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To be angry

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Guinesss · 16/07/2025 11:09

So all of my family are going to Oasis for my mums but I couldn’t go due to childcare, I would feel so bad as a parent leaving one of my children out and would probably not go myself. Maybe I am just being selfish and bitter because I am jealous.

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Overthebow · 16/07/2025 11:16

Yabu, you can’t seriously expect your family to miss out in seeing Oasis because you can’t go.

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Guinesss · 16/07/2025 11:16

Isittimeformynapyet · 16/07/2025 11:15

Are you talking about the band Oasis or an indoor water park type thing?

The band

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Isittimeformynapyet · 16/07/2025 11:15

Are you talking about the band Oasis or an indoor water park type thing?

Overthebow · 16/07/2025 11:15

Why can’t you use a babysitter?

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Guinesss · 16/07/2025 11:14

Zempy · 16/07/2025 11:13

Why don’t you have any childcare?

Because all of my childcare will be going. Yes I’ll suck it up, ex h is also going so he couldn’t have them. It is what it is.

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Zempy · 16/07/2025 11:13

Why don’t you have any childcare?

Greenbird88 · 16/07/2025 11:12

Yes, you’re selfish and bitter. Grow up and be happy for your mum enjoying her birthday doing something she’ll presumably enjoy.

wingingit1987 · 16/07/2025 11:12

I’ve missed out on all sorts due to having children- concerts, family events- even my mums wedding as she chose to go to vegas when I had a 6 week old. It’s just one of those things. My husband and I actually do a lot of things solo due to childcare. I remember we took turns of going to the cinema one day so we could each get a chance to see a new release. I don’t think I would expect anyone to miss a concert for me- especially something as big as the Oasis one.

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Guinesss · 16/07/2025 11:12

rubyslippers · 16/07/2025 11:11

you’d want your family to miss out on something because you can’t go
You’ve said you’re jealous - not a nice emotion

I just feel a bit rubbish that all of my family are out doing something and I can’t be there

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Noshadelamp · 16/07/2025 11:11

Your mum probably thinks you wouldn't want her to miss out just because you can't go.

Rubyshoes12 · 16/07/2025 11:11

Asssuming you and your mum are adults, you’re obviously being unreasonable

rubyslippers · 16/07/2025 11:11

you’d want your family to miss out on something because you can’t go
You’ve said you’re jealous - not a nice emotion