16/07/2025 15:27

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 16/07/2025 14:55

She has and has got an appointment for tomorrow.

She is being seen by speech and language tomorrow and while it may be a start and defo useful as they can deal with some swallowing/eating issues that’s not the same as what previous poster suggested.

PrioritisePleasure24 · 16/07/2025 15:25

You would have to go to a children’s hospital for an endoscopy so would need a referral/appointments with relevant teams etc. That wouldn’t directly happen from A&E ( unless an emergency obviously)

i honestly think if she’s not dehydrated or very unwell it’s not going to really get you any further by going to A&E.

It sounds more like an ENT issue or even a gastro one too. i’d be either asking for a referral or going privately if you can afford it, waits may be long for an appointment.

Sealhaver · 16/07/2025 15:14

Not a medical professional - but my nephew was just diagnosed with EOE (an autoimmune disease that causes oesophageal inflammation and leads to difficulty eating and vomiting when eating). Sorry if not helpful, but sounded familiar to what you’re describing. I do hope you get some answers soon!

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 16/07/2025 14:55

Its1971Again · 16/07/2025 14:51

That sounds very concerning. Your little girl needs her condition to be thoroughly investigated.

Take her back to the GP and insist she gets an urgent referral to ENT and Gastroenterology. From what you describe, it looks like something is going on with her oesophagus - that needs to be scanned and checked to get to the bottom of what's happening.

She has and has got an appointment for tomorrow.

Mulledjuice · 16/07/2025 14:55

Go

Its1971Again · 16/07/2025 14:51

That sounds very concerning. Your little girl needs her condition to be thoroughly investigated.

Take her back to the GP and insist she gets an urgent referral to ENT and Gastroenterology. From what you describe, it looks like something is going on with her oesophagus - that needs to be scanned and checked to get to the bottom of what's happening.

MrsDoylesSheepTea · 16/07/2025 14:41

Good luck. Let us know how you get on.

Mushroo · 16/07/2025 14:41

MrsDoylesSheepTea · 16/07/2025 14:40

@Mushroo @Matlivestream I was thinking more of dysphagia. DS doesn’t have ARFID thank goodness, he’s not that restricted. OP, check out this link and have a read about autism and dysphagia. It can be a very real physical issue. rainbowtherapy.org/dysphagia-and-autism/

Thank you! I’ll have a read

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MrsDoylesSheepTea · 16/07/2025 14:40

@Mushroo @Matlivestream I was thinking more of dysphagia. DS doesn’t have ARFID thank goodness, he’s not that restricted. OP, check out this link and have a read about autism and dysphagia. It can be a very real physical issue. rainbowtherapy.org/dysphagia-and-autism/

Mushroo · 16/07/2025 14:29

@MrsDoylesSheepTea @Matlivestream i don’t think it’s ARFID, she loves food and will eat absolutely anything (olives, anchovies, edamame beans!) and she wants to eat, it just seems to trigger a cough / gag.

Would that also have been a problem from weaning? Ours has only started in the last few months but I’ll definitely add it the list of possibilities as I don’t want to rule anything out.

In a happy update, we’re seeing the SLT tomorrow at 9am!!! I’m so happy I could literally cry, finally some progress.

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Matlivestream · 16/07/2025 14:24

MrsDoylesSheepTea · 16/07/2025 14:11

Why has she been referred to SLT? Gagging/choking and difficulty swallowing can be associated with autism. DS had it from weaning until he was about 2.5, although he also used to choke on saliva and phlegm from birth. We never once left him on his own until he was about 2 as he’d choke in his cot on saliva. When he started solid foods, several times a week he would choke until he went purple (real, silent choking, I have grey hairs). We saw a specialist who said he’d grow out of it, which he did, but he’s still very sensitive around foods that he doesn’t consider ‘safe’. He's now on the ASD diagnostic pathway and is fully expected to get a diagnosis, especially as I’m also diagnosed autistic. Hugs OP, it’s awful.

Arfid was my first thought as well. OP have a read up about autism and how ARFID presents in young children.