To be angry

It’s not nice feeling like you don’t exist.

It's not really about Oasis, it could have been a day at Alton Towers, or a fancy restaurant. The point was that your family didn't even give you the option to come up with something, it was just an instant "you aren't going". And your ex swanning off assuming being a woman = default parent. Both of which leave you feeling completely invisible and inconsidered.

Maybe take your mum somewhere just the two of you, nice meal or a spa afternoon?

Her ex is going entirely separately from her family. It wasn't his day to have the kids. It's got nothing to do with him.

Grow up!

I understand her ex husband is also going to oasis. It’s just her that is missing out.

Why do people bother posting if they don't read the OP and her updates?

You could only get 4 tickets at a time and millions missed out compared to how many signed up.
Sometimes it’s just one of the things you need to miss out on. I have friends jealous I do things spontaneously but I also don’t have the good sides to having children that they do.

At first I thought YBU, but having read your posts I dont think you are. It sounds like it was assumed you wouldnt go, rather than actually being asked, AND your exH is going, so he can't look after the children. This sounds off to me and it wouldn't happen in my family. My exH is a knob head but actually he does swap weekends and things and did swap recently so myself and my fiancé could go away for a week on a holiday my Mum and Dad paid for. And I wouldn't call him ExH of the year either. Sounds like your feelings haven't been taken into account by your own family and I bet this is not the first time. This isn't normal behaviour and if I were you I would be thinking about how I can build up my self esteem and friendship group. Your family should always have your back over your Ex.

Son, words fail me

I can’t believe you’re expecting them not to go because you can’t!!

This is good advice OP.

But remember "Eaten Bread is soon forgotten."
A week after this, it will all be done and dusted. You don't have to listen to them all going on about it.

Realistically, if they are going to Wembley and have seated tickets, unless they have the best seats in the house.. they will hardly be able to see tiny Noel and Liam. Really they will be watching the giant video screens. They might have a better view of the stage standing, but that will be intense and very very packed and in my experience usually full of very tall men. The sound may/may not be great but that won't matter because it will be drowned out by everyone else singing. Yes it will be a great atmosphere but its only a few hours. I think people will enjoy it but are you really a long term die hard Oasis fan? It will mean more to them.
Its more FOMO..

It's probably too late to get tickets now, unless you pay through the nose and you wouldn't be with them anyway unless you all managed to get standing anyway which are at a premium I hear.

Also... Why not plan your own fun things to do and look forward to.. If you are a music fan there are small festivals which are billed as "family friendly" (google them). It can be a lot of fun, like a mini holiday.

Also. Noel and Liam will also continue doing solo gigs after the reunion tour and those will also be good. Can start saving and planning now for those?

Is there another artist you'd really like to see touring in the future - start saving and get on the pre-release ticket sales list and then you will have a fun concert to look forward to. Plan your own treats, even if you have to save or wait for them and you won't feel so much like you are missing out.

I'd focus now on finding some useful childcare sources for emergencies that may crop up or for things you want to do. Is there another mum with similar age children you are friends with, that you could have a babysitting swap with? Or that you could team up with to do fun days out with the children with? Those days were some of the most fun we ever had and I'll never forget them.

I'm sorry they didn't get you a ticket and that you feel left out, don't let the situation get you down, but take charge of it. In a few weeks it will all be in the past and you will hopefully have made some new and exciting plans for your own fun times.

You arent bothered about the band. The tickets are very expensive, your mum probably called it her big birthday celebration so she didnt feel bad about spending the money and as she couldn't justify additional celebration. Your family know the dynamic and that you have no other childcare.

Sounds like you are a close family. Yes it is disappointing you can't go but dont twist it into something your mum should feel guilty about. Mums give themselves enough mum guilt.

Bake a cake with the kids and have them all over for tea and cake the morning of the concert or take your mum for lunch a different day when your sibling or dad can babysit.

Presumably the OP would have had a whole year to get to know and trust this random from an app. Or ya know find friends or responsible older kids of friends, or any number of possible babysitters.

@Guinesss yes I’m sure it stings but you also have agency here. Lots of time to get a ticket, find a babysitter, and make arrangements to go.

Welcome to life as a mother.

You clearly love your children more than everyone else @SunflowerLife 🙄

People obviously use this service, otherwise it wouldn't exist.

Ah ok. I hadn't seen this.

Is this a wind-up, and you’re actually one of the children upset that the adults are going? Because I can’t imagine someone old enough to be raising children to be behaving like this.

Read the fucking thread.

Sexism presumably. Couldn't expect HIM to miss out by looking after his own kids! Even though he's not even family anymore.

I get what you’re saying, it’s not about oasis, it’s not about a concert or childcare, it’s that it’s a birthday for your mum and whatever they were doing would sting for you not being able to be there to celebrate.
You aren’t being jealous or bitter, it seems like quite a deep hurt. Have you been left out before? Or generally feel less important than your brother? You’ve said so many times you wouldn’t feel comfortable doing it when you’re older.
Unfortunately, other people aren’t us, they don’t behave the same or have the same feelings. Just take from it that non of your children will feel like you do right now, you’ll likely go to the ends of the earth to make sure they don’t.

God, imagine leaving your kids with some random from an app. No way.

They probably didn't ask her because she isn't an Oasis fan so they wouldn't realise that she wanted to go!

Where is your kid’s dad in all of this?

Why can’t he look after his children?