To be angry

But Oasis are literally so rubbish! You can do anything else that night and have a better time.

Well OP now you know what your family think of you, you can start to build a great life without them.

If it is your mum, why is your ex-husband going meaning that you can't? Did I understand that correctly?

Again, the ex isn’t going as part of the birthday party! He just happens to have arranged, off his own bat, to go with his partner to a concert on a night he doesn’t have the kids. Why on earth does that make him a twat and why on earth should he have to cancel just so OP doesn’t have to get a babysitter? He isn’t responsible for her.

If I was booking tickets for something, I’d check my calendar and if my ex was due to have our daughter that day then there is no world in which I’d hold off booking the tickets in order to check that he doesn’t randomly have a family engagement which somehow entitles him to go over me. What a bizarre notion.

He isn’t going with her family….

The ex-husband isn’t going with OP’s parents 😂 He just happens to be also going to the concert (separately) and therefore isn’t available to be OP’s babysitter..

Yeah this ... ^ I am gobsmacked by the responses on here, and the poll result. If I was the OP, I would feel like SHIT. I know you have put your children first la la fucking la, but the father of the OP's children hasn't stepped up to look after HIS CHILDREN while the OP goes to this concert with her family for her mum's birthday? HE is the arsehole here. I am so sorry @Guinesss but don't be mad at your family, be mad at your twat of an ex. I hope you can get past this. Sorry you feel so blue.

A) I can’t believe you would expect your mum to miss out just because you couldn’t go.

B) I really don’t understand why you couldn’t go anyway. You say all your childcare was going to the concert - by which I assume you mean family. You could have just paid a babysitter like lots of people have to do all the time.

So you think your mum shouldn't get to spend her birthday with her husband so that you could go?

Once you're an adult your parents lives don't revolve around their kids - especially on THEIR birthday.

don't look back in anger...

So do you think her mum shouldn't have gone to see a band she wanted to see, on HER birthday, because her adult dd can't get a babysitter?

I would tell my mum to go and have an awesome time. It would be shit to expect her to give up her birthday plans.

But you did say you think your dad shouldn’t have gone because you were left out, so you expect to go in place of him?

I think it’s a bit shit. My mum wouldn’t leave me out like that.

Please RTFT. This is a big concert. Ex is going. Family are going. Not together.

Read the thread again.

The ex hasn't gone with her family.

He's gone with his gf, on a day he doesn't have the kids.

Could you not do something else to celebrate with your mum? It's ok to feel what you're feeling, but not worth holding on the resentment. It's one afternoon/evening, have time out with your mum a different time.

I think it’s pretty shitty too. Folk on here are just fucking mean and unnecessarily bitchy. Folk in your family, including your EXHUSBAND (??) are all going without you? Any decent loving mother who wanted her daughter to share in this epic experience would have told the ex to kindly sit this one out and look after his kids so you could go. Haven’t they heard of loyalty?

You're being ridiculous.

The self pity is nauseating.

I know it must be annoying as you want to go and experience it all with your family. However please try not to be angry and bitter, esp as exDH is going too.

firstly aim to picture your Mum enjoying herself, be happy for her and you never know you might get a tshirt! Also turning it around you are very lucky to have children to care for and a loving home. cherish that and then go on See Tickets and see if you can get a ticket for another day.

I wouldn’t expect my whole family to miss out just because I can’t arrange childcare 🤷🏻‍♀️ that sounds like a me problem! Why can’t you arrange childcare?

Sorry OP, you gotta roll with it

Your dad’s a person too; YABVU to be so pissed off that you’re not there whilst at the same time thinking someone else should have missed out so they could look after your children and you could go in his place

Well, I think this is the real problem. They left you out from the off, assuming you couldn’t get childcare and not even giving you a chance to try. That’s really shit.

Yes. You could only buy 4 tickets at each attempt and I think there is something in the four ticket theory. Are four of them going... and they have just said.. Oh we knew you couldn't get childcare (with only a year to go)

It's hard OP but maybe if they could have bought five they would have.

Glad to see you've dusted yourself off. Good luck with planning some nice days out for yourself and also some with your DC.

It will be old news next week and as I said, Noel and Liam will probs return to playing separately again.. New music with just a few of the old Oasis tracks thrown in. It will still be good to go to.