To be angry

Or wouldn't want to go as she doesn't like Oasis?

She wasn’t invited! They just presumed she couldn’t go.

If anything your ex should feel guilty more than your mum!

You havent been "left out", you were invited and cannot attend. 2 different things.

You obviously want your mum to look after your kids and give you her ticket which is a completely unreasonable ask, especially ad it appears this eventis for an occasion for your mum (although hard to tell as there are some words missing from "for my mums" )

I get the sentiment that sometimes it’s about just being asked and showing you’ve been thought of rather than the actual going. For being upset that you weren’t even offered the opportunity to join them YANBU.

For actually expecting them not to go because you couldn’t, especially when its something you’re not that into anyway YABU.

And thats the adult way to see the situation
The op sounds very childish

It's your mum's birthday it's a treat for her not for you.
It's a shame you can't go and I'm sure your mum would prefer it if you could but I see no reason why they shouldn't go and enjoy themselves.

Pay a childminder? If your family is your only childcare how do you expect to do things with them?

Exactly this , i was only saying the other day ive had one night out in 10 years i just dont have any childcare but thats the way it is
My mom was the same when we were growing up she never had nights out until we were older

Just because you have a cob on due to no childcare you think the rest of your family should miss out? Are you and adult or a sulky teenager? My 9 year old often has sulks like this when she doesnt get her own way.

I think it's really normal to feel a bit bitter and upset you can't go, especially if ex husband is going! Feels like if it's your mum he should have the kids so you can go.

Hope you can get in a better headspace and maybe throw an oasis party at home with the kids or do something nice so you don't feel you're missing out too much and still make a nice memory. Alexa! Play wonderwall!

If you have more than one kid they might end up arguing just like Liam and noel anyway!

Kids are so worth every sacrifice, but it doesn't mean you're going to relish every missed event.

YABU but it's understandable.

Be glad you family will be having a good time and enjoying themselves. Being jealous will just make you feel bad. Very negative. There will be lots of other things to do in life

Is there a history with you feeling left out??

The price of parenthood is high.
YABU to expect your family not to go though.

My family all went last week without me. It was pure bliss! I had a lovely pamper night and treated myself to champagne. No 3 hour journeys and standing for hours on end waiting for the dirty loo and getting beer sprayed on you for me!

You're not even a fan so why are you so bothered. Grow up. You sound like a spoilt brat.

When you have kids you sacrifice having the free time to do these things. Why should everyone else miss out just because you don't have childcare? You've had nearly a year to organise childcare and get a ticket (and yes, viagogo tickets do work -they're just expensive - I used them myself for Oasis last weekend)

Just tell your family to have a brilliant time, be happy for them, and be better prepared for any future events.

Was it really a "big family celebration" or did it happen that one of the shows was on your mum's birthday as a happy coincidence so they went on that day as an extra?

Tickets were like gold dust, and there was a maximum of four per household. Mum, Dad, brother, his partner.

If one person booked they would have been fighting to get ANY ticket, and couldn't have got you one anyway - unless you went in place of someone else.

My gut feeling is: parents and brother/partner are Oasis fans. When tour was announced they said "Let's go."

When tickets came out it was "Oh, look, it's your birthday! Cool!"

Limit was four, booked four for the four people who like them.

"Am I not invited?" "It's, Weds, you wouldn't be able to come, and you don't even like them."

This has now, in the Op's head, been turned into a "big family celebration" when the reality is that it happens to be on her mum's birthday.

My kids dad is going Saturday, I'm gutted because I was the one who got him into oasis LOL but he and his gf are going and I'm not, is what it is. I would loved to have went but couldn't afford those prices sadly 💔 both my kids have oasis inspired names, I have a live forever tattoo and seen both Gallaghers multiple times solo so that'll suffice 🤣

Completely ridiculous thread. You’ve said yourself you’re not even really a fan. You’re coming across as incredibly childish. You said you wouldn’t go somewhere if one of your children was left out, but you’re not a child any more. You’re an adult with responsibilities. Your family, correctly, knew you wouldn’t have childcare. Do you expect them to all stay at home because you can’t go? Bizarre.

I’m still shocked that she expected her dad (who actually bothered to get tickets), to miss it and babysit her kids so she (who didn’t bother getting a ticket) could go in his place.

Her mum and dad have probably been Oasis fans for thirty years, it might well have been their dream to go to see them together - and OP doesn’t even like them!

I feel like she’s still in the child stage of not seeing her parents as real people with their own interests.

Oh fair enough, I read it as she'd had to decline because she didn't have childcare and they were all going without her anyway and that's why she was bothered. People should always invite you even if they think it's unlikely you'll be able to come, otherwise you are being excluded which doesn't feel nice.

Yes because it's not his contact time!!! Maybe the OPs parents could have asked her when she's free to include her but this is nothing at all to do with the ex who is going out on a day when he has no responsibility for the kids. That would be equally true if it's a 50/50 arrangement or EOW.

It wasn’t her ex husband’s day to have the kids, so he made plans with how own partner.