To be angry

I’m guessing it’s the fact that she doesn’t like oasis and nothing deeper. It was very hard to get tickets, and they were super expensive,, it probably didn’t occur to them that she’d be interested. Plus the whole childcare thing.

My dad and siblings are into sports and I’m not, they’re forever going to games and matches together without inviting me. I don’t care because it’s not my thing.

When everybody was getting the tickets I wasn’t even considered as I wouldn’t have childcare

@Guinesss I get it.

It's not even really about the concert, is it?

It's the fact they've all been somewhere you weren't able to go, without you.

It's crap of them. I hope you weren't bombarded with Snapchats or anything thoughtless from them. My sister did that with Luke Combs - we'd all tried to get tickets and none of us could - we usually go to concerts together and we all go on and try to get, whoever gets in first lets the other know - anuway, we all missed out, but then her husband got 4 from a supplier and rarher than offer them to us, they took their son and his GF.

We'd come to terms with that but then on the night she sent me about 60,000 videos
.... salt, meet wounds

@Zov No the OP's ex isn't responsible for HER, but he IS responsible for his children. Obviously preferred to fuck off out to a concert, to being with his children. And in doing so, he made sure the OP - the mother of his children - couldn't go to said concert with her family, which was also a big family celebration. He is absolute, selfish, thoughtless, bell end

You missed out the bit that it was not his scheduled contact time. He didn’t fuck his children off to go to a concert! He was not scheduled to have the children, OP was. Do you also think OP should never go anywhere/do anything on her childfree days where her ex-DH is scheduled to have the kids, or she would be a selfish, thoughtless bell-end, or is this only relevant one way for men?

I just wanted to be with my family on a special occasion

But if you dont like Oasis why do you think it is a special occasion?

They are going to see a band you dont like. Its not a birthday, wedding or anniversary!

Yes, I wouldn’t have gone instead of anybody, I just know if it was the other way around I wouldn’t want somebody to feel left out

Misogyny is alive and well on this thread. 🙄

No the OP's ex isn't responsible for HER, but he IS responsible for his children. Obviously preferred to fuck off out to a concert, to being with his children. And in doing so, he made sure the OP - the mother of his children - couldn't go to said concert with her family, which was also a big family celebration. He is absolute, selfish, thoughtless, bell end.

And yes I KNOW he didn't go with her family FFS!

But yeah, he is the arsehole here.

Seriously, this fucking thread. 🙄 No wonder more and more women are choosing to remain child free. When women have children, they get fucked over left right and centre, and come second to EVERYone! (Especially when they have school age children!)

If it is your mum, why is your ex-husband going meaning that you can't? Did I understand that correctly?

Yes they just said you will have the kids so you can’t come which was annoying. Oh well

I wouldn’t have took it, I suppose I just wouldn’t want my child to feel left out

You arent bothered about the band. The tickets are very expensive, your mum probably called it her big birthday celebration so she didnt feel bad about spending the money and as she couldn't justify additional celebration. Your family know the dynamic and that you have no other childcare.

Sounds like you are a close family. Yes it is disappointing you can't go but dont twist it into something your mum should feel guilty about. Mums give themselves enough mum guilt.

Bake a cake with the kids and have them all over for tea and cake the morning of the concert or take your mum for lunch a different day when your sibling or dad can babysit.

Is she?

I don’t think mum should have gave up her ticket but maybe dad should have, or at least considered me. We aren’t all the same though

Er, no, OP is an adult, not a child.

I’m not even a huge fan, it’s just all my family are celebrating without me. I just think I should have been considered

Lol! By that logic her mum shouldn’t have gone and should have stayed with her child because it was her lifestyle choice to have the op.

I made the choice to have a child and that was your life style choice your mum is aloud to go to a concert without you your life style choices should not effect your mum's decision to go to concert or not

So all of my family are going to Oasis for my mums but I couldn’t go due to childcare, I would feel so bad as a parent leaving one of my children out and would probably not go myself. Maybe I am just being selfish and bitter because I am jealous.

Misogyny is alive and well on this thread. 🙄

No the OP's ex isn't responsible for HER, but he IS responsible for his children. Obviously preferred to fuck off out to a concert, to being with his children. And in doing so, he made sure the OP - the mother of his children - couldn't go to said concert with her family, which was also a big family celebration. He is absolute, selfish, thoughtless, bell end.

And yes I KNOW he didn't go with her family FFS!

But yeah, he is the arsehole here.

Seriously, this fucking thread. 🙄 No wonder more and more women are choosing to remain child free. When women have children, they get fucked over left right and centre, and come second to EVERYone! (Especially when they have school age children!)

Fine to feel jealous, but move on now. You know that didn’t sort other care options like a baby sitter or get a ticket anyway. Maybe do something fun yourself in the near future perhaps. I think it’s pretty standard procedure if you have kids that you won’t always make everything. Definitely don’t be petty and bitter and pull a face if anyone mentions how great the concert way.

Misogyny is alive and well on this thread. 🙄

No the OP's ex isn't responsible for HER, but he IS responsible for his children. Obviously preferred to fuck off out to a concert, to being with his children. And in doing so, he made sure the OP - the mother of his children - couldn't go to said concert with her family, which was also a big family celebration. He is absolute, selfish, thoughtless, bell end.

And yes I KNOW he didn't go with her family FFS!

But yeah, he is the arsehole here.

Seriously, this fucking thread. 🙄 No wonder more and more women are choosing to remain child free. When women have children, they get fucked over left right and centre, and come second to EVERYone! (Especially when they have school age children!)

Yeah this ... ^ I am gobsmacked by the responses on here, and the poll result. If I was the OP, I would feel like SHIT. I know you have put your children first la la fucking la, but the father of the OP's children hasn't stepped up to look after HIS CHILDREN while the OP goes to this concert with her family for her mum's birthday? HE is the arsehole here. I am so sorry @Guinesss but don't be mad at your family, be mad at your twat of an ex. I hope you can get past this. Sorry you feel so blue.